In November of 2017, I suffered two unrelated minor injuries to my head. The first injury happened when I was unloading the dishwasher. After putting the plates away directly above the dishwasher, I failed to close the cabinet door, and bent over to get something else out of the dishwasher. When I rose, I banged the front top left of my head into the corner of the cabinet. It was extremely painful, but there was no blood, so I wasn't too worried about it. A few days later, I was laying on my loveseat with my Kindle Fire over head, it slipped out of my hand and hit me slightly above my right temple. When my headache didn't go away, and it was accompanied by facial pain from the left side to the right side around the eyes. I went to the doctor, and was referred to a neurologist. At about the same time, I was having what appeared to be gallbladder issues, and I was going in for tests for that as well. It is difficult to describe what I am feeling to specific doctors when they are not interested in all of my symptoms. All I knew is I had a bad headache that didn't go away, along with pain across my face, and severe pain between my abdomen and ribs on the right two to three hours after I ate. I was doing so poorly, I took a medical leave of absence from work. I finally had surgery on 18 February 2018, but the headache and facial pain continued. By the summer of 2018, I was still in much pain, and dealing with additional stress. My medical leave benefit was delayed by seven weeks, and I was forced to sell most of my things, so I wouldn't get evicted. I also started having symptoms similar to mold poisoning. My speech was slurred, I couldn't remember anything (worse than normal), and I got words confused (more than normal), I knew something was terribly wrong, but all I could do is report it to the neurologist. I was referred to a behavioral health center for educational testing. Perhaps in another post I will discuss that ordeal and those results, but for now back to the headaches. I went back to work in August 2018 still in pain. I worked the best that I could, but by the beginning of December it was unbearable, so I applied for another leave of absence, asked a co-worker if she could take over my contacts, and started doing more research on mold poisoning. They had tested my apartment during the summer, but having continual symptoms, I asked them to return to test again. Prior to my headaches, a tree had fell on my apartment two different times, and a lot of water came in to my office, living room, and attic area. So mold wasn't out of the question! The mold tests came back normal, and I wasn't any better, in fact, I was getting worse mentally. I learned that my father had passed away, so I said goodbye to closure, I started looking for a therapist to deal with my emotions, but appointments were months out. I even had one therapist tell me I needed to check into the hospital, get put on medication, and then she will see me. My anxiety was through the roof, and intrusive thoughts were telling me this life wasn't worth living. I knew it was, and I was determined to win this battle I was fighting. I kept calling, until I found someone to see me the next day, just in time. It was the behavioral health center I had been to earlier for testing. My doctor was a Godsend and I will forever be grateful for her saving my life. However, I was still having this headache and facial pain. I decided to go to an Ear, Nose & Throat (ENT) doctor because by now my ears started ringing (tinnitus). That visit turned up nothing—everything is "in range" —to me in range means nothing, if I was at the high end of something and now I am on the low end, how is that not a problem? An appointment to Mayo Clinic was set for May 2019. The neurologist and psychologist were having to send nearly weekly reports to my employer which for me was very stressful asking them to do that and providing them the forms. It was beginning to feel very unnecessary and out of the ordinary. Human Resources (HR) notified me at the beginning of April that my insurance would be discontinued 30 April. I was finally going to be able to see a specialist, and they are telling me I would no longer have insurance just prior to my appointment. I was upset, and the flippant suggestions from the HR agent did not sit well with me. Consequently, my work sent an officer to do a wellness check on me. Despite not being suicidal, what happened next is for another post. It turned out to be a valuable reminder to "know your audience." My representative for my medical leave left me a message that there was a mistake, and not to worry about my insurance, but at the time I didn't feel reassured. I was so tired of taking medicine that was having no affect on my pain, so I stopped taking it and didn't make any further appointments with the local neurologist when I learned she personally delayed my referral to Mayo Clinic. To my surprise, the symptoms I was experiencing similar to mold poisoning were caused by the medication the neurologist put me on—even though I was telling her on each visit my symptoms, she brushed me off. I was thankful the neurology department accepted me at Mayo Clinic—the headache specialist is world renowned in his field. I was filled with hope! My insurance wasn't terminated as promised and I was able to keep my appointment at Mayo Clinic. He did another MRI and started me on some different medication. In addition, my mental health was improving after I was prescribed medical marijuana by my primary care physician—all of my doctors thought it would help me a lot, which it has helped. I continued to see the specialist throughout 2019, and he diagnosed me with New Daily Persistent Headache (NDPH) and Empty Sella Syndrome (ESS). It takes time when trying new medicine, slowly building to the correct dose. There was only a slight decrease in pain, and with failure, it takes time to come off the medication as well. By February 2020, my psychologist agreed I was doing well and I could return anytime I needed. I also decided to stop seeing the specialist at Mayo Clinic. It was a two hour drive each way, the medication wasn't helping, and I was going to consider doing the Botox injections on the 2017 injury sites, but Covid-19 came before I made a final decision. I made a choice not to return to Mayo Clinic after the pandemic settled, even though my experience there was top-tier! I still live with the headache, facial pain, and tinnitus, but the THC/CBD does help when I am able to purchase it—it is pricy, but for me, it is well worth the cost. Although reading this post may cause you to have a headache, I truly hope this information will be valuable to someone that has been suffering without finding relief. New Daily Persistent Headache New Daily Persistent Headache (NDPH) is a unique type of chronic headache that begins suddenly and remains persistent from the very first day of onset. It is a challenging condition because the exact cause is often unknown, and it tends to be resistant to many traditional headache treatments. What is NDPH? Definition : NDPH is characterized by a headache that starts abruptly, with the affected person remembering the exact date it began. Unlike episodic headaches, it does not go away and persists daily. Duration : Lasts for over 3 months, but many cases persist for years. Symptoms Headache Characteristics : Can feel like a tension-type headache (mild to moderate, with pressure-like pain) or a migraine (throbbing, with nausea, light/sound sensitivity). Bilateral (on both sides of the head) or unilateral (on one side). Other Symptoms : Often accompanied by fatigue, insomnia, or difficulty concentrating due to the constant nature of the pain. Possible Causes and Triggers The exact cause of NDPH is unknown, but it is often associated with: Infections : Viral illnesses or respiratory infections may precede the onset. Stressful Events : Physical or emotional stress, including surgery or trauma. Autoimmune or Inflammatory Conditions : Some cases may involve underlying conditions affecting blood vessels or the immune system. Other Triggers : Some patients report the onset following minor injuries or significant life changes. Diagnosis NDPH is diagnosed based on clinical history and exclusion of other causes. Common diagnostic steps include: Medical History : Identifying when the headache began and its daily persistence. Imaging Tests : MRI or CT scans may rule out structural brain issues. Blood Tests : To identify potential infections or autoimmune conditions. Treatment Treatment can be complex and varies from person to person. Options include: Medications : Preventive medications like antidepressants, anticonvulsants, or beta-blockers. Acute treatments for symptom relief, such as NSAIDs or triptans (though these are often less effective in NDPH). Lifestyle Modifications : Stress management techniques, including mindfulness, yoga, or therapy. Adequate sleep, hydration, and regular exercise. Other Therapies : Nerve blocks or botulinum toxin (Botox) injections in some cases. Behavioral therapy for managing chronic pain. Experimental Treatments : Intravenous therapies or neuromodulation devices (like transcranial magnetic stimulation) for severe cases. Living with NDPH NDPH can significantly impact quality of life due to its persistent nature. Support groups, counseling, and working closely with headache specialists are vital for managing the condition effectively. Empty Sella Syndrome Empty Sella Syndrome (ESS) is a condition involving the sella turcica, a small, bony structure in the skull that houses the pituitary gland. The pituitary gland plays a critical role in regulating hormones that control various body functions. In ESS, the sella turcica appears empty on imaging scans because the pituitary gland has shrunk or been compressed. Types of Empty Sella Syndrome Primary ESS : Often caused by increased pressure in the brain or a defect in the diaphragm sella (a thin membrane that normally holds the pituitary gland in place). More common in middle-aged, overweight women and may not have noticeable symptoms. Secondary ESS : Results from damage to the pituitary gland due to surgery, radiation, tumors, or injury. Associated with a loss of some pituitary function. Symptoms Some people with ESS experience no symptoms, especially in primary ESS. However, symptoms may include: Hormonal Imbalances : Issues such as irregular periods, low libido, or infertility. Headaches : Frequent or severe headaches are a common complaint. Vision Problems : Compression of the optic nerve can lead to blurred vision or visual field loss. Fatigue and Weakness : Caused by hormone deficiencies. Other Symptoms : Dizziness, nausea, or symptoms related to other endocrine disorders. Causes and Risk Factors Defects in the diaphragm sella. Obesity and high blood pressure, which may increase cerebrospinal fluid (CSF) pressure. History of pituitary surgery, radiation, or trauma. Diagnosis ESS is typically diagnosed through imaging studies like MRI or CT scans. Blood tests may also be done to evaluate pituitary hormone levels. Treatment Treatment depends on the presence of symptoms or hormonal deficiencies: No Symptoms : Often no treatment is needed if hormone levels are normal. Hormonal Imbalances : Hormone replacement therapy is commonly prescribed. Severe Symptoms : Surgery might be necessary in rare cases, particularly for vision problems or to repair a CSF leak. Living with ESS For many people, ESS is a manageable condition, especially if it does not cause significant symptoms. Regular monitoring of hormone levels and overall health is essential. Conclusion If you suffer from headaches, maybe this post can help you! I used to suffer from severe migraines in my thirties, and by my mid forties, I narrowed my trigger down to eating onions. It really shouldn't have taken that long, but I can only do so much and I was dealing with a lot back then, too. It is also important to drink plenty of water! The recommended amount is around 3 - 4 liters with a lot of different variables such as age, gender, activity level and more. Fluid intake helps in a lot of ways—another post idea! Headaches can really be debilitating, and can be a symptom of something serious. It is best to seek medical advice if your headaches are affecting your daily life. The cause of my persistent headache, facial pain, and tinnitus is still unknown. Could it stem from when I hit my head back in 2017 or symptoms related to ESS or some other undiagnosed disease. On a scale of zero - ten, many times the pain is minimal about a two to four and other times the pain can be moderate around a six or seven. Mostly, I overlook it, and it is just something that's there—I have now lived with this pain seven years. I wake with it, I live my daily life with it, and I fall asleep with it. I live with a lot of pain, besides this headache, that nobody sees—God knows I'm not complaining. Romans 8:18 "I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us."

In the vast landscape of literature, French authors and poets have left an indelible mark with their evocative words that resonate through time. Let us look into the captivating lives and works of some of France's literary giants—Victor Hugo, Charles Baudelaire, Marcel Proust, and Marguerite Duras, Victor Hugo Introduction Victor Hugo, a luminary in French literature, is renowned for crafting masterpieces like Les Misérables and The Hunchback of Notre-Dame . Known for his Romantic style, Hugo's writings often explored themes of morality, social justice, and the human condition. Biographical Information Birth and Death: February 26, 1802 - May 22, 1885 (Besançon, France) Family Background: Born to a royalist and military family, Hugo's upbringing instilled in him a sense of duty and honor. Education: Hugo's early life was marked by tragedy, losing his mother at a young age. Nevertheless, he went on to receive an excellent education that fostered his literary talents. Personal Life Influential Events: Hugo's exile for political reasons greatly influenced his writing, adding depth and urgency to his works. Relationships: Hugo was closely associated with prominent artists and writers of his time, contributing to his intellectual growth. Challenges: Hugo faced mental health struggles and societal upheavals, which often manifested in his writing. Literary Career Hugo's writing journey was illustrious, marked by: Milestones: Publication of Les Misérables and The Hunchback of Notre-Dame . Notable Works: His repertoire includes poetry, plays, and novels, demonstrating his versatility. Awards: Hugo's contributions earned him accolades, solidifying his place in literary history. Quotes and Excerpts "Even the darkest night will end, and the sun will rise." - Victor Hugo This excerpt from Les Misérables embodies Hugo's belief in hope and redemption, themes central to his writing. Legacy Hugo's works remain relevant today, transcending time with their universal themes. Adaptations of his novels into films and plays continue to captivate audiences worldwide, showcasing the enduring appeal of his narratives. Fun Facts or Anecdotes Hugo possessed a unique habit of writing in the nude to combat procrastination, demonstrating his eccentric yet effective writing process. Charles Baudelaire Introduction Charles Baudelaire, famous for Les Fleurs du mal , is considered one of the most influential poets in French literature. His poems delve into the complexities of human nature, beauty, and decadence. Biographical Information Birth and Death: April 9, 1821 - August 31, 1867 (Paris, France) Family Background: Baudelaire's tumultuous family life and early exposure to art nurtured his artistic sensibilities. Education: Despite a privileged upbringing, Baudelaire's education was marred by rebellious tendencies and a fascination with unconventional ideas. Personal Life Influential Events: Baudelaire's encounters with fellow poets and artists shaped his poetic vision and style. Relationships: His association with the Symbolist movement influenced his approach to poetry. Challenges: Baudelaire faced criticism and controversy due to the provocative nature of his poetry, testing his resilience as an artist. Literary Career Baudelaire's poetic journey was characterized by: Milestones: Publication of Les Fleurs du mal , a groundbreaking work that challenged societal norms. Notable Works: Baudelaire's poetry reflects a fusion of romanticism and symbolism, creating a unique and evocative style. Awards: Despite enduring criticism, Baudelaire's legacy as a poetic trailblazer remains undisputed. Quotes and Excerpts "The loveliest trick of the Devil is to persuade you that he does not exist!" - Charles Baudelaire This haunting line from Les Fleurs du mal encapsulates Baudelaire's fascination with the darker aspects of human existence. Legacy Baudelaire's exploration of beauty, melancholy, and desire continues to resonate in modern poetry, inspiring generations of poets. The enduring allure of his verses attests to the timelessness of his themes. Fun Facts or Anecdotes Baudelaire had a penchant for exotic perfumes, a sensory indulgence that often found its way into his poetic descriptions, adding a unique olfactory dimension to his works. Marcel Proust Introduction Marcel Proust, renowned for In Search of Lost Time , is celebrated for his intricate exploration of memory, love, and societal intricacies. His prose style is characterized by its introspective and philosophical nature. Biographical Information Birth and Death: July 10, 1871 - November 18, 1922 (Auteuil, France) Family Background: Proust's affluent upbringing and close-knit family influenced his artistic sensibilities and worldview. Education: Despite health challenges, Proust's education and exposure to high society provided rich material for his writing. Personal Life Influential Events: Proust's unrequited love and his struggles with social acceptance greatly informed his magnum opus. Relationships: Proust's connections with intellectuals and artists of his time shaped his literary vision. Challenges: Proust battled with chronic health issues and societal expectations, imparting a sense of urgency to his writing. Literary Career Proust's literary odyssey involved: Milestones: Completion of the monumental In Search of Lost Time , a work that redefined the genre of the novel. Notable Works: His intricate prose and psychological depth captivated readers, solidifying his reputation as a literary giant. Awards: Proust's contributions garnered critical acclaim, positioning him as a leading voice in modernist literature. Quotes and Excerpts "We don't receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us." - Marcel Proust This profound reflection encapsulates Proust's philosophy on self-discovery and the transformative power of experience. Legacy Proust's exploration of memory, time, and consciousness continues to intrigue scholars and readers, resonating with existential inquiries that transcend the confines of his era. Adaptations of his works into various media attest to the enduring relevance of his narratives. Fun Facts or Anecdotes Proust was known for his meticulous daily routine, which included writing in bed while surrounded by cork-lined walls to block out distractions, a quirky habit that emphasized his dedication to his craft. Marguerite Duras Introduction Marguerite Duras, acclaimed for The Lover , was a pioneering novelist whose works explored themes of love, desire, and colonialism. Her prose style is marked by its emotional intensity and lyrical quality. Biographical Information Birth and Death: April 4, 1914 - March 3, 1996 (Gia-Dinh, French Indochina) Family Background: Duras's upbringing in colonial Indochina and her multicultural heritage shaped her identity and narrative voice. Education: Duras's education in France exposed her to new ideas and experiences that enriched her writing. Personal Life Influential Events: Duras's tumultuous personal relationships and her experiences in Indochina deeply influenced her literary themes and narratives. Relationships: Duras's association with avant-garde artists and her involvement in feminist movements influenced her writing style. Challenges: Duras faced societal constraints and political turmoil, themes that feature prominently in her works, reflecting her personal struggles. Literary Career Duras's literary trajectory included: Milestones: Publication of The Lover and other works that showcased her unique blend of autobiographical elements and fictional narratives. Notable Works: Duras's novels and screenplays captured the complexities of human relationships and societal hierarchies, garnering critical acclaim. Awards: Her contributions to literature earned her prestigious recognitions, affirming her position as a trailblazing author. Quotes and Excerpts "The most important moments are those any movie of a life would leave out." - Marguerite Duras This reflection from Duras's writings captures her penchant for exploring the ineffable nuances of human experience that transcend conventional narratives. Legacy Duras's poignant explorations of love, memory, and identity continue to resonate with audiences, inspiring adaptations of her works into films and plays that amplify the emotional depth of her narratives. Discussions surrounding her feminist perspectives and postcolonial themes underscore the enduring relevance of her storytelling. Fun Facts or Anecdotes Duras was known for her love of cats, often featuring feline characters in her works as symbols of independence and mystery, reflecting her own enigmatic persona. Conclusion Discover the timeless works of Victor Hugo, Charles Baudelaire, Marcel Proust, and Marguerite Duras, each a cornerstone of French literature. Their stories and poetry offer profound insights into the human experience, capturing a wide range of emotions and ideas. Immerse yourself in their worlds and let their storytelling inspire and enlighten, as French literature continues to offer a unique window into both history and the universal human spirit. Laissez-vous emporter par la richesse de la littérature française.

The world outside drifts into stillness, but the mind remains awake. Its thoughts tangled in the quiet, fingers tracing invisible paths where sleep cannot follow. The clock ticks, each second an echo of moments I cannot touch, eyes heavy yet alert, waiting for rest that slips through fingers—like water, knowing it's refreshing, but impossible to hold. At last asleep, but the eyes open before the world stirs, the hours before dawn stretch endlessly. Whispers of dreams fading away too soon, the stillness no longer a comfort but a taunt. The silence feels hollow, as though the night left its task undone. The comfort of the sheets now feels confining, each turn a reminder of time slipping away. I have heard all my life that I don't get enough sleep. In my teens and twenties, I only slept about two hours a night. When I was in my thirties, I was only sleeping three hours a night. In my forties, I was up to four hours, and starting in my fifties and now in my sixties, I sleep anywhere from four to six hours. I am never really exhausted in the day, but sometimes I sleep to pass the time—many hours of being awake is a lot of time to fill. I naturally wake and rise as soon as my eyes open. Although I don't fall asleep easily, and sometimes I am awake 24 to 48 hours at a stretch, the environment doesn't seem to make a difference in my sleep patterns. I can sleep in the dark or when the lights are bright. It doesn't matter if there is noise or if it is completely quiet. My sleeping habits may be extreme and complicated by many variables, however, many people throughout the world are unable to get a good night's rest. Trouble sleeping is a common experience that can stem from various factors, such as stress, lifestyle changes, or underlying health issues. While occasional sleeplessness doesn’t necessarily indicate a medical condition, persistent difficulties might suggest insomnia. Insomnia is a sleep disorder characterized by difficulty falling asleep, staying asleep, or waking up too early and being unable to return to sleep. To meet the clinical criteria for insomnia, symptoms must occur at least three times a week for at least three months and significantly impair daytime functioning or quality of life, according to diagnostic guidelines like those from the American Academy of Sleep Medicine (AASM) a professional society focused exclusively on sleep medicine. According to the AASM, children aged three to five years need 10 to 13 hours of sleep per day, including naps. For children aged six to twelve years, 9 to 12 hours of sleep is recommended. Teenagers should aim for 8 to 10 hours of sleep daily, while adults are advised to get at least 7 hours of sleep each night. Distinguishing between temporary sleep disruptions and insomnia often requires a closer look at patterns and contributing factors, typically assessed through sleep diaries, patient interviews, and, in some cases, sleep studies. Understanding these nuances is vital to identifying appropriate strategies or treatments to address the underlying issues. If you’re struggling with insomnia, there are strategies that may help you fall asleep. Establish a Consistent Sleep Schedule Go to bed and wake up at the same time every day, even on weekends. This helps regulate your body's internal clock. Create a Relaxing Bedtime Routine Engage in calming activities before bed, such as reading, listening to soothing music, or taking a warm bath. Avoid stimulating activities like watching TV or scrolling on your phone. Optimize Your Sleep Environment Keep your bedroom dark, quiet, and cool. Consider blackout curtains, earplugs, or a white noise machine if needed. Limit Stimulants and Heavy Meals Avoid caffeine, nicotine, and large meals at least 4–6 hours before bedtime. Opt for a light snack if you're hungry. Exercise Regularly Regular physical activity can promote better sleep, but avoid vigorous exercise close to bedtime. Limit Screen Time Avoid screens (phones, tablets, TVs) at least an hour before bed, as blue light can interfere with your ability to fall asleep. Practice Relaxation Techniques Techniques like deep breathing, meditation, progressive muscle relaxation, or visualization can help calm your mind and body. Avoid Long Naps If you nap, keep it short (20–30 minutes) and early in the afternoon to avoid disrupting your nighttime sleep. Limit Alcohol While alcohol may make you feel sleepy initially, it can disrupt your sleep cycle later in the night. Get Out of Bed if You Can’t Sleep If you’ve been lying awake for 20–30 minutes, get up and do a quiet, relaxing activity until you feel sleepy again. If you're looking for techniques to help with falling asleep beyond the general strategies above, here are some classic and lighthearted, but effective approaches for distracting your mind and relaxing into sleep. Don't discard these tactics before trying each for a few days. These methods can help direct your focus away from stressors and lead you to a more relaxed state, making it easier to drift into sleep. Counting Sheep : Visualize sheep jumping over a fence while counting them slowly. The repetitive nature can help calm the mind. Visualize each sheep in a calming way, such as imagining them in a peaceful pasture. This adds a layer of mental relaxation to the repetitive task. While you count, inhale deeply for each count and exhale as you imagine the sheep jumping over the fence. This can enhance the relaxation response. If counting up to a high number starts feeling overwhelming, try counting backwards from 20 to 1, which can have a more soothing effect on your mind. Deep Breathing : Try the 4-7-8 technique: inhale for 4 seconds, hold your breath for 7 seconds, and exhale slowly for 8 seconds. Count the seconds to yourself. Counting helps ensure you follow the timing correctly for each phase (inhale, hold, exhale), which is key to its effectiveness in calming your nervous system and promoting relaxation. It is important to stay patient, as deep breathing techniques often take some practice to truly have a calming effect on the nervous system. It’s best to try this method for at least 4 to 5 repetitions before deciding whether it’s effective or not. If you’re still struggling to relax or fall asleep, this particular method may not be right for you. Progressive Muscle Relaxation : Starting from your toes, tense each muscle group for a few seconds, then relax them, moving upwards through your body. Starting with your toes, continue through each muscle group—feet, calves, thighs, buttocks, abdomen, chest, arms, neck, and face. As you tense the muscles, focus on the feeling of tightness and hold it for a few seconds. Then, as you relax, shift your attention to the sense of release and relaxation flowing through the muscles. Inhale as you tense the muscles and exhale as you relax them. With each exhale, try to mentally say “relax” and visualize the tension flowing out of the muscles and into the ground. Mental Visualization : Picture a peaceful scene, like a beach or forest, and focus on the details—sounds, colors, and sensations. You are lying on a soft towel on a warm, sandy beach. The sun gently warms your skin as a light breeze carries the fresh scent of the ocean. You can hear the rhythmic sound of waves lapping at the shore, blending with the occasional cry of a distant seagull. As you visualize this, say to yourself "The waves are steady, each one slower and gentler than the last. I breathe in with the rise of the wave and out as it recedes. "The sun is warm, the breeze cool, and my body feels light and relaxed."  Let the scene unfold naturally, allowing yourself to become fully immersed in this calm, peaceful place. Alphabet Game : Choose a category (e.g., animals, fruits) and go through the alphabet naming one item per letter. Animals: antelope, bear, cat, dog... As you go through the alphabet, try to picture each animal in your mind. Visualize their movement, size, and environment to make the game more calming and immersive. Word Game : Think of any word (e.g. Thomas, plant, chair) and starting with the first letter, name as many words as you can think of that start with that letter before moving on to the next letter. Thomas: T - trick, tree, top, toes, tornado... H - hope, holiday, heavy... O - open, occasion, orphan... Focus on keeping the words simple and letting them flow naturally—don't overthink it. The goal is to gently occupy your mind with something repetitive and soothing to help you relax Story Creation : Create a calming story in your mind, acting as both the narrator and participant. In this method, you narrate the story to yourself in detail. Imagine you're walking through a peaceful forest. The sun is gently filtering through the trees, creating dappled light on the path. As you walk, you notice the soft crunch of leaves under your feet and the distant sound of a babbling brook. You come across a cozy wooden cabin surrounded by flowers. You step inside, finding a comfortable chair by the window where you can sit and watch the gentle sway of the trees outside. You take a deep breath and feel the tranquility of the moment wash over you. As you narrate the story, picture yourself as the participant, carrying out each movement and observing every detail. Focus on the sensory details (sight, sound, smell, touch) to make it vivid and engaging, helping to calm your mind and ease into sleep. Over the years, my sleep patterns have shifted from just two hours in my younger years to somewhere between four and six hours now. It's not the amount of sleep most people need, but after consulting with doctors throughout the years, to give others peace of mind, it is what is best for me. I have found some of the relaxation methods have helped me clear my mind and fall asleep faster—if I can remember to use them. Improving sleep might involve small changes such as sticking to a consistent sleep schedule, trying relaxation exercises, or limiting screen time before bed. Sometimes those tweaks can make a significant difference. However, if these strategies and tips don’t help and insomnia persists, consider consulting a healthcare professional to rule out underlying conditions like sleep apnea or anxiety disorders. I have always said sleep was a waste of time, but research shows that sleep is beneficial to our overall health. However, too much sleep, also known as hypersomnia, can have negative effects. I am working on a post that will cover both the benefits and potential harms of sleep. It really comes down to balance—in the case of sleep, one size doesn't fit all. In my experience, finding the right solution can take time and patience, but over time, it is possible to find a sleep routine that suits your body’s needs. Proverbs 3:24 "When you lie down, you will not be afraid; when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet."

I am planning my first real outing this coming Sunday. Ever since the community yard sale a few weeks back, I have been trying to figure out how I can sell the things I have left and more. Living in a gated community, I can't just put up signs and advertise a yard sale. I thought, maybe I could set up in an empty parking lot on a Sunday. However, I knew I couldn't do that, I'd be afraid I'd get in trouble in some way, and it wouldn't be very safe being alone. I have about two weeks to raise about two hundred dollars. I've been praying about it, and then suddenly, an event popped up—a junk in the trunk sale. I've learned Brown's Junk In The Trunk Sale is typically held the first Saturday of every month, but they are having a special event on Sunday, 24 November 2024. This works out perfectly for my needs! I am a bit nervous since I have never participated as a seller in anything like this, but my thirty minute outing each day has prepared me. The community sale was a good trial run to spontaneously interact with others. Except, this event is listed on Facebook with about two hundred and sixty going, and three point nine thousand people signed up as interested. Yes, that is correct, nearly four thousand. I understand a good portion, although interested, won't attend, but I am ready if they do! The weather looks like it will be perfect! They anticipate over two hundred and fifty sellers, and a variety of food trucks. Set up is from 6:00 AM - 8:30 AM with shopping open to the public from 9:00 AM - 2:00 PM. They ask sellers to stay for the entirety which is understandable, particularly for safety reasons. It couldn't be easier to be a seller, especially for me—no registration is required! This means if I wake up on Sunday, terrified or overanxious, I simply don't have to go. This truly relieves so much pressure, and I am feeling confident I will be able to load up my car and make the short trip. It is like God put this event together just for me. What are the chances that I share the same last name as this event host? The special date that falls just in time for me to meet my financial need for this month is amazing. Not having to pre-register and photos that clearly show the area does take away the overthinking and confusion that would surely be in my head. The proximity to my house—only a ten minute drive, and just a small $15 set up fee for my car and tables, clearly indicates my prayers were answered. As I was writing this post, I was looking at the photos on their website to get familiar with every bit that I could. It only took a short time to reach out to the host, and ask permission to use the overhead photo above. This may seem like nothing, but it is truly a breakthrough! Previously, intrusive thoughts would have prevented me from reaching out, even after trying to muster up courage. It feels really good to continue progress and reach my goals. I hope the momentum can continue and I will be able to pass out some of my blog cards while I am selling! I am really excited. This Sunday, it is free to shop and park from 9:00 AM - 2:00 PM, and they ask sellers to remain for the entirety. I already know that part won't be a problem for me. Their regular monthly event—every first Saturday—has setup for sellers from 5:00 AM to 7:30 AM with free parking and shopping from 7:30 AM - 1:00 PM. This means that I will have a place for an outing at least once a month! This will be perfect for me in so many ways! I look forward to writing a follow up post about my first experience as a seller! You can find out more information about this event on Facebook: Brown's Junk In The Trunk Sale  Ecclesiastes 3:1, 6 "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: ... a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away."

Today, I ventured out of the house at 6:30 AM. It was a brisk 40º F, but I didn't let it deter me. I already had chosen my close the day before, and laid them out. The thought of needing to find something else for the cool morning. knowing it would warm up, immediately created anxiety, so with no further thought I wore what I selected, and squashed any anxious feelings. It stayed cool for a couple of hours, but I was so busy setting up, I hardly felt it—or I was just too numb from the cold to notice! I ended up with a little bit of a sunburn which I did not anticipate with temps in the low to mid 70º range! According to Brown's Junk In The Trunk Sale  Facebook, there were 277 sellers—yours truly was one of them! I was happy with where I ended up. I was about midway on what looked like the third aisle from the last. I think there was about eight aisles with vendors on both sides of the aisle. After observing for seven hours, I can see how being next to someone could make it a long day or make it the best time ever! It is really pot luck who you end up beside, but I don't have any worries. I really like the set up process! I missed that black lab busy taking photos! It was really organized, and the person taking my money at the entrance made it really clear where I was to go, and what I was to look for, I must have had that look, cause I didn't say anything, but thankful how detailed and reassuring she was in her directions! She even came by a couple of times, asked how I was doing, and thanked me for coming. I also saw the person that gave me permission to use the photo in the last post, but she was in a hurry at the start, and I didn't want to bother her. I had some of my blog cards to hand out, and I am very proud to say I handed out about 50 of them. I just have 25 left of the originals, and about 75 of the second batch. I hope someday, I can order the third and final batch—the ones with my name on them! I think once the blog gets completely away from my GoFundMe, and I more guest writers submit their own story or whatever they want, I will have more confidence directing others to it. The end goal is to have a place that others can come for their own purpose. It took a lot of courage to hand the cards out, and just after I set up, and was ready for it to open to the public, I saw a nice lady walking by with some Halloween yard decoration. I mustered up all the courage I could, stopped her, told her I started a blog, and asked her if I could give her a card. She graciously accepted, and I was very thankful! It gave me the courage to keep asking others. It turns out, she was set up on the next aisle over, but next to me! At the end of the sale, I thanked her for accepting my card and chatted for a moment about the blog and my experience. There was a nice couple next to me that made signage from used Kentucky bourbon barrels. They were really cool looking. I learned a lot about her craft and about the couple just overhearing the discussions with other customers. I spoke briefly with them at the end, and exchanged cards. They are considering mail order and that is a great idea since they are a unique item—even with shipping cost, I think people will buy! You can see their items, and maybe even catch them at a craft show near you! Check out their new business page on Facebook and give her a like Bourbon Beach Girl Reclaimed Kentucky Bourbon Barrel Staves. Another couple I met, the woman does counseling with inmates! In talking with her, we had a lot in common, including our standing on the zodiac—Gemini! I really hope she will submit some writings. I think she has a lot to say that could be really helpful to others. It is weird how she was the only one I actually suggested she write, and I asked before I knew anything about her. This blog would be a great place for her insights! Honestly, I hope some of the other people I spoke with or handed a card to will submit something . I talked to a lot of people, which anyone who has met me knows I talk a lot! I tried to be considerate of their time, but sometimes I forget! I loved hearing how someone's day was going, and learn about some of their finds! Many people had those soft sided foldable wagons which seemed pretty helpful instead of carrying their treasures! I would be happy to buy things used—I would really like to buy a chair set for my front porch. Perhaps it isn't needed, in the sense of food or air, but I would like to have a place to sit outside when I invite a neighbor or friend (in the future) over! Whether selling or buying, I will certainly come back because it was a great experience! As a buyer, I would feel comfortable walking around alone and even chatting with others. As a seller, I don't have that many things, and I am still selling on Marketplace. I may not sell at the Junk in My Trunk sale again, but I need to carefully consider it as I have two bills due on the 8th! The event is typically held on the first Saturday of each month. All the stuff leftover is still in my car, so potentially it would be easy to pay the fee and set up one more time, on 7 December 2024! I have some more items to unpack, also! I have two weeks to decide! The main point is that I did it today! Yay me! Matthew 6:19 "Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. _________________________________________ This is how God watches over me. I was so thirsty after I packed up from the sale, and knew it would just be 15 minutes until I was home. Once I was on the road heading home, I noticed my back door was ajar. I remembered a gas station on the corner where I had to turn, so I pulled in to close my door and, since I was there, get a drink. I really didn't want to spend any of my profit, but decided I would spend $5 on two drinks—I was that thirsty. After looking the drinks over, and being in the cool, I opted for only one drink. As I approached the counter, I saw the scratch off lottery tickets. After calculating the cost of the drink and a $2 ticket, several times, I quietly yelled at the intrusive thoughts and chose which number ticket I wanted—I was going to choose my age, but something told me to choose 51 instead—so I did. When I got home, I put the ticket on my kitchen counter, and passed by it several times wanting to find out, but not wanting to be disappointed since the $2 could have been spent for food or any number of things. I was already trying to close my eyes for the night, and I got up, and convinced myself that the ticket needed to be scratched off today, not tomorrow or any other day. I opened my desk and there lay a nickel with "In God We Trust" along the front side. After reading the directions, I slowly scratched each part. In the end, although I was one symbol away from a $100 win, I was more than satisfied to win $5—now I don't have to beat myself up for carelessly spending money I really didn't have! Thank you, God! Lamentations 3:25 "The Lord is good to those whose hope is in him."

Sleep is essential for maintaining both physical and mental health, but achieving the right balance can be challenging. Too little sleep can leave you feeling irritable and unwell, while too much sleep may have its own negative impacts. In this post, I'll explore the effects of both insufficient and excessive sleep, shedding light on why finding a balance is key to overall well-being. How much sleep is the right amount for you? Sleep recommendation guidelines were established to promote optimal health and are supported by the American Academy of Sleep Medicine (AASM) and the National Institutes of Health (NIH) for various age groups. Preschool-aged children (3–5 years):  10–13 hours per day, including naps. School-aged children (6–12 years):  9–12 hours per day. Teenagers (13–18 years):  8–10 hours per day. Adults (18 years and older):  At least 7 hours per night. Both organizations emphasize the importance of regular sleep patterns to maintain physical and mental well-being. The Cost of Skipped Rest Many people feel that sleep is a waste of time, particularly in cultures that emphasize productivity and achievement. The sentiment often comes from the perception that time spent sleeping could be used for work, hobbies, or other activities. However, this perspective overlooks the critical role sleep plays in physical health, mental well-being, and overall productivity. Sleep is essential for brain function, including memory consolidation, decision-making, and problem-solving. Chronic sleep deprivation can lead to significant health issues such as heart disease, diabetes, weakened immunity, and mental health challenges like depression or anxiety. Ironically, skipping sleep to "get more done" often leads to decreased focus, efficiency, and creativity, undermining the very goal of maximizing productivity. I've listed some common indicators to consider. Physical Symptoms Fatigue:  Feeling tired even after waking up. Drowsiness:  Falling asleep during the day or struggling to stay awake, especially during sedentary activities. Weakened Immune System:  Getting sick more frequently. Poor Coordination:  Experiencing clumsiness or slower reaction times. Headaches:  Waking up with or frequently experiencing headaches. Mental and Cognitive Signs Memory Issues:  Trouble recalling information or focusing. Difficulty Concentrating:  Struggling to stay focused on tasks or conversations. Slower Thinking:  Reduced ability to process and respond to information quickly. Impaired Decision-Making:  Poor judgment or making impulsive choices. Emotional and Behavioral Symptoms Irritability:  Feeling easily annoyed or angry. Mood Swings:  Experiencing sudden or unexplained emotional changes. Anxiety or Depression:  Sleep deprivation can exacerbate these conditions. Lack of Motivation:  Feeling uninterested or unmotivated to perform daily activities. Long-Term Indicators Weight Changes:  Disruptions in hormones can lead to weight gain or difficulty managing weight. Skin Issues:  Dark circles, puffiness, or dull skin. Increased Risk of Chronic Conditions:  Poor sleep is linked to issues like high blood pressure, diabetes, and heart disease. If you have felt that sleep was a waste of time, it's a common mindset but worth reconsidering in light of what sleep enables you to do when you're awake. Balancing rest with activity often leads to better outcomes in the long run. Not getting enough sleep can manifest in various physical, mental, and emotional signs. If you consistently notice these symptoms, it might be helpful to evaluate your sleep habits to determine if you are getting enough sleep or consult a healthcare provider. Too Much of a Good Thing Research shows that not getting enough sleep can reduce brain function and effect one's physical, mental, and emotional health. You mention you get plenty of sleep, but can sleeping too much have negative effects and be a cause for concern?! Getting too much sleep, also known as hypersomnia, can sometimes be a sign of an underlying issue or imbalance. Let's look at signs and symptoms associated with oversleeping. Physical Signs Persistent Fatigue:  Even after sleeping for an extended period, you still feel tired or groggy throughout the day. Headaches:  Oversleeping, especially during irregular patterns, can trigger headaches. Body Aches:  Spending too much time in bed can lead to stiffness, joint pain, or backaches. Cognitive and Emotional Signs Brain Fog:  Difficulty concentrating or processing information despite a long sleep duration. Irritability or Mood Swings:  Oversleeping can disrupt your mood, potentially causing irritability or symptoms similar to depression. Memory Issues:  Oversleeping may contribute to forgetfulness or difficulty retaining information. Lifestyle Impacts Difficulty Waking Up:  Struggling to get out of bed or feeling unable to "snap out" of a sleep state. Disrupted Routine:  Missing obligations or feeling less productive due to excessive time spent sleeping. Lack of Motivation:  A tendency to feel lethargic or unwilling to engage in regular activities. Possible Underlying Causes If oversleeping persists, it may be linked to conditions such as: Depression or anxiety Sleep apnea or other sleep disorders Thyroid dysfunction Chronic fatigue syndrome Certain medications or substance use Many people overlook the possibility that feeling tired or unmotivated could stem from oversleeping rather than sleep deprivation. While it might seem counterintuitive, excessive sleep can disrupt the body's natural rhythms, leaving you groggy or fatigued throughout the day. Fortunately, it’s possible to gradually train your body to find a healthier balance. By adjusting your habits and tuning in to your true sleep needs, you may uncover that less is sometimes more when it comes to rest. If you suspect you're oversleeping and it's affecting your life, tracking your sleep habits and consulting a healthcare professional can help identify and address the root causes. Conclusion Finding the right balance between too little and too much sleep is key to maintaining both physical and mental well-being. While a lack of sleep can leave you drained and struggling to function, oversleeping can lead to its own set of challenges, often going unnoticed as a potential cause of fatigue or other health concerns. Listening to your body’s needs and developing a consistent sleep routine can help you achieve that balance. By recognizing the signs of imbalance, you can take steps toward improving your overall health and energy, ensuring your rest truly supports your life. 3 John 1:2 "Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well."

Esperanto, with its colorful history and unique appeal, has been the passion of many remarkable individuals who have shaped its literary landscape. Let's look into the lives and works of four influential Esperanto authors and poets: William Auld, Kálmán Kalocsay, Julius Balbin, and Gerrit Berveling. William Auld (1924–2006) Introduction William Auld, a Scottish poet and writer, left an indelible mark on Esperanto literature. Known for his poetry and essays, he played a key role in the Esperanto literary scene. Biographical Information Birth and Death: Born in 1924 and passing away in 2006. Origin: Scotland Early Life: Auld's fascination with languages and literature stemmed from his upbringing in Scotland. Personal Life Influences: Early exposure to diverse linguistic traditions shaped Auld's writing style. Challenges: Auld faced societal barriers in promoting Esperanto literature. Literary Career Milestones: Auld's career was marked by numerous poetry collections and essays. Works: Notable works include "La Infana Raso," highlighting themes of identity and culture. Awards: Auld received recognition within the Esperanto community for his literary contributions. Quotes and Excerpts "Language, being an abstract ornament, must storm; a tough old rock in the sea-road ahead." This quote from Auld encapsulates the power of language in shaping identity and fostering unity. Legacy Auld's works continue to resonate due to their exploration of universal themes and human experiences. Adaptations of his poems into various mediums demonstrate the enduring relevance of his writing. Fun Facts Auld, known for his meticulous writing process, often drew inspiration from his surroundings, incorporating nature's beauty into his works. Kálmán Kalocsay (1891–1976) Introduction Kálmán Kalocsay, a Hungarian Esperantist, is celebrated for his impactful contributions to Esperanto poetry. His eloquence and emotive style set him apart in the Esperanto literary world. Biographical Information Birth and Death: Born in 1891 and passing away in 1976. Origin: Hungary Early Life: Raised in Hungary, Kalocsay's exposure to various cultures influenced his writing style. Personal Life Influences: Kalocsay's interactions with renowned poets and writers shaped his poetic voice. Challenges: Balancing his literary pursuits with professional responsibilities was a struggle for Kalocsay. Literary Career Milestones: Kalocsay's poetry collections, such as "Makbeto," garnered critical acclaim. Works: Known for his evocative poems that delve into human emotions and societal issues. Awards: Kalocsay received accolades for his contributions to Esperanto literature. Quotes and Excerpts "In the vastness of time and space, I find only you." This poignant excerpt from Kalocsay's work reflects his ability to capture profound emotions in his poetry. Legacy Kalocsay's enduring legacy lies in his ability to infuse Esperanto poetry with heartfelt emotions and timeless themes. The adaptation of his works into various art forms underscores their enduring relevance. Fun Facts Kalocsay's love for music greatly influenced his writing style, infusing his poetry with a lyrical quality that resonates with readers. Julius Balbin (1924–2000) Introduction Julius Balbin, a prolific writer, contributed significantly to the Esperanto literary canon. His versatility in various genres made him a revered figure in the Esperanto community. Biographical Information Birth and Death: Born in 1924 and passing away in 2000. Origin: Poland Early Life: He survived the German-imposed Kraków Ghetto and endured four Nazi concentration camps. At age fourteen, he learned Esperanto. Tragically, his mother died in the gas chambers, but he and his father were liberated by American troops. Personal Life Influences: Balbin's relationships with fellow writers and artists greatly impacted his literary endeavors. Challenges: Balbin grappled with societal prejudices against Esperanto literature. He was hospitalized in 1945 after being liberated. He earned a PhD in 1950 and went on to work as a translator, researcher, and professor of foreign languages. Literary Career Milestones: Balbin's diverse literary repertoire spanned poetry, prose, and essays. Works: Noteworthy for his poetic works exploring themes of individualism and self-discovery. Awards: Balbin received recognition for his groundbreaking contributions to Esperanto literature. Quotes and Excerpts "Between the lines of silence, worlds unfold like petals of a flower." This enigmatic quote from Balbin's writing encapsulates the profound and introspective nature of his works. Legacy Balbin's literary legacy endures through the continued discourse on his narratives of personal exploration and individuality. His works' adaptability to different mediums showcases the timeless quality of his writing. Fun Facts Balbin's unconventional approach to writing, often weaving complex narratives with philosophical undertones, offered readers a unique and intellectually stimulating literary experience. Gerrit Berveling (b. 1944) Introduction Gerrit Berveling, a contemporary Esperanto author, has carried on the tradition of innovative storytelling within the Esperanto literary sphere. His experimental style and thematic depth have garnered him acclaim among Esperanto enthusiasts. Biographical Information Birth: Born in 1944. Origin: Vlaardingen, Netherlands Early Life: Berveling's background remains shrouded in mystery, adding an aura of intrigue to his literary persona. Berveling studied the classical languages of Greek and Latin and also studied theology. He was a teacher and a minister. Personal Life Influences: Berveling's interactions with avant-garde artists shaped his unconventional narrative style. Challenges: Berveling faced resistance to his boundary-pushing literary experiments. Literary Career Milestones: Berveling's fusion of traditional storytelling with modern elements set him apart in the Esperanto literary landscape. Works: Known for his genre-defying works that blur the lines between reality and imagination. Awards: Berveling's innovative approach has garnered critical acclaim within the Esperanto literary community. Quotes and Excerpts "Amidst the chaos of dreams, I found fragments of truth." This thought-provoking excerpt from Berveling's work encapsulates his penchant for exploring the depths of human consciousness and perception. Legacy Berveling's innovative narratives challenge established literary norms, inviting readers to embark on thought-provoking journeys through his intricately crafted worlds. The adaptation of his works into diverse mediums speaks to the enduring relevance of his storytelling. Fun Facts Berveling's penchant for experimenting with narrative structures and themes reflects his commitment to pushing the boundaries of Esperanto literature, inviting readers to explore uncharted literary territories. Conclusion In conclusion, these authors and poets have left an indelible mark on the Esperanto literary landscape, enriching it with their unique voices and thoughtful explorations of universal themes. Dive into their works to discover the beauty and depth of Esperanto literature. Additional Resources For further exploration, consider reading biographies and collections of poetry by these distinguished authors. Books by William Auld Books by Kálmán Kalocsay Books by Julius Balbin Books by Gerrit Berveling Documentaries and interviews offer valuable insights into the lives and works of these influential Esperanto writers. William Auld Kálmán Kalocsay Julius Balbin Gerrit Berveling

Both children and adults can engage in bullying and harmful behavior whether physical by hitting, pushing, or damaging property or verbal through teasing, exclusion, or harsh words. For children, this may stem from a lack of maturity, empathy, or understanding, while adults may exhibit these behaviors due to unresolved issues, insecurity, or from a deeper source of pain or personal struggle. The impact on the person being targeted is the same regardless of the source or duration, and can have long-lasting emotional, psychological, and physical impacts. Remember everyone is unique, not better or worse, just different in their own way and it is important to understand that no one deserves to be treated badly. When you’re feeling hurt, humiliated, or mistreated, it’s tempting to react with anger or seek revenge. However, responding in anger or turning to violence only adds more harm to an already painful situation. Taking a step back and turning to God allows you to find clarity, peace, and a sense of justice that doesn’t rely on your own actions. God sees your struggles and offers comfort in ways the world never can. Instead of letting the weight of bitterness take hold, lean into faith and prayer. Hand over your pain to God, trusting Him to guide your response and bring resolution in His way and timing. Choosing this path takes strength, but it leads to healing and growth, both for yourself and those around you. Lamentations 3:58-66 You, Lord, took up my case; you redeemed my life. Lord, you have seen the wrong done to me. Uphold my cause! You have seen the depth of their vengeance, all their plots against me. Lord, you have heard their insults, all their plots against me—what my enemies whisper and mutter against me all day long. Look at them! Sitting or standing, they mock me in their songs. Pay them back what they deserve, Lord, for what their hands have done. Put a veil over their hearts, and may your curse be on them! Pursue them in anger and destroy them from under the heavens of the Lord. When you feel harmed or bullied, it’s natural to want justice or even revenge. But taking matters into your own hands with violence or retaliation only deepens the hurt and pulls you further from peace. Instead, God calls us to turn to Him in moments of pain. He is the ultimate source of justice and comfort, promising to carry your burdens and defend your cause in His perfect timing. By trusting in God, you allow Him to work in ways that bring healing, restoration, and growth, without compromising your integrity or faith. Romans 12:19 "Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: 'It is mine to avenge; I will repay,' says the Lord.

Many historians and biblical scholars agree that the Bible does not specify an exact date for Jesus' birth, and the choice of December 25 has more to do with historical, cultural, and theological reasons than with specific evidence. The Gospels of Matthew and Luke describe events surrounding Jesus’ birth but do not mention a specific date. While December 25 has been celebrated as Jesus' birthday since the 4th century, this choice reflects theological and cultural adaptation rather than definitive historical proof. December 25 may have been selected for its symbolic significance. Early Christians might have linked Jesus' birth to the "light of the world" emerging during the darkest time of the year. Yes, Jesus is the reason for the season, and yes, Christmas is commercialized, but my personal relationship with God makes me confident He is pleased with how I celebrate His son. I should say, how I used to celebrate. When the kids were young, we used to drive around and look at the beautiful decorations and lights. Depending on the side of the road, we would chant Oooo or Aaah. We would sing Christmas songs and just have fun. We would decorate the tree and put up our own lights and decorations. Every year, we would have new ornaments—either homemade or store bought—but always meaningful. I really enjoyed setting up the nativity set I had from Home Interiors, but unfortunately, I don't know where it is now. Another tradition was watching A Christmas Story, and I even bought the DVDs, I don't know where they are either! One year we made my husband a working leg lamp for Christmas—that was the only part of the movie he would watch. I even went to a live production of A Christmas Story—alone! It was the last time I really remember doing something special for Christmas. Other than possibly one year, I don't recall decorating since my son passed away. It is possible that I decorated once when I was in my apartment, but I don't know for sure. This year, since I have been doing much better, I decided I would decorate if I could find a tree. I took measurements last Saturday and determined a 6' tree would be perfect. I knew I didn't have any money to purchase one, so I joined a Free Stuff page while I am on Facebook using Marketplace. The only problem is I couldn't find the courage to ask if anyone had one available to give away. I am already asking so much from the world. I do what I always have done, I prayed. I prayed for a 6' tree. Not only that, I prayed it would be close by, and it was a place I would feel comfortable going to pick it up. I was just starting to write a post tonight and a whisper told me to go to Facebook, so I did. There was a notification of a new post, just two minutes earlier, giving away a 6' pre-lit tree! It was in my town with a pick up at the post office! It was an answered prayer! I knew I had to act fast, so with everything I had, I sent this person a private message, hoping she would see it before anyone else commented publicly. She saw my message and responded positively! Being the over sharer I am, I briefly told her how this gift was heaven sent. We will meet on Friday since tomorrow is Thanksgiving. She is even going to look through her Christmas stuff to see if she has any other decorations. I can't tell you the excitement I am feeling tonight! Matthew 7:7 "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you."

UPDATE: I have decided to turn comments on all posts. I am not sure what is involved in being able to comment. You may have to join the site with name and email. Currently, I have comments disabled on my posts. However, I have been reflecting on whether allowing comments might enhance the experience for readers and myself. To make an informed decision, I am researching the benefits and downsides of enabling comments. While I have not yet decided, I am open to the possibility of making this change in the future. Below is a list of ten advantages and ten disadvantages I have identified to help guide my decision. Benefits of Allowing Comments Fostering Community : Comments can create a sense of community by encouraging readers to engage with one another and with me. Feedback : Readers can provide constructive criticism or share different perspectives, which might improve my content. Clarifications : Questions in the comments can highlight unclear points, giving me an opportunity to elaborate or refine my posts. Engagement Boost : Posts with active comments often perform better on search engines and attract more readers. Content Ideas : Comments might inspire future posts by revealing topics that resonate with the audience. Reader Connection : Interacting with readers can make the content more relatable and personal. Increased Time on Page : Engaged readers might spend more time on the page, reading both the post and the comments. Diverse Opinions : Comments can bring fresh perspectives and insights to the topic. Validation and Encouragement : Positive comments can be affirming and encourage continued writing. Real-Time Updates : Readers can share timely news or updates related to the post topic. Disadvantages of Allowing Comments Trolling and Negativity : Open comments can invite offensive or harmful remarks that may need moderation. Spam : Comment sections are often targeted by spam, which can be time-consuming to remove. Misinformation : Some commenters may spread inaccurate or misleading information, requiring monitoring. Emotional Impact : Negative comments might affect my mood or confidence. Moderation Burden : Keeping the comment section clean and respectful could demand significant time and effort. Distraction from Content : Arguments or unrelated discussions in comments might detract from the post's message. Privacy Risks : Some readers might share sensitive information about themselves in comments. Echo Chamber Effect : Certain comments could dominate the conversation, limiting the diversity of views. Technical Issues : Maintaining a comment section might require additional plugins or tools, which could introduce technical complications. Limited Value : Some comments may add little substance, consisting only of short or unrelated remarks. I have previous experience with maintaining forums and websites, and there was a lot of benefits, but there were also a lot of the negative issues discussed in this post. I plan to carefully evaluate these points before making any changes. My goal is to maintain a positive and meaningful experience for everyone engaging with my posts. If I do decide to enable comments, I will implement measures to manage them responsibly, ensuring the space remains constructive and welcoming. Let me know your thoughts on this or any post by getting in touch! You can find the contact form on the main menu or at the bottom of the home page!

When I walked into The UPS Store, I thought I was dealing directly with United Parcel Service (UPS), the big shipping company itself. But here’s the twist: while they share a name and logo, they’re not the same thing. UPS purchased Mail Boxes Etc. in 2001, and rebranded them The UPS Store. Each store is independently owned and operated. This confusion isn’t just about who owns the store—it extends to services, and even the pricing you pay. Understanding the difference can make your life a lot easier and save you a few headaches. This isn’t just an issue with UPS. Similar branding and franchise models are common across various industries, creating confusion for consumers. From fast food to hotels, businesses may look the same on the surface, but behind the scenes, services, pricing, and ownership can vary widely. In this post, we’ll break down how these differences impact what you can expect, and why knowing the distinctions can make a real difference when you’re making decisions. Relationship Between UPS and The UPS Store UPS and The UPS Store are related but operate as distinct entities, which can be confusing. Here's a breakdown to clarify: UPS : This is the global shipping and logistics company. It handles package deliveries, offers shipping rates like "Simple Rate," and provides services directly through its online platform or UPS Customer Centers. The UPS Store : This is a network of independently owned and franchised retail stores that offer UPS shipping, along with additional services like printing, mailbox rentals, and notary services. Although they use the UPS branding and logo, they are not operated by UPS itself. Key Differences Ownership : UPS owns the brand, but The UPS Stores are run by independent franchisees. Owning a The UPS Store varies by store type, size and location. Services : The UPS Store offers more than just shipping. It provides business-related services such as printing and document management, which are not available at UPS Customer Centers. Pricing : The UPS Store sets its own prices for shipping, often adding service fees for convenience. Therefore, the shipping rates may differ from what you see on the UPS website. Programs and Promotions : Some UPS programs, like "Simple Rate," might not be available at The UPS Store because it follows a different pricing structure. This confusion often arises because The UPS Store uses the UPS logo and branding, leading people to assume they are the same. However, while they are affiliated, the franchise model means services and prices can vary—even between stores! If you are looking for specific UPS rates or promotions, like "Simple Rate," it is best to visit a UPS Customer Center or use the UPS website. The UPS Store staff may not always have access to the same pricing models or systems. Why Consumers Need to Know This recent experience with UPS and The UPS Store really made me wonder if this is a common branding practice, and what other examples I may find involving companies. The relationship between companies can be important to consumers for several reasons. Transparency about ownership or affiliation builds trust and helps consumers make informed choices. It affects their purchasing decisions, trust in the brand, and understanding of the product or service they are receiving. Unclear relationships can lead to misunderstandings about accountability, quality, or pricing. Consumers often want to know who they are supporting or which company is ultimately responsible for their experience. It ensures they understand which entity to contact for questions, complaints, or support. Knowing the connection between companies can clarify service expectations and prevent confusion. It can influence their perception of value, ethics, and the level of customer service they might receive. Clear distinctions between companies help prevent frustration and miscommunication during transactions. Franchise VS Company Owned Businesses There are many examples of franchise versus company-owned businesses, where the distinction can sometimes lead to confusion for consumers. Understanding these differences can help you have a better experience when engaging with these businesses. Consumers may encounter inconsistencies in service, pricing, or management style due to the independent operation of franchises. I remember early on as an adult, I was frustrated and confused as a consumer, but as I aged and ventured out into the world, I learned all isn't always as it appears. Just because a business displays a familiar logo, it does not always mean that all locations operate under the same policies or are directly connected in the way you might expect. Fast Food Chains McDonald's: Some locations are owned by the company, while others are franchised, meaning they are owned and operated by independent individuals or companies under a franchise agreement. Service quality, cleanliness, and even menu items can sometimes vary between the two. Subway: Nearly all Subway locations are franchised. While they follow the brand's guidelines, the management, and operations might differ. Retail Stores The UPS Store: As I noted earlier, these stores are franchised and operate separately from the main UPS logistics company, causing confusion for consumers expecting uniform services. Ace Hardware: While the company provides branding and product access, most stores are independently owned and operated as part of a cooperative franchise model. Fitness Centers Planet Fitness: Many locations are franchised, leading to slight variations in management and services despite uniform branding and policies. Gold’s Gym: A mix of corporate-owned and franchised locations creates potential differences in amenities and membership terms. Hotels Marriott International: While Marriott manages some properties, many are franchised to independent owners. Customer experiences can differ depending on whether a property is directly managed or franchised. Hilton Hotels: Similarly, Hilton franchises a significant portion of its hotels, so not all properties are operated by the parent company. Gas Stations Shell and BP: Many stations are independently owned franchises. This can affect pricing and service offerings, even though they display the same brand. Automotive Services Jiffy Lube: A franchised automotive service chain, where locations may differ in quality and management despite corporate branding. Midas: Similar to Jiffy Lube, Midas has both company-owned and franchised stores, potentially causing variation in services. How Branding Affects the Consumer There are several other instances of confusion or overlap involving companies. Branding strategies, product features, and naming can contribute to confusion among consumers. Companies with Similar Branding: Many companies in the same industry adopt similar branding, which can lead to consumer confusion. For example, luxury brands like Gucci and Chanel often have overlapping styles in fonts and logos. Companies in unrelated industries can sometimes share surprising visual or branding similarities. For instance, Pepsi (soft drinks) and Korean Air (aviation), both use red, white and similar shades of blue in their logos. The designs of the logos closely resemble each other and can lead to momentary confusion and create false expectations believing the two companies are somehow are connected. Same Company with Different Branding: Parent Company vs. Subsidiary—a classic confusion arises when a parent company owns multiple brands, but uses different logos. For example, PepsiCo owns both Pepsi and Lay's, leading some consumers to mistakenly believe they are unrelated. Similar Product Features: In highly competitive markets, products from different companies often appear identical. Smartphones are a prime example, where sleek designs and similar marketing messages make it hard to distinguish between brands like Samsung, Apple, and Xiaomi. Ideas or Concepts: Companies with overlapping or identical names but in different industries can create confusion. For instance, Delta Airlines and Delta Faucets have no connection despite sharing the name. Rebrands and Mergers: Rebranding efforts can confuse consumers when companies change their names or merge with others. For example, Facebook's shift to "Meta" led some to believe it was an entirely new entity, rather than the parent company of platforms like Instagram and WhatsApp. Industry Norms: Some companies follow design conventions so closely that their identities become nearly indistinguishable. For example, fast-food chains often use vibrant colors and bold logos, making it hard for consumers to differentiate at a glance . These examples demonstrate how branding strategies, product features, and naming can contribute to confusion among consumers. When companies do not clearly communicate the distinction, consumers may encounter inconsistencies leading to a frustrating experience. Conclusion Ultimately, the relationship between branding, ownership, and service can shape a consumer’s experience in unexpected ways. When companies blur the lines between their different entities or fail to provide clear information, it leaves room for misinterpretation and frustration. Understanding these differences empowers consumers to make more informed decisions, reducing confusion and ensuring they receive the experience they expect. Clear communication is key to building trust and helping customers avoid unnecessary surprises. The next time you’re out in the world, whether driving to a destination or grocery shopping, pay attention to the logos and names around you. You might notice how easily certain brands blend together or how similar they look on the surface. Taking a moment to understand the connection—or lack of connection—between companies can help you make smarter choices, avoid confusion, and see the finer details that influence your everyday interactions. It’s a simple way to stay informed in a world that’s constantly filled with branded messages.

We live in a time where the line between reality and fabrication is getting thinner by the day. From AI-generated sunsets to perfectly staged viral moments, it is becoming increasingly challenging to determine what is authentic and what is not. This blending of truth and fiction may seem harmless, even entertaining, but it can have a darker side when presented without clarity or honesty. When people see these kinds of stories, they often connect emotionally, thinking they’re witnessing real life at its rawest. But the dramatic presentation can sometimes overshadow the truth, making even genuine moments feel artificial. This confusion creates a deeper problem: when real stories are made to look staged—or vice versa—it erodes trust. People become cynical, questioning whether anything they see is genuine. Take, for example, these headlines that seem almost too dramatic to be true: "Lost Dog Reunited With Family After Crossing 1,200 Miles in Four Months" "Rare Rainbow Cloud Captured Over Mount Everest During Deadly Storm" "Street Performer Shocked as Grammy Winner Joins Her for Impromptu Duet" "Elderly Man Discovers Time Capsule From 1800s While Planting Tomatoes" "House Collapses Into Ocean After Erosion Worsens Overnight" "Teenager Stops Runaway Train With Ingenious Use of a Skateboard" "AI-Generated Painting Wins National Art Competition" "Hiker Saved by Phone App That Sent SOS Signal Despite No Reception" "Hundreds of Bees Form Perfect Heart Shape on Window of Local Cafe" "Sinkhole Swallows Car While Family Escapes Just in Time" 'Mystery Benefactor Leaves $1,000 Tips Across Multiple Restaurants in Small Town" 'Woman Claims Her Cat Predicted Lottery Numbers That Won Her $10 Million" "Entire Wedding Party Rescued by Passing Sailboat After Dock Collapses" "Astronaut Reveals He Secretly Took His Dog’s Photo to the Moon" "Abandoned Grocery Cart Leads to Discovery of Lost Masterpiece Worth Millions" "Random Stranger Sings Flawlessly Alongside Busker, Leaving Passersby in Awe ." On the surface, these stories might seem genuine, but sometimes they’re completely concocted—AI-generated or staged for clicks and shares. What bothers me is not necessarily the creativity behind these productions, but the fact that they’re passed off as real events. With video editing, AI enhancements, and deliberate framing, creators often present these events in ways that amplify their emotional impact, leaving viewers questioning their authenticity. The list above is actually a mix of real and fabricated headlines. Which ones are real events and which ones are completely made up to capture your attention? How well can you decipher what is real or imagined? Headline reveal party at the end of the post! Why Does This Matter? When people present fiction as fact, it undermines trust. Viewers engage with these stories emotionally, thinking they’re connecting with someone’s real experience. Whether it is a story about being saved by a heart-shaped sunset (likely generated by AI) or a generous act of kindness orchestrated for a camera, these deceptions can leave us questioning everything we see. It is disheartening because stories of hope, beauty, and kindness do exist—without the need for embellishment or manipulation. When fakes are exposed, they diminish the impact of genuine moments. How to Spot Real vs. Staged or AI-Generated Content Here are a few tips to help separate fact from fiction in an age where both are increasingly hard to distinguish: Look for context. If a video or image is accompanied by a dramatic story, check the source. Is there an original post from a credible account? Was the story reported by credible news outlets or shared by a trusted source? Random viral posts without context or attribution are more likely to be misleading. Check for consistency. Are there follow-up posts or corroborating evidence? For example, the car's fall into a sinkhole might have other witnesses or news coverage to verify its authenticity. It is worth the extra step before becoming fully invested. Reverse image search. Tools like Google’s reverse image search can identify if a picture has been edited, AI-generated, or recycled from previous posts. Check the metadata. If possible, look at the date and location data embedded in photos or videos. AI and staged content often lack consistent metadata. Consider the quality and details. AI content often looks too perfect. For example, sunsets may have impossibly vibrant colors, and “spontaneous” moments might feel overly choreographed. In genuinely spontaneous moments, reactions are usually raw and imperfect. Polished or exaggerated emotions can hint at staging. Pay attention to editing. Heavy use of filters, slow-motion effects, or background music can make a real moment feel staged. While editing doesn’t mean something is fake, it’s worth considering how much the story has been dramatized. Trust your instincts. If something feels too good (or too dramatic) to be true, it might be worth questioning. If it is too convenient or perfect—like a random stranger with professional-level singing skills just happening to join a street performance—it’s okay to question its authenticity. Increasingly Blurred Lines TV and movies have long been fictional, and despite knowing the characters and scenarios are made up, audiences have always been deeply invested in them. This is the power of storytelling—the ability to create compelling narratives that resonate with emotions, regardless of their authenticity. The lines between fact and fiction have always existed in entertainment, but it was generally understood that the goal was to entertain, not to deceive. Even in the world of reality TV, where some degree of authenticity is implied, viewers understand there’s often a level of scripting or dramatization involved. Disclaimers usually accompany shows to make it clear that what you are seeing may not be entirely "real." But these are still presented as fictionalized versions of real-life scenarios, making it easier for viewers to enjoy without assuming everything is factual. The issue arises with the increasingly blurred line between real life and fabricated stories. With the rise of AI and viral content on social media, we are seeing more staged events and even fake news stories being passed off as reality—stories that can be deeply emotional or traumatic. It’s unsettling, particularly when these stories involve human suffering, struggle, or life-changing events. The intention behind these creations is often to stir emotions, drive clicks, or create controversy, which leads to a significant ethical dilemma. People, especially those going through real struggles, may feel misled or even manipulated when they learn that a touching or inspiring story was entirely fabricated for attention. Respect for the Truth It is difficult to understand why people would feel compelled to fabricate drama and trauma. It seems like there’s a desire to evoke real emotional responses from others, but at the expense of honesty. In a way, these types of staged, fabricated events cheapen the actual struggles that real people face. It can even be damaging to those who may be struggling with their own challenges, as they may feel their experiences are being trivialized or used for profit. In the end, it comes down to respect for the truth. Fiction has always been a part of entertainment, and people are more than willing to engage with made-up stories, but it is the deliberate misleading of audiences that crosses a line. If a story is fictional, it should be presented as such, and if it is real, it should be handled with care and truthfulness. When stories are staged but passed off as real, it breaks that trust and can have consequences that extend far beyond the immediate shock value. In the age of social media and AI, it is more important than ever to remain critical and vigilant about the content we consume, to distinguish between what is real and what is fabricated. And while it can be tempting to get caught up in a viral sensation, it is essential to remember that some stories—no matter how heartwarming or dramatic—are not always what they seem. A Final Thought on Integrity Whether real or staged, dramatic stories and viral moments capture our attention for a reason: they resonate with us emotionally. It is okay to enjoy a well-crafted story or admire artistic creations, but transparency matters, and it is essential for creators to be transparent. Passing off a fictional or staged event as truth can exploit that emotional connection and leave viewers disillusioned. Headline Reveal "Lost Dog Reunited With Family After Crossing 1,200 Miles in Four Months" Real Story: A dog named Bobbie, famously nicknamed " Bobbie the Wonder Dog ," was lost during a family trip in Indiana in 1923. He managed to make his way back home to Oregon, traveling over 2,500 miles through harsh terrain in about six months. His story captured national attention. 2. "Rare Rainbow Cloud Captured Over Mount Everest During Deadly Storm" Fabricated: While iridescent clouds are real and stunning, there is no documented instance of one being captured over Everest during a storm, and such a scenario likely exaggerates weather conditions. 3. "Street Performer Shocked as Grammy Winner Joins Her for Impromptu Duet" Real Story: In 2015, singer Seal surprised a street performer named Samantha Johnson in Manchester, UK. The crowd erupted in awe as the Grammy-winning artist casually joined in her performance of "Stand By Me." 4. "Elderly Man Discovers Time Capsule From 1800s While Planting Tomatoes" Fabricated: While time capsules have been found in interesting places, no confirmed story matches this specific scenario. 5. "House Collapses Into Ocean After Erosion Worsens Overnight" Real Story: In 2022, a home in Rodanthe, North Carolina, fell into the Atlantic Ocean due to severe coastal erosion. The incident was caught on video and underscored the dangers of living on rapidly eroding coastlines. 6. "Teenager Stops Runaway Train With Ingenious Use of a Skateboard" Fabricated: No record of such an incident exists, though it reads like a movie or comic book plot. 7. "AI-Generated Painting Wins National Art Competition" Real Story: In 2022, an AI-generated piece titled Théâtre D’opéra Spatial won first place in the digital art category at the Colorado State Fair Fine Arts Competition. The win sparked debates about AI’s role in creative industries. 8. "Hiker Saved by Phone App That Sent SOS Signal Despite No Reception" Real Story: In 2022, a stranded hiker in California was rescued after using the new Emergency SOS feature on their iPhone 14. The feature works via satellite, even in areas without cellular service. 9. "Hundreds of Bees Form Perfect Heart Shape on Window of Local Cafe" Fabricated: Bees do form clusters, but this specific scenario seems overly romanticized and staged for storytelling purposes. While the honeycomb in the 2013 picture was real, the heart-shaped honeycomb was not designed by bees. 10. "Sinkhole Swallows Car While Family Escapes Just in Time" Real Story: In 2013, a sinkhole opened up in Toledo, Ohio, swallowing a woman’s car. She escaped by climbing out through the rear window before the vehicle was fully submerged. 11. "Mystery Benefactor Leaves $1,000 Tips Across Multiple Restaurants in Small Town" Real Story: A man going by the name "Tips for Jesus" has anonymously left enormous tips, including $1,000 and $10,000, at restaurants across the U.S. to spread joy and generosity. 12. "Woman Claims Her Cat Predicted Lottery Numbers That Won Her $10 Million" Fabricated: While stories of "lucky pets" are common, no verifiable account of this specific claim exists. 13. "Entire Wedding Party Rescued by Passing Sailboat After Dock Collapses" Fabricated: Though dramatic, this scenario has no record in the news and sounds like a made-up viral moment. 14. "Astronaut Reveals He Secretly Took His Dog’s Photo to the Moon" Real Story: Astronaut Charlie Duke, who walked on the moon during Apollo 16, famously left a photo of his family (including their dog) on the lunar surface. 15. "Abandoned Grocery Cart Leads to Discovery of Lost Masterpiece Worth Millions" Fabricated: While lost masterpieces have been found in odd places, this particular story does not match any real-life discoveries. 16. "Random Stranger Sings Flawlessly Alongside Busker, Leaving Passersby in Awe" Real Story: In 2019, in Dublin, Ireland, a street performer named Allie Sherlock was singing on Grafton Street when a random man named Fabio Rodrigues joined her. His incredible voice perfectly harmonized with hers, leaving the crowd stunned. The performance was recorded and went viral, showcasing how spontaneous musical moments can captivate audiences worldwide. Conclusion Creativity, whether through AI or staged productions, has its place. AI-generated paintings can be stunning works of digital art, and staged performances can be inspiring or entertaining. The problem arises when creators intentionally blur the lines and present fiction as truth, exploiting our trust for clicks, likes, and shares. Let's celebrate creativity while holding honesty in high regard. Were you able to differentiate between the real and fabricated headlines? What are your thoughts? Have you encountered any content recently that made you question its authenticity? Share your thoughts —I would love to hear your perspective!