Do you love the idea of a dish that is not only easy to make but also incredibly delicious? Look no further than the famous Crack Chicken recipe! Perfect for your slow cooker, also known as a crockpot, this recipe will soon become a favorite in your household. With its rich, creamy flavor and tender chicken, it's ideal for busy weeknights or cozy gatherings. Plus, the versatility of this dish allows for endless customization, ensuring that everyone at the table will enjoy it. This crack chicken recipe is perfect for meal prepping too! I love using my 3-quart or 8-quart crockpot, both of which have been incredibly reliable. The 3-quart crockpot is great for this recipe, while the 8-quart fits all the ingredients perfectly when you're increasing the recipe and cooking for a crowd or planning to freeze extras. After cooking, I portion it into six divided meal containers with a green vegetable and a large bun—perfect for a quick, delicious meal. The crockpot always nails the cook times, ensuring the chicken is tender and flavorful. Plus, it freezes and reheats really well, making it a convenient option to have on hand.  Let's dive into the ingredients, cooking methods, and the delightful flavors awaiting you. Ingredients: 2 lbs boneless, skinless chicken breasts 1 packet ranch seasoning mix 8 oz cream cheese 1/2 cup chicken broth or water 1/2 cup cooked and crumbled bacon 1 cup shredded cheddar cheese 1/2 cup green onion Cooking Method: Place the chicken breasts at the bottom of your slow cooker. Sprinkle the ranch seasoning mix over the chicken. Add the cream cheese. Cover and cook on low for 6 hours, or on high for 4 hours. Once cooked, shred the chicken using two forks Add the chicken broth and mix well to incorporate all ingredients. Top with cheddar cheese, bacon and green onion Cook an additional 20 minutes. Serving Suggestions: Serve your Crack Chicken over rice, pasta, or in a sandwich. Garnish with chopped green onions or fresh herbs for an extra pop of flavor. Refrigerate or freeze leftovers (if there are any!) Crack Chicken gets its name from its addictive flavor that will keep you coming back for more. The creamy texture of the cream cheese combined with the savory notes of ranch seasoning and bacon creates a mouthwatering experience that is hard to resist. Why Choose Slow Cooker Method? Using a slow cooker for this recipe not only makes it incredibly easy but also allows all the flavors to meld together beautifully, resulting in a dish that is rich and comforting. So next time you're looking for a hassle-free meal that promises to impress, give this Crack Chicken recipe a try. Your taste buds will thank you! Embrace the simplicity and savor the deliciousness of this Crack Chicken recipe. It's a perfect choice for busy weeknights or lazy weekends when you want a meal that hits all the right notes. With just a handful of ingredients and minimal effort, you can create a dish that is sure to become a regular in your meal rotation. Enjoy the essence of comfort food with a modern twist through this delightful Crack Chicken recipe for your slow cooker.

I was sitting here reflecting on the events of the last 24 hours. Last night, I thought I would try to sign up for medical insurance again. I spent several hours doing research and I was pretty excited about the possibility of being insured again. I found a plan that would cover my mental health and vision and the premium was minimal. I read and re-read the plan benefits until I was sure I understood the costs involved. All I needed was to call my doctor to confirm they were still offering virtual visits. The first down of the day was when the receptionist said yes, but since I had stopped going, I will have to complete two in office visits before resuming virtual visits. I explained to her it would be impossible for me, and asked her to let my doctor know I had called. Each visit would require a 150 mile round trip, about $30 for gas, along with a $50 office charge—compared to $0 for a virtual visit. I lifted myself up by thinking about the vision benefit the insurance would provide. I have to make a decision in the next eight days. The second down came when I got a letter stating my $46 food benefit would decrease to $24 due to a cost of living adjustment. I am very confused, I filed an appeal, and I am trying not to let it get me down even though it will have a huge negative impact on me. After they decide on a date for my appeal, I will have to state my case verbally by phone. They will deliberate, and then notify me by mail. I am getting anxious thinking about it. If it does decrease, it will be difficult for me to afford the insurance. The third down came this evening when I saw the weather forecast for the flea market on Saturday had changed. Instead of being 48 and warming to near 70, it will only be 38 and rising to 60 by the time it has ended. I think attendance will be too low to warrant spending the $15 fee. Thankfully, there was an upside, and someone is coming in the morning to purchase one of the items I was hoping to sell. As I was giving myself a pep talk to brighten my mood, the idea for this post came into my head. Many people compare life to a rollercoaster. They describe the ups and downs, twists and turns, and even the moments of fear during a steep drop that eventually levels out. While that comparison might resonate with some, I feel it does not reflect my experience. For me, life feels more like a seesaw—or as some call it, a teeter-totter. A seesaw is simple in design but carries a lot of meaning. You are either up or down, and it all depends on balance and who is on the other side. When life feels steady, it is like having someone sitting opposite, working with you to keep the movement smooth and predictable. When they get off unexpectedly, it hurts. There is no warning; you just crash to the ground. In those moments, I do not have the luxury of momentum pulling me back up, like on a rollercoaster. I have to push myself off the ground, using all my strength. That effort is not easy. It requires energy, determination, and sometimes an incredible amount of patience to lift myself up again. Even when I manage to rise, if something else gets piled on me and the load gets too heavy, it takes a lot of strength and willpower to gently lower myself back down without losing control or slamming into the ground. This constant push and drop, up and down, feels exhausting at times. Unlike a rollercoaster that has an inevitable climb after a drop, and times when you just throw your hands up and enjoy the ride, the seesaw requires active participation. I cannot just sit back and hope for things to get better. If I want to keep going, I have to keep moving, even when it demands more energy than I feel is within me. Life’s challenges—like financial struggles, health issues, or emotional losses—feel like extra weight added to my side of the seesaw. They make it harder to push off the ground and regain balance. Instead of smoothly going up and down, the added burden makes every movement feel heavier, requiring more effort to keep from being stuck at the bottom. Every down makes me more determined to push myself up—one more time. This seesaw analogy emphasizes the ongoing effort and energy it takes to maintain balance. Surrounding myself with people who support me is like having a steady counter-weight on the other end, helping me create a rhythm that makes the ride less jarring. When those people are gone, either by circumstance or choice, all the weight shifts back to me. It is then that I must decide whether to jump off or rise again. Life is not always fair, and it is certainly not always easy. But as long as I am here, I will keep pushing. I will keep finding ways to bring myself back up. Because for all its ups and downs, it is still worth riding this seesaw we call life. Cover Photo Credit: ID 283563296 © Lila Kate Wirtz Butkus Dreamstime.com

I stumbled into a classic example of how quickly conversations can escalate online. A simple video showcasing the security feature of a $100 bill turned into a thread of misunderstanding, sharp comments, and, ultimately, unnecessary hostility. I confirmed through my own testing that the video information was accurate. Please keep in mind I was already part of the conversation prior to the following exchange. It started innocently enough: someone asked for clarification, another offered a brief explanation, " you can't counterfeit" and I replied with my own thoughts because the brief explanation was misleading, " well, if they can make it that way, obviously it can be counterfeited, however, it makes it more difficult to counterfeit." That’s when things took a sharp turn. A reply came my way, dripping with rudeness and capped with an angry tirade when I responded politely. "Shut up Linda and sit down with your pointless commentary." At first, I was stunned. Firstly, it wasn't pointless commentary. Pointing out misleading information prevents confusion and ensures that the information shared about counterfeiting and security measures is accurate. Misunderstandings about the feature could lead to false confidence in counterfeit bills. Secondly, something must be going on with them to elicit that harsh response. I decided to reply with kindness: "I will pray for you." Instead of diffusing the situation, my comment seemed to ignite even more hostility. "Don’t pray for me. I'm a practicing Catholic. Your prayers mean nothing. You never prayed for anyone in your life. You're too wrapped up in your fragile ego with no place to go and not enough brains when you get there. So again, f** off and don’t waste your time and precious energy making an ass of yourself." My very first thought was, "you need more practice!" When I stopped giggling, I was dismayed—not because I’d never encountered negativity online, but because of the unexpected venom. This wasn’t just a sharp retort—it came from someone who professed to share a belief in God. At first, I wanted to reply with my joke. Then I considered a response to explain myself and refute the accusations, but I chose not to engage further. I have really worked on this aspect of my personality over the last year and a half. In a world where people can hide behind screens, it’s easy for conversations to veer into negativity. Words that might never be said in person are typed without hesitation. Our words still matter, and so does our tone which is more difficult to convey online using text. Words have the power to build people up or tear them down. I know my tone, being strait forward and often matter-of-fact, has been misinterpreted many times. What I think of as funny and lighthearted may come across differently to others. When I replied with kindness and offered to pray for the person, I wasn’t trying to be snarky. I genuinely believe that responding with grace—rather than matching negativity—can shift the tone of an interaction. I am not very good at it, but I am more thoughtful in my replies compared to a few years ago. Did it change their attitude? No, but it reinforced who I am and the kind of presence I want to bring to any space, online or offline. My prayers may mean nothing to that person, but they mean something to me. I am sharing this because writing helps me to calm my thoughts, better understand the situation, and prevent further action. This interaction reminded me that our words, even online, carry weight. Words can heal or harm, build or destroy. We don’t have control over how others speak to us, but we should always have control over our response. As I try to reconcile my thoughts, I keep in mind that not every comment deserves a reaction. In addition, I am learning to be less reactive especially when attacked. Instead of reacting impulsively or emotionally to situations, I try to take a step back, assess the situation thoughtfully, and make informed decisions before acting. This way I can be in control of my responses and take action in a way that aligns with who I really am inside, rather than just reacting off the top of my head. When given the choice between engaging in a toxic back-and-forth or rising above it, I am choosing the high road most every time. When living my entire life in fight or flight mode, it takes time. As I am finishing this post, I get six more Facebook notifications. This situation has further escalated because they are commenting on several of my posts, taking their rudeness to a whole new level. The comments were not only disrespectful, but also crossed the line by coming onto my page to criticize me unprovoked. These actions reflect their own issues, not mine, and I refuse to let this negativity change my day. I’ve taken the step to block them, but Facebook let me know they have additional profiles, and although they will takes steps to prevent those profiles from engaging with my page, it won't completely block them. Their words reflect a level of hostility that has me unsettled. If there is any further contact, I will report their behavior to the authorities to ensure my safety and protect myself from unwanted harassment. What do you think? Have you ever encountered something like this online? How do you handle it? Let me know— Get in Touch ! Psalm 139:23-24 "Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting."

C aring words shared with others. O pen hearts bloom with kindness and M inds receptive to appreciation. P raise that acknowledges effort. L ifting each other up, In  moments of doubt. M eaningful exchanges foster respect and E ncouragement strengthens bonds. N oticing the strengths in others with T houghts that reflect the good. S ending positivity through simple words. Compliments, when given candidly, have the power to uplift, connect, and inspire. They are small but meaningful gestures that can create positivity in everyday interactions. However, authenticity is key. A compliment should come from a sincere place, not as an attempt to manipulate, gain favor, or fill an awkward silence. A genuine compliment acknowledges something positive in a person, their choices, or their influence. and is delivered with sincerity. On the other hand, an insincere remark often feels forced, habitual, generic, or given without real care. Compliments do not have to be elaborate or deeply specific to be meaningful. Sometimes a simple, heartfelt statement like "You’re always so thoughtful" is exactly what someone needs to hear. What Is a Compliment? A compliment is a positive statement that acknowledges a person's qualities, achievements, or actions. It is genuine when it comes from a place of real appreciation or admiration. Backhanded Compliments A backhanded compliment (also called a left-handed compliment) is a statement that appears to be a compliment at first, but upon closer look, it often contains an insult or criticism. It's a way of masking negativity with the outward form of praise, which can be hurtful or confusing for the person receiving it. In the examples below, the bolded part emphasizes the positive element of the compliment, while the rest often introduces a sarcastic or dismissive tone, subtly undermining the sincerity. Just give the compliment —the rest is a qualifier that downplays the compliment and adds a backhanded tone. " You look great today . I barely recognized you!" " I love how confident you are , especially considering how you look." " You're so much more talented than I thought you'd be!" " You’re such a good driver for a woman!" " You looked beautiful back then!" " I'm glad I could make it , not like I had anything better to do." " I love your haircut! It makes you look younger!" Backhanded compliments are often given by individuals who may be insecure, envious, or struggling with their own self-esteem. People who give these types of comments might not always be aware of the hurtful nature of their words, but there are certain factors that may make someone more likely to offer them. Insecurity : Individuals who are insecure about their own abilities or appearance may use backhanded compliments as a way to deflect attention from their own perceived shortcomings. By making someone else feel less than perfect, they attempt to elevate themselves or make themselves feel more comfortable in comparison. Jealousy or Envy: People who are jealous or envious of others may use backhanded compliments as a way to subtly undermine someone they perceive as a threat. These comments can be a way of diminishing another person's accomplishments or qualities without being overtly negative. Passive-Aggressiveness : Some people struggle with direct confrontation or expressing their true feelings, so they resort to passive-aggressive comments. A backhanded compliment can be a way of criticizing someone while maintaining the appearance of being polite or positive. Lack of Self-Awareness : Many individuals may not realize the impact of their words. They might think they are offering praise or encouragement, but their comments inadvertently undermine or belittle the recipient. This can happen when someone lacks empathy or is unaware of how their words are being received. Cultural or Social Norms : In some social circles or cultures, sarcasm or indirectness may be more common. Some individuals might offer backhanded compliments as part of social interaction without fully understanding how it can be interpreted as hurtful. Feeling Threatened : If someone feels threatened or overshadowed by another person, they may resort to backhanded compliments to maintain control or diminish the perceived superiority of the other person. It is a way of asserting dominance or preserving a sense of self-worth. Power Dynamics : In situations where there are imbalances of power, such as between a boss and an employee, someone in a position of power may use backhanded compliments to subtly assert their authority or make the other person feel inferior, while still maintaining a façade of praise. Sarcastic Humor : Some people use sarcasm as a form of humor, and it can be easy for them to slip into backhanded compliments without realizing how they come across. What might be intended as a joke could be interpreted as a subtle insult. In general, backhanded compliments often stem from a combination of underlying insecurities, a desire for control, or an inability to communicate directly. They can be used as a tool to protect the person giving the compliment, but they often result in discomfort or hurt feelings for the recipient. Compliment Me, Please Fishing for compliments is a behavior where someone subtly (or not-so-subtly) seeks validation when they want others to contradict them and give praise. It can often come across as insecure or seeking attention. After providing some examples, I am going to breakdown why people might fish for compliments and how you could respond. Remember though, it is not fishing for compliments if the statement is true or they truly believe what they are saying—their perception may be different than yours. "I can’t believe how bad my hair looks today." "I don’t think I did that very well." "I look awful in this picture." "This food came out terrible! I'm not a very good cook" "I’m really bad at drawing, but I tried anyway." Why People Fish for Compliments Low Self-Esteem : People who feel insecure or lack confidence may fish for compliments as a way to seek reassurance. They may need external validation to feel good about themselves. Desire for Attention : Some people fish for compliments because they enjoy being the center of attention or want to feel important or appreciated. On social media, it is also a way to get people to engage with their post. Seeking Affection or Approval : It can be a way of seeking affection from others, whether it's from a partner, friend, or colleague. They might not feel loved or valued enough and want that reaffirmed. Social Comparison : Sometimes, people fish for compliments to compare themselves to others. If they're feeling competitive or comparing themselves to someone else, they might look for praise to feel better about their own situation. Habit : Some individuals may have developed the habit of fishing for compliments over time, especially if they’ve received praise frequently or been in environments where their appearance or accomplishments were frequently commented on. How to Respond to Compliments Fishing Redirecting the Conversation : If someone is fishing for compliments, you can try redirecting the conversation back to something meaningful or productive. For example, "I think you're really good at [something specific], but how have you been feeling lately?" This shifts the focus to their well-being rather than giving in to the need for praise. Offer a Genuine Compliment : Sometimes, people fish for compliments because they truly need encouragement. If you're comfortable, you can offer a sincere compliment in response. Instead of giving in to the backhanded or fishing part of the statement, give them a kind, but direct compliment, such as, "I really appreciate how you handled that situation," or "You have a great sense of humor." Use Humor : If you know the person well and feel it’s appropriate, using humor can be an effective way to respond to compliment fishing. You could say something like, "Are you fishing for compliments? Because I’ve got a whole boatload ready!" Address It Directly : If it becomes a pattern and you feel comfortable doing so, you can gently call out the fishing behavior. For example, "I notice you’re asking a lot about how people see you. I want you to know you're amazing just the way you are, no need to ask for validation." Be Honest but Kind : If the person is fishing for compliments in a way that feels uncomfortable or exaggerated, a kind but honest response can help. "I think you're awesome, but you don’t need to ask for that reassurance from others all the time." Ignore the Fishing : Another way to respond is to simply ignore the fishing for compliments altogether, especially if it's not particularly extreme. By not feeding into it, you can gently discourage the behavior. Tips for Responding Effectively Empathy : Understand that people may be fishing for compliments because they lack self-confidence or are feeling down. If you can offer a sincere, non-patronizing response, it may help them feel validated without reinforcing the behavior. Keep It Positive : If you're uncomfortable with the compliment fishing but still want to be supportive, keep your response positive but neutral. This helps them feel good without making the interaction overly about the compliments. Fishing for compliments can be a sign of needing reassurance, so how you respond can have a meaningful impact on how the person feels afterward. Whether you choose to redirect, ignore, or address it directly, you can always aim to be supportive while maintaining your boundaries. The Importance of Authenticity An authentic compliment reflects thoughtfulness and sincerity. It often recognizes something specific and meaningful about the recipient, whether it is their effort, personality, or unique qualities. A compliment given freely, without prompting, feels genuine. However, if someone has to ask for feedback and the response seems rushed or obligatory, it can feel inauthentic. In addition, when compliments or gestures are too common, they lose the special meaning that makes them feel authentic. For example: Authentic: A meeting just concluded "I admire how much effort you put into organizing the meeting today. It really showed, and everything ran so smoothly." Inauthentic: A performer finishes their song, and after a long pause, they ask, "How was it?" Someone responds with "Oh, you did great" in a tone that feels dismissive or forced, as if they are just trying to fill the silence. Authentic or Inauthentic: "You're the best!" "Good job." "You look amazing!" When compliments lack authenticity, they can feel hollow or even patronizing. People often sense when a compliment is insincere, and instead of fostering goodwill, it can create discomfort or mistrust. Giving Compliments When it comes to giving compliments, some people may find it challenging for various reasons. There are some common factors that can make giving compliments difficult. Fear of Being Misinterpreted : Some people worry that their compliment will be taken the wrong way, especially if the recipient misinterprets the intent or tone. For example, a compliment about someone’s appearance might be taken as flirtation, or a compliment about someone's performance could be seen as insincere. This fear can lead to hesitation in offering compliments at all. Self-Esteem Issues : Individuals with low self-esteem or self-worth might struggle with giving compliments because they feel they are not worthy of giving praise to others. They might fear that complimenting others makes them vulnerable or opens them up to being judged in return. They could also feel that others might not believe their praise is honest and heartfelt. Cultural or Social Norms : In certain cultures or social environments, complimenting others may not be a common practice, or it might even be considered inappropriate or boastful. People in these environments may feel uncomfortable offering compliments, as it could go against the social norm or be seen as hypocritical or self-serving. In some cultures, humility is highly valued, and giving compliments may be seen as drawing attention to someone or elevating them in ways that make others feel uncomfortable. Fear of Flattery or Overdoing It : Some individuals avoid giving compliments because they worry that they might come across as overly flattering or fake. The idea of complimenting too much or too often can make them feel as though their words lose value, or they may fear they will be seen as trying too hard to please others. This can make them hesitant to offer legitimate praise at all. Competition and Jealousy : In environments where people feel competitive, such as workplaces or certain social circles, giving compliments may be seen as an admission of vulnerability or inferiority. People who feel threatened by others’ success, intelligence, or appearance may struggle to compliment them, fearing that doing so would acknowledge someone else's strengths or achievements in a way that feels uncomfortable or disempowering. Lack of Practice or Awareness : For some people, giving compliments may not come naturally simply because they have not been taught or have not practiced it. They may not realize the power of a sincere compliment and how much it can positively impact someone's confidence or mood. These individuals might struggle with complimenting others because they have not developed a habit or learned the importance of acknowledging others' qualities. Perfectionism : Perfectionists may find it difficult to give compliments because they focus on faults or what could be improved. They might have trouble praising someone for something that doesn’t meet their ideal standard, even if the effort or achievement is still valuable. Perfectionism can prevent someone from acknowledging the effort behind an action because they are focused on how it could have been done better. Misunderstanding the Importance of Compliments : Some people may not understand the profound impact compliments can have on someone's confidence and mental health. They may undervalue the significance of positive reinforcement, thinking that compliments are trivial or unnecessary. For these individuals, offering compliments might not feel important or meaningful. Shyness or Social Anxiety : For people with social anxiety or shyness, the act of complimenting someone might feel daunting. The fear of saying the wrong thing or being judged can prevent them from offering sincere praise, even if they actually admire or appreciate something about the other person. In these cases, the anxiety surrounding social interactions can inhibit their ability to give compliments freely. Personal Boundaries : Some people may feel uncomfortable giving compliments because they are cautious about personal boundaries. They might worry that offering a compliment, especially about someone's appearance or personal qualities, could overstep what is considered appropriate or might make the other person feel uncomfortable. For example, giving a compliment about someone's clothing might feel too intimate for someone who values their personal space. Lacking Confidence : People who are not skilled in giving compliments may feel unsure about how to express their praise effectively. They may worry that their compliment will seem awkward, forced, or disingenuous if not articulated well. The fear of not being able to deliver the compliment in a genuine way can hold them back from even attempting. Avoiding Vulnerability : Giving a compliment often requires vulnerability because it involves expressing admiration or appreciation, which can make people feel exposed. Individuals who are uncomfortable with vulnerability or who avoid emotional openness may struggle to compliment others for fear of revealing their own emotions or desires. Overcoming these challenges For those who struggle to give compliments, understanding that compliments are a way to build positive relationships, create connection, and boost the self-esteem of others can be helpful. With practice, learning how to offer compliments in an authentic, thoughtful manner can become a natural part of communication. Whether it's complimenting someone's work, appearance, or personality, the act of giving praise can go a long way toward fostering kindness and encouraging a positive atmosphere. For example: Simple but Authentic : "Nice work!" delivered with down to earth tone and a smile can effectively convey appreciation. Enhanced Compliment : "The way you presented that information was so clear and engaging—nice work!" adds specificity for a greater impact. Focus on the Individual : Acknowledge something specific or meaningful about the person or the action to make your compliment feel more authentic. While simple statements like "You’re a great mom" are still valid, adding context or personalizing your remark can make it even more impactful. "You're a great mom! The way you teach kindness to your children is amazing!" Be Honest : Only give compliments you truly mean. Flattery for the sake of it often comes across as disingenuous. Consider Timing : Deliver compliments in a way that feels natural and relevant to the situation. For instance, complimenting someone’s appearance while they’re dealing with a stressful or emergency situation may not be good timing. Receiving Compliments Receiving compliments can be uncomfortable for some people. They may deflect or downplay the praise, often out of habit, modesty, or insecurity. Responses like, "I know" or, "It was nothing," or, "Oh, anyone could have done it," when someone gives you a compliment can unintentionally diminish the intention behind the gesture. The compliment giver is offering praise to acknowledge something positive, whether it's an accomplishment, a characteristic, or a skill. However, when the recipient dismisses the compliment in a way that minimizes their effort or dismisses the value of the compliment, it can feel disheartening to the giver. This kind of response can make them feel as though their gesture was not appreciated or that their positive recognition was unwelcome. Compliments are often meant to uplift the other person, so when the response is one of dismissal or self-deprecation, it can create a sense of emotional imbalance. The compliment giver might even begin to second-guess whether they should offer compliments in the future. They may wonder if their compliments are not received in the spirit they are intended, and whether it is worth continuing to acknowledge others' achievements and positive traits. This dynamic can also make it difficult to foster a positive and supportive atmosphere, as compliments play an important role in building trust and emotional connection between people. When compliments are met with self-effacement or an unwillingness to accept them, it can inadvertently disrupt that flow of appreciation and support. To keep this balance intact, the compliment receiver may need to consider not only the value of the compliment itself but also the effort and goodwill of the giver. A simple and gracious "Thank you" can go a long way in keeping the interaction genuine and maintaining a positive connection. If you want to elaborate, acknowledging the compliment by sharing your appreciation is another good option. It makes the interaction feel warm and appreciative, showing that you value the compliment and are engaged in the conversation. For example: "Thank you! I really put a lot of thought into it, so that means a lot." "Thanks! That's so nice of you to notice, I love this dress, too!" "That’s so kind of you to say, I really enjoy doing it!" "Thank you! I’m really happy with how it turned out, so I’m glad you like it." "I really appreciate that, thank you!" Why People Struggle to Accept Compliments Self-Doubt : People with low self-esteem often find it hard to believe the positive things others say about them. This inner struggle can create a barrier to fully accepting compliments, as they may feel unworthy or question the sincerity of the praise. Even when others offer honest praise, the negative self-talk can overshadow it, making it difficult to internalize the compliment. Over time, this lack of self-acceptance can erode confidence, leaving individuals trapped in a cycle of doubting their own value. Learning to accept compliments, however, is a vital step in building self-worth and breaking free from this cycle. It involves not only trusting the kind words of others but also working on recognizing one's own strengths and embracing them without hesitation. Cultural or Social Norms : In some cultures, humility is highly valued, and accepting compliments openly may feel awkward or boastful. For individuals from these cultures, acknowledging a compliment may seem like an act of arrogance, even if the compliment is authentic. They may feel uncomfortable when praised, as it goes against the social expectation of modesty and self-effacement. In such environments, the act of deflecting a compliment or downplaying one’s achievements becomes a way to adhere to cultural norms, ensuring that they do not appear overly proud or self-centered. For example, a person might respond to a compliment about their work with, "Oh, it was nothing," or shift the praise to someone else. While this response is often rooted in a desire to remain humble, it can also hinder connection, as it prevents the person from fully receiving the appreciation being offered. Learning to accept compliments in a way that balances humility with self-acknowledgment can be a valuable skill, allowing individuals to appreciate themselves without overinflating their sense of self-importance. In these cases, the key is finding a way to express gratitude without feeling like one is violating social expectations, making it possible to accept praise in a humble, gracious manner. Past Experiences : Negative experiences, such as insincere compliments or criticism, can make people wary of genuine praise. When someone has been given compliments that were either exaggerated or given with ulterior motives—like trying to manipulate or gain favor—they may develop a sense of skepticism toward future compliments. This can lead to a feeling of distrust, where the individual questions the sincerity of any praise they receive, even when it is well-intentioned. For example, if a person was frequently complimented on their work but later found out that the praise was used to manipulate them into doing extra tasks, they might become hesitant to accept compliments in the future. Similarly, past criticism, especially if it was harsh or unfair, can leave a person feeling vulnerable and defensive. When a compliment is offered, they may question whether it's honestly earned or if it's just a way to cover up a hidden critique. Over time, these negative experiences can shape how someone receives compliments, causing them to dismiss or downplay praise in order to protect themselves from potential hurt. This wariness can also lead to an emotional wall, where the individual becomes overly cautious about how they react to compliments, unsure of whether they can trust the intentions behind them. To overcome this, it may take time and positive reinforcement from others to rebuild trust in compliments and allow the individual to see them as authentic rather than a potential prelude to something harmful. Conclusion Compliments are more than just words—they reflect our ability to notice and appreciate the good in others. Whether they are given spontaneously, thoughtfully crafted, or accepted with gratitude, compliments can leave a lasting impression. They highlight the balance between humility and confidence, showing us how sincerity and timing shape their impact. By understanding compliments, such as when to offer them, how to accept them, and how to avoid fishing for them, we deepen our awareness of how meaningful communication helps build connections with those around us. When we practice both giving and receiving compliments genuinely, we create an environment where respect and appreciation thrive. Compliments, when heartfelt, have the power to strengthen relationships and boost confidence. They remind us of our value, while also showing others that their positive qualities and efforts are recognized. Valid compliments lift spirits and serve as reminders of the beauty one brings to the world. In this simple exchange of positive words, we foster a culture of kindness, where every gesture of praise is a way to build trust and a foundation for stronger bonds. Proverbs 27:2 "Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; an outsider, and not your own lips." What are your thoughts on compliments? Do you find them easy to give or receive? Do you have any favorites? Get in touch , I would love to read your thoughts!

It is mid-December 2024., and the air feels familiar. Not from the season, but from the weight of this moment. In December 2019, I prayed for strength, and I prayed to be able to emotionally let go of the love I had for my friend. I was ready to open my heart to what might come, and prepare myself for the new year with quiet resolve. I knew it would be difficult because we were best friends, and if either one of us fell in love with someone, our close friendship would have to change. God made sure I would let go without looking back by calling him home just three weeks after I dared to dream again. Through the years, I spoke with God in whispered prayers, shaping the vision of a man who might hold my heart. When I met someone just over two years later in 2022, I believed it was a divine connection, prayers answered, and a promise fulfilled. I was not mentally prepared for the trials, the weight of what we would endure, or the storms we would face, but I made a choice to put in the work. When the rope began to fray, I prayed for strength. I hung on, even when the rope unraveled, its threads barely remaining. I've been holding on to the hope that love could still find its way back to us. As January 1, 2025, approaches,, I feel the same questions rising in me as I had five years ago. Am I ready to let go for good and can I open my heart to someone new? This time, the letting go feels heavier because I know it has to be final. Not because my love is not real, and not because I lack faith, but because I am only in control of myself. I am not looking for new love—just like I wasn't looking when he came into my life. I only want to be prepared for the possibility of loving again. God knows what I need, and I pray for the courage to start anew, if that is His will. It is mid-December, 2024, and the clock ticks toward another year. I trust that God hears me, and will answer in His perfect time. Psalm 27:14 Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.

I really miss streaming! It was helping me to interact with others. I also enjoyed sharing my love of languages, as well as the games I played. I usually stick to games long after others get bored with them. It takes a great deal of trust to play with others, so I don't usually mind playing alone. Often, I would spend days creating scenes for streams, such as ASMR or Kind Words, with the understanding few if any would actually watch them. I not only loved the process of creating the scenes along with curating the sound effects and music, I enjoyed watching them and usually available if anyone wanted to chat. In June 2024, I had to make a choice to have my internet turned off for financial reasons, so I haven't been able to stream. I just got my 2024 Twitch recap, and was amazed at the hours stream in that short of time! There were also a ton of chat messages sent (12.6K), but I had a lot of them on timers for a variety of reasons. Many were asking for help with a link to my GoFundMe, others were topical trivia, and some were time and weather for various locations. I figured if someone didn't find my stream interesting or enjoyable, at least maybe the auto messages would give them something. Twitch Recap 2024 - All stats are accurate, but image enhanced for readability and completeness. I present myself as I am on my stream. I am typically straightforward, and say what is on my mind. I prefer to play my game without having chatters tell me what to do or what I can expect. I don't mind suggestions, but I think one should ask before offering advice. A large part of my enjoyment comes from trying new things and being curious. It is possible something could be accomplished easier, but that is not what I am always after. I may be doing some experimentation doing things 100 different ways, and if a chatter comes into my stream and blurts out the "right" way to do something, I can get very frustrated. In these instances, I want to be able to respond graciously. I will continue to pray that 2025 will be brighter, and I will be able to resume streaming. The signal strength on my cellphone where I live is unstable, so I can't even attempt streaming from my mobile. I am thankful I at least have hotspot data, allowing me to write posts and maintain this blog! It may be something you haven't thought about, but there are a lot of similarities between blogging and streaming. Content Creation Personal Expression : Both involve sharing thoughts, experiences, or skills with an audience! If only one person watches my stream or reads this blog, it is a success! Focus : Blogging and streaming can either revolve around a specific topic or interest area or they can both encompass a variety of interest. Originality : The creator's voice, perspective, and creativity define the content in both formats. When I first started streaming, I would never talk, only type. Titles : They both posts and streams require titles. Creating a title I like always takes awhile! II have been known to use "Add Title Here" in the past. Audience Engagement Building a Community : Both platforms aim to attract and retain a dedicated audience. I believe having a supportive community is more important than having a large number of viewers or readers. Feedback Loops : Audience comments on blog posts or chat messages in streams provide direct engagement. I am thinking of opening comments on my blog posts. Interaction Styles : While blogging has delayed interaction, streaming features live interaction, but viewers can watch streams through videos on demand. Growth and Monetization Discoverability : Blogs rely on search engine optimization, while streams focus on visibility in platform algorithms. Word of mouth and business cards—tell a friend! Content Monetization : Both offer monetization avenues through ads, sponsorships, affiliate links, or direct support (e.g., subscriptions, donations). Consistent Effort : Regular content creation is necessary to grow and maintain an audience in either medium. Keep 'em coming back for more! Skillsets and Tools Content Planning : Both require careful planning to create engaging material. Storytelling : Successful bloggers and streamers use storytelling to capture and maintain attention. My stories have lots of twists and turns! Tech Savvy : Blogging involves website management, while streaming requires proficiency in streaming software and equipment. Challenges Burnout Risk : Both blogging and streaming demand time, effort, and creativity, which can lead to creator burnout. It is important to recognize it before it happens! Algorithm Dependence : Both are subject to platform algorithms that influence visibility and growth. Balancing Personal and Public Life : Sharing personal experiences can blur the line between privacy and transparency. This is not an issue for me, as you will notice, I am an open book! Seriously, I’m so open, I might as well come with a table of contents! I’ve shared so much, my audience could probably write my memoir. Streaming has been an important creative outlet and a source of connection for me. While I’ve had to step away, reflecting on the similarities between blogging and streaming has reminded me of the passion I have for both forms of content creation. They each offer unique opportunities for self-expression and audience engagement, whether through carefully crafted posts or live interactions. I remain hopeful that 2025 will bring new possibilities, including a chance to reconnect with my streaming community. For now, I’m grateful to still have this blog to save my thoughts and share my experiences that may in turn help others. Proverbs 16:24 “Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.”

Can Coughing Save Your Life? I noticed a post circulating across various group pages with advice on how to help yourself if you are having a heart attack, including a recommendation to copy & paste. One of the posts had hundreds of shares, but as skeptical as I am, I didn’t share it right away. Before sharing such information, I wanted to research whether it was accurate or potentially harmful, and I am glad I took the time to check the facts. I have alerted the original poster in one group that the post was spreading false information. You may have seen these posts circulating online advising you to "cough repeatedly" if you think you're having a heart attack while alone. While this may sound helpful, it is not backed by scientific evidence or supported by reputable medical sources like the American Heart Associa tion (AHA), Canadian Cardiovascular Society, (CCS), Eu ropean Society of Cardiology (ESC), Resuscitation Council UK (RCUK), Heart Foundation NZ and Heart Foundation Australia. Coughing is not helpful—but this post might be! The consistent advice across these organizations is to prioritize calling emergency services (e.g., 911, 111, 112, 119, 999, or 000, depending on the country) and following standard first-aid protocols rather than relying on unproven methods. According to the RCUK website, most people experiencing a heart attack will not go into cardiac arrest, and attempting 'cough CPR' may actually make their condition worse. Why This Cough Advice is Misleading The advice is based on "cough CPR," a technique sometimes used in specific hospital settings during monitored cardiac arrhythmias. However, this method is not effective or recommended for heart attacks or cardiac arrests outside of a medical environment. Many people mistakenly believe that a heart attack and cardiac arrest are the same thing. However, they are distinct conditions. A heart attack can cause cardiac arrest, but they are not interchangeable terms. Here’s the difference: Heart Attack : A blockage in blood flow to the heart. Symptoms can include chest pain, shortness of breath, and nausea. Coughing doesn’t help in this situation. Cardiac Arrest : The heart suddenly stops beating, often leading to a loss of consciousness. It can happen suddenly or after other symptoms. Restarting the heart requires immediate CPR or defibrillation, not coughing. A heart attack needs immediate medical attention, but doesn’t need CPR. If a heart attack leads to a cardiac arrest, it is a critical medical emergency that requires immediate intervention – CPR and an AED. To reiterate, coughing is not an effective remedy and will not help during a heart attack or cardiac arrest. Heart Attack Symptoms Heart attack symptoms can vary between men and women. Women may experience less traditional symptoms, so it's important not to dismiss any unusual feelings or discomfort. Both men and women should seek medical help if they experience any of these symptoms, especially if they last more than a few minutes. For Men: Chest pain or discomfort  - Often described as pressure, tightness, or squeezing. Pain in the upper body  - May radiate to the arms, shoulders, neck, back, or jaw. Shortness of breath  - Difficulty breathing, even when resting. Cold sweat  - Profuse sweating without exertion. Nausea or lightheadedness  - Feeling faint or sick to your stomach. For Women: Chest pain or discomfort  - Similar to men, but may be less intense or sudden. Pain in the upper body  - Often in the back, neck, or jaw, with less focus on the chest. Shortness of breath  - A sensation of breathlessness or fatigue. Nausea, vomiting, or indigestion  - Sometimes confused with flu-like symptoms. Lightheadedness or dizziness  - A sense of faintness, especially when standing up. For further details on symptoms and heart attack response, you can consult sources like the American Heart Association or the National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute. What Should You Do? If you think you’re having a heart attack: Call 911 immediately . Don’t wait to see if the symptoms go away. Chew and swallow an aspirin  (if you’re not allergic and haven’t been told to avoid it by your doctor). Aspirin helps thin the blood and may prevent further clotting. Rest and stay calm  while waiting for medical help to arrive. If someone else is having a heart attack: Call Emergency Services Immediately Dial 911 (or your local emergency number) as soon as possible. The faster professional help arrives, the better their chances of survival and recovery. Encourage Them to Stay Calm and Sit or Lie Down Have them sit down, rest, and stay calm. Avoid unnecessary movement or exertion, which could worsen the heart attack. Give Aspirin (If Appropriate) If they are not allergic to aspirin and have no contraindications, give them one regular-strength (325 mg) or four low-dose (81 mg) aspirin tablets to chew and swallow. Chewing helps it work faster. Do not give aspirin if they are bleeding, have a history of ulcers, or if a doctor has advised against it. Help Them Take Their Heart Medication (If Prescribed) If they have nitroglycerin prescribed for heart conditions, help them take it as directed (usually under the tongue). Do not give nitroglycerin unless it’s been prescribed for them. Monitor Their Condition Look for changes in their symptoms. Are they having difficulty breathing? Do they lose consciousness? Perform CPR only if Necessary If they collapse, stop breathing, or lose consciousness: Call 911 (if not already done). Start hands-only CPR: Push hard and fast in the center of their chest (about 2 inches deep, at 100–120 compressions per minute). Don’t stop until emergency responders arrive or they regain consciousness. Use an automated external defibrillator (AED) if one is available and follow its prompts. Stay With Them Until Help Arrives Offer reassurance and stay with the person. Your presence can be comforting and might keep them from panicking. These steps can save a life. Quick action and calmness are key in a heart attack emergency. The Bottom Line Many of the circulating "home remedies," such as coughing during a heart attack, can do more harm than good. It's essential to recognize the true symptoms of a heart attack and take immediate action. If you're alone and suspect you're experiencing one, the best step is to call emergency services right away. The earlier you seek help, the better the chances of survival. Coughing repeatedly during a heart attack has not been endorsed by any reputable health organizations as an effective treatment. Rather than relying on methods like this, which have not been proven to save lives, focus on getting professional medical assistance as quickly as possible. Trusted sources like the American Heart Association offer up-to-date information on how to respond to a heart attack. In times of health emergencies, always follow expert advice to ensure your safety and well-being. Share this information with others to clear up the misinformation! Share this with friends and family to spread accurate, life-saving advice! Proverbs 4:7 "The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding."

Hammers are one of the most essential tools in any toolkit, yet their versatility and variety are often overlooked. From driving nails to shaping metal, breaking apart materials, or performing specialized tasks, hammers have evolved to meet countless needs. In this post, we will explore different categories of hammers, highlighting their unique purposes and providing a list of hammer types for each category. Whether you are a seasoned craftsman or a DIY enthusiast, understanding the right hammer for the job can make all the difference in efficiency and precision. Whether you are picking the perfect hammer for yourself or searching for a thoughtful gift, the details here are sure to guide your decision. It is time to uncover the fascinating world of hammers and learn what makes every type stand out. General Use Hammers When you need a tool that balances versatility and reliability, general use hammers are your go-to choice. These hammers excel at everyday tasks, from driving nails to light demolition work. Whether you are assembling furniture, fixing a fence, or hanging artwork, these tools are indispensable for tackling the basics with efficiency and precision. A trusted general use hammer is the cornerstone of any toolkit. Claw Hammer  - Commonly used for driving nails and pulling them out. Ball Peen Hammer  - Used for metalworking and shaping metal. Club Hammer  (or Lump Hammer) - Short-handled hammer for light demolition. Dead-Blow Hammer  - Designed to minimize rebound when striking. Construction and Carpentry In the world of construction and carpentry, precision and power are paramount. These hammers are purpose-built to meet the demands of framing walls, installing roofing, and delicate trim work. Designed to handle heavy-duty tasks while maintaining control, they are perfect for professionals and DIY enthusiasts alike. These hammers turn raw materials into masterpieces, one measured strike at a time. Framing Hammer  - Larger than a claw hammer, used for heavy construction. Tack Hammer  - Light hammer for upholstery work. Sledgehammer  - For heavy demolition work and breaking concrete. Drywall Hammer   - Features a hatchet-like blade for scoring drywall. Metalworking Hammers Crafted for those who work with metal, these hammers are specialized tools that shape, smooth, and refine with accuracy. Whether you are a blacksmith creating functional art or a mechanic handling repairs, metalworking hammers provide the durability and precision needed to manipulate tough materials. They transform hard metals into crafted pieces of utility and beauty. Cross Peen Hammer  - Useful for blacksmithing and shaping metal. Straight Peen Hammer  - Similar to cross peen but with a different head alignment. Planishing Hammer  - Used to smooth metal surfaces. Chasing Hammer - To add texture and dimension to metalwork Masonry and Stonework Built for the toughest jobs, masonry and stonework hammers are designed to shape, chip, and break stone and brick with ease. Their rugged construction can withstand repeated impacts, making them essential for construction projects and artistic stone carving. These tools make the seemingly unbreakable bend to your will. Brick Hammer  - One side for chipping, the other for splitting bricks. Stone Sledge  - Heavy-duty hammer for breaking rocks. P ickaxe Hammer  - Used for cutting, splitting, carving bricks and stone Specialized Hammers For unique tasks that require a specific touch, specialized hammers step in where general-purpose tools fall short. From roofing to welding to electronics, these hammers cater to niche needs with precision and efficiency. Designed for those one-of-a-kind challenges, they ensure that no project is out of reach. Engineer’s Hammer  - For heavy-duty mechanical work. Soft-Face Hammer  - Rubber or plastic heads to avoid surface damage. Welding Hammer  (or Chipping Hammer) - Removes slag from welds. Roofing Hammer  - A combo hatchet with a hammer for roofing nails and shingles. Electrician’s Hammer  - Slim head with staple removal to fit into tight spaces. Rock Hammer  - Used by geologists for splitting and examining stones. Decorative and Crafts Precision meets artistry with decorative and craft hammers. Lightweight and easy to control, these tools are perfect for delicate projects like jewelry-making or woodworking. They help bring creative visions to life with careful, detailed strikes. For anyone pursuing perfection in their craft, these hammers are indispensable. Jeweler’s Hammer  - Lightweight hammer for precision in jewelry making. Mallet  - Wooden or rubber, used for delicate work or assembling joints. Copper Hammer  - Non-sparking tool for flammable environments. Unusual Types Unusual hammers prove that not all tools are created equal. From ceremonial gavels to culinary meat tenderizers, these unique implements show how hammers can extend their utility far beyond nails and wood. They may not fit into a standard toolkit, but they serve their specific purposes with flair and functionality. Gavel  - Small ceremonial hammer used by judges or auctioneers. Meat Tenderizer  - Textured hammer for culinary use. Conclusion I decided to write this post after noticing I left my hammer out following a repair. It started me thinking about the variety of hammers I have used throughout my life— at least ten from this list! While I no longer own all of them, I still keep a good mix of hammers in my collection. My typical go-to (see cover photo) is a quirky flowery combo hammer with built-in screwdrivers , combining practicality with personality. Hammers might seem simple at first glance, but their diversity reflects how tools evolve to meet specific needs. Whether you're working on a major project or just fixing something small, having the right hammer makes all the difference. I hope this guide helps you find your perfect match—or maybe even inspires you to try a new one. Next time someone says, 'Let’s get hammered,' head to the tool aisle! Happy hammering! Ecclesiastes 3:3 "A time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build."

Helping others and people-pleasing may appear similar on the surface, but they stem from vastly different motivations and can lead to significantly different outcomes. This article explores the distinctions, similarities, and potential pitfalls of both, offering insights into how to help without losing yourself in the process. When people express that they enjoy helping others, it’s often a reflection of their desire to align with values such as kindness, altruism, and community. This self-description can also serve as a way to connect with others, gain social approval, or reinforce their identity as a caring person. However, the act of stating it may sometimes seem less genuine, depending on the context or tone. Why People Share Their Love of Helping Others Identity Reinforcement: People often define themselves by their positive traits. Saying "I like to help others" can affirm a part of their identity and project a positive image to others. Social Connection: Sharing this sentiment can invite like-minded people to engage with them, fostering connections built on shared values. Validation: Highlighting their helping behavior might serve as a subtle way of seeking acknowledgment or appreciation for their actions. Encouragement for Others: Sometimes, sharing this information is intended to inspire others to adopt similar behaviors. Contrast with People Pleasers People pleasers often have a more complicated relationship with their actions. While they may derive some satisfaction from pleasing others, their motivation is frequently rooted in: Fear of Conflict or Rejection:  They say "yes" to avoid upsetting others. Insecurity:  They may base their self-worth on how much others appreciate them. Exhaustion or Resentment:  Over time, the imbalance between giving and receiving can lead to feelings of burnout, frustration, or a longing for change. When describing themselves, people pleasers may not frame their behavior as purely positive. Their tone might reflect a sense of being trapped in their own pattern, even if they don’t fully recognize the underlying reasons. Understanding the emotional toll that people-pleasing can have allows one to cultivate a more sustainable and fulfilling approach to helping others, one that respects both the self and the people being assisted. This balance ensures that helping doesn’t leave you feeling drained or unappreciated, creating space for more authentic and meaningful connections. The absence of these negative feelings enables healthier relationships. Defining the Concepts Helping Others: Rooted in empathy, generosity, and the desire to make a positive impact. It’s often a choice made freely, without expecting anything in return. Volunteering at a soup kitchen because you care about supporting the less fortunate. People-Pleasing: Motivated by a fear of rejection, conflict, or a desire for approval. Often involves putting others' needs above your own, even to your detriment. Example: Agreeing to take on extra tasks at work, even when overwhelmed, just to avoid disappointing your boss. Similarities and Differences Similarities: Both involve acts of kindness and care. Both can strengthen relationships and foster community. They often look identical to outsiders. Key Differences: Helping comes from compassion; people-pleasing comes from fear or insecurity. Helpers set healthy limits, while people-pleasers often don’t. Helping energizes and fulfills; people-pleasing can lead to resentment and burnout. The Disadvantages of People-Pleasing Emotional Burnout:  Constantly prioritizing others can deplete your energy. Loss of Self:  Over time, people-pleasers may lose sight of their own needs and identity. Being Taken Advantage Of:  A lack of boundaries makes it easy for others to exploit people-pleasers. Strategies to Avoid Burnout and Being Used Set Clear Boundaries:  Learn to say no without guilt. Helping doesn’t mean sacrificing your well-being. Reflect on Motivations:  Ask yourself, Am I doing this out of love or fear? Prioritize Self-Care:  You can’t pour from an empty cup—take care of yourself first. Evaluate Requests:  Consider whether the person truly needs help or if they’re relying on you unnecessarily. Communicate Assertively:  Express your limits with kindness but firmness. Scenarios: Helping vs. People-Pleasing It is important to recognize the difference because it can help protect your mental and emotional health. If you only help because you fear letting others down or want them to like you, it can lead to burnout or resentment. True help should feel rewarding, not something that drains you. Recognizing why you help will help you set boundaries and find a balance where helping others does not come at a personal cost. When you help others because you want to, it does not feel draining. You can give what you have to offer without expecting anything in return. On the other hand, people-pleasing often comes from a place of fear—fear of rejection or a need for approval. This can lead to exhaustion and frustration because the motivation for helping is not about the other person’s need, but about trying to feel accepted or liked. Friendship Boundaries Helping:  A friend asks for advice, and you offer what you can, encouraging them to seek professional help if needed. People-Pleasing:  You take on the role of their therapist, neglecting your own mental health in the process. Helping : A friend calls to talk about a tough day, and you listen attentively because you care and have the emotional capacity at that moment. People-Pleasing : You sacrifice your own mental health to stay on the phone with a friend even when you’re exhausted, just to avoid upsetting them. Volunteering Helping : You volunteer at a local charity because you believe in the cause and feel fulfilled contributing your time. People-Pleasing : You sign up to volunteer for multiple events because you feel obligated to appear generous, even though you’d rather not. Helping : You agree to sort donations at a charity event on a weekend when you’re free, knowing it aligns with your values and available time. People-Pleasing : You sign up to lead multiple events for a cause you are not passionate about because you feel pressured by peers or fear letting them down. At Work Helping : A colleague asks for assistance with a task, and you agree because you have the time and genuinely want to contribute. People-Pleasing : You take on a coworker’s tasks even though you’re already overwhelmed, just because you feel guilty or fear disappointing them. Helping : You mediate a dispute between co-workers because you have experience in resolving conflicts and want to help them reconcile. People-Pleasing : You jump into the middle of their argument and side with whoever you think will like you more, even if it doesn’t reflect your true feelings. Family Dynamics Helping : You volunteer to organize a family dinner because you enjoy hosting and connecting with loved ones. People-Pleasing : You agree to host the dinner despite being emotionally or physically drained because you're afraid of being labeled selfish. Helping : You babysit your niece for an evening so your sibling can attend an important event, and you feel good about contributing to their well-being. People-Pleasing : You commit to regularly watching your sibling’s kids, even when it interferes with your responsibilities, because you’re afraid of being seen as unhelpful. Favors for Neighbors Helping:  Your neighbor asks for help moving furniture, and you gladly agree because you’re available and able. People-Pleasing:  You agree to help the same neighbor despite having a packed schedule because you’re afraid of disappointing them. Helping : A neighbor asks you to water their plants while they’re away, and you agree because it’s a reasonable request and you’re happy to help. People-Pleasing : You agree to mow their lawn every week without discussing limits because you’re afraid of being seen as unfriendly. These scenarios highlight how genuine help stems from a place of care and capacity, while people-pleasing tends to be driven by external pressures and often comes at the expense of personal well-being.  Recognizing this difference is important to prevent the cycle of overextending oneself out of a sense of obligation rather than genuine desire to contribute. True help uplifts others without losing yourself. Noble Traits or Personal Insecurity Both helping and people-pleasing can stem from noble intentions. However, people-pleasing is often tied to deeper insecurities, such as low self-worth or a fear of abandonment. Recognizing and addressing these underlying issues can help you shift from people-pleasing to healthy, purposeful helping. Helping others without announcing it is often viewed as more selfless because the focus remains on the action rather than the recognition. Genuine acts of kindness tend to come from intrinsic motivation rather than a need to broadcast them. That said, telling others about your enjoyment of helping isn’t inherently disingenuous—it depends on why and how it’s shared: If shared as a means of self-promotion, it can come across as less authentic. If shared with humility or to inspire others, it may feel more sincere. Ultimately, both helping and sharing that you enjoy helping can have positive effects. The key lies in motivation and intention. Balancing Altruism and Approval Someone with both traits—genuine helper and people pleaser—might struggle with balancing their authentic desire to assist others with the constant need to meet others' expectations. They may find themselves overcommitting, feeling fulfilled by helping yet drained by saying "yes" to tasks that stem more from fear of rejection or guilt than genuine intention. This inner conflict can lead to burnout, resentment, and difficulty setting boundaries, as they navigate the tension between acting out of compassion and the pressure to gain approval. This struggle matters because it directly impacts emotional well-being, relationships, and the effectiveness of their help. When someone acts out of genuine care, their efforts are viable and satisfying. However, if people-pleasing motivations dominate, they risk neglecting their own needs, leading to exhaustion or even resentment. Over time, this imbalance can harm relationships, as their support may feel less authentic or conditional. Recognizing and addressing these dynamics helps individuals maintain healthy boundaries, ensuring they can provide meaningful help without compromising their emotional health or sense of self-worth. Conclusion: Helping others is a beautiful, noble act when done with the right intentions. Recognizing the differences between helping and people-pleasing ensures that your kindness doesn’t come at the cost of your own well-being. By setting boundaries, reflecting on your motivations, and practicing self-care, you can continue to make a difference in the lives of others—without losing yourself along the way. Philippians 2:3-4 "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others."

Imagine if tipping was balanced with a "❌- you're fired" option for bad service—suddenly every server would be a ✔️superstar, right? I put this here to highlight the imbalance of responsibility when customers are essentially paying wages through tips. Tipping has long been a topic of heated debate, especially in the United States, where the expectation to tip often feels like a social obligation. Customers are frequently judged for not leaving a tip, even in cases of poor service, further fueling the controversy. There are companies that reject tipping altogether in favor of paying fair wages—a practice I personally appreciate for valuing workers' efforts without placing the burden on customers. This post will cover the complexities of tipping, its cultural and economic implications, and industries where tipping is customary. Tipping is the act of giving extra money, beyond the stated cost of a service, as a gesture of appreciation for the service provided. While it is commonplace in some cultures, it is absent or even discouraged in others. Tipping can be a way to reward excellent service and demonstrate gratitude, but it often serves as a method for employers to supplement the low wages of their employees The Purpose of Tipping Tipping provides financial support to service workers, many of whom rely on tips to make up for low base wages. In the United States, for instance, tipping is an integral part of the income for workers in industries like hospitality, food service, and transportation. Tips also act as an incentive for better service, encouraging workers to go the extra mile to satisfy customers. Servers frequently voice their concern about not getting tips even when it is clear they only provided a basic service to the customer. Blasting customers on social media if the tip did not meet their expectation shows an entitlement mentality. Customary Tip Amounts Tipping customs vary by country and industry. Here are some general guidelines: United States: Restaurants: 15-20% of the total bill before tax. Bars: $1-2 per drink or 15-20% of the tab. Hairdressers/Barbers: 15-20% of the service cost. Hotel Staff: $1-5 per service (e.g., housekeeping, bellhops). Canada: Similar to the United States, with 15-20% expected in restaurants. European Countries: Many include a service charge in the bill. If not, rounding up or adding 5-10% is common. Asian Countries: Japan: Tipping is generally not practiced and can even be considered rude. Exceptional service is rewarded with polite thanks rather than cash. China: Tipping is rare but may be accepted in high-end establishments or tourist-heavy areas. Australia/New Zealand: Tipping is not customary but appreciated for exceptional service, typically 10% or rounding up the bill. Scandinavian Countries: Service charges are often included in the bill, and additional tipping is minimal or unnecessary. Countries Where Tipping Is Discouraged In countries like Japan and South Korea, tipping is not part of the culture. It can be seen as undermining the dignity of service work, as employees are expected to provide excellent service without additional financial incentives. Employers in these countries often pay higher wages to ensure workers do not rely on tips. Industries That Expect Tips Restaurants: Tipping is a cornerstone of the food service industry. Hospitality: Hotel staff, including housekeepers, bellhops, and concierges, often receive tips. Envelopes for cash tips and "your convenience" are left on bed pillows. Personal Care: Hairdressers, barbers, and spa employees are commonly tipped. Delivery Services: Food and package delivery drivers often rely on tips. Transportation: Taxi and rideshare drivers, as well as valet parking attendants, typically expect tips. Many rideshare programs and food delivery services allow drivers to rate passengers or customers. While tipping isn’t always mandatory, customers who don’t tip—or tip poorly—might receive lower ratings from drivers. Here's how it generally works: Rideshare Apps: Drivers on apps like Uber and Lyft can rate passengers after a ride. Drivers might rate passengers poorly for not tipping. Passenger ratings are visible to drivers before accepting a ride, which could lead to trip requests being declined by drivers if they see a low score. Food Delivery Apps: Apps like DoorDash, Uber Eats, and Grubhub allow delivery drivers to rate customers, though this feature may not be as widely implemented as rideshare. Drivers can see the tip amount when deciding whether to accept a delivery request. If a tip is low or absent, drivers might decline the job or rate the customer poorly after the delivery. In some cases, customers place orders directly with merchants and are not offered the option to add a tip before or after delivery. This does not indicate that the customer chose not to leave a tip—they weren't given the chance to tip. Impact on Customers: Low ratings can affect the likelihood of getting timely service, as drivers may avoid low-rated customers. Some apps may even restrict or penalize users with consistently low ratings. This system is controversial because it puts pressure on customers to tip generously to maintain a good rating, which some argue undermines the idea of tipping as a voluntary gesture for good service. It also raises questions about fairness, as customers might be rated poorly for factors beyond their control (e.g., app errors or slow restaurant prep times). Focus on the Restaurant Industry Average Wages of Servers In the U.S., servers are often paid a base wage significantly below the federal minimum wage, relying on tips to make up the difference. The federal tipped minimum wage is $2.13 per hour, although some states mandate a higher base pay that can range all the way up to $16.28 per hour. President Trump made a campaign promise to eliminate taxation on tips which sounds like good news, but it will really only help workers in high-end restaurants that make enough tips to get taxed. Tipping Out “Tipping out” is the practice where servers share a portion of their tips with other staff members, such as bussers, bartenders, and kitchen staff. Tipping out isn’t widely discussed outside of the restaurant industry! It’s essentially a behind-the-scenes practice that ensures a more equitable distribution of tips among staff who contribute to the service but aren’t directly tipped by customers. This ensures that the entire team benefits from the tipping system, as excellent service depends on collective effort. The practice of tipping out began gaining traction in the United States during the late 19th and early 20th centuries, alongside the broader adoption of tipping as a norm. As the tipping culture grew within the hospitality industry, particularly in restaurants, it became clear that service given to the customer depended on shared work. By the mid-20th century, tipping out had become more formalized in restaurants, especially as operations became larger and more complex. It served as a way for the "back of house" and support staff to receive some financial acknowledgment for their roles in providing quality service. Today, many restaurants have policies and in some cases, tipping out is even mandatory, often specifying set percentages that servers are required to share with different team members. How Restaurant Owners Get Away with Low Wages Restaurant owners often justify low base wages by citing the expectation that tips will make up the difference. Under federal law, employers can count tips toward meeting the minimum wage requirement, a practice known as a “tip credit.” However, this places financial responsibility on customers rather than ensuring fair wages for employees. In states that do not allow tip credits, employers must pay servers the standard minimum wage in addition to tips. Final Thoughts Tipping practices reflect cultural norms, economic structures, and societal attitudes toward service work. While tipping provides much-needed income for many workers, it also raises questions about wage fairness and employer responsibility. Understanding the nuances of tipping helps foster respect for workers and supports informed decisions when using local services, traveling or dining out. In the past, many businesses, including restaurants, absorbed delivery or service fees as part of their operating costs. Over time, however, especially with the rise of food delivery apps and services, many of these fees have been passed on to customers. These fees now often include delivery charges, service fees, and sometimes "order processing" or "convenience" fees, which can substantially increase the total cost of an order before tipping. These fees may lead to customers skipping the tip—knowingly or unknowingly; right or wrong; justifiably or not. When posts about tipping pop up there are two prevailing comments: "Get a better job!" and "If you can't afford to order out, don't!" I personally don’t like the practice of tipping—not because I think workers don’t deserve a tip for great service, but because service is often mediocre at best. I feel tips should be a voluntary gesture for excellent service, above and beyond, not given out of empathy because their wage is low. I only recently learned the term "tipping out" and I was really stunned that servers have to share their tips with other employees. I had heard of tips being shared between servers which I never really understood completely. When ordering food delivery, tipping prior to the service being completed feels ludicrous. I prefer to tip at the door or adding it after delivery to make sure I am tipping appropriately and fairly. After closing the door, while pulling up the app to add a tip, I’ve had drivers text me obscenities about not tipping them. Thankfully, my current financial situation means I no longer can use these services, sparing me the added pressure of understanding tipping expectations and weighing the consequences of not tipping. If you have thoughts, comments, or experiences related to the topic of tipping—or any of the points I’ve raised—feel free to reach out! Whether you agree, disagree, or want to share your perspective on how tipping works in your area, I’d love to hear from you. Your feedback is always welcome, and if you’ve had any interesting experiences or insights, don’t hesitate to get in touch or submit your story ! 2 Corinthians 9:7 "Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver."

Sometimes when you think you have failed or something seems like a hindrance, only for it to later turn out to be a blessing in disguise—that is God working for you. This happens to me quite frequently, and when it does, I am reminded that worrying has never changed anything! Despite what others may think of me, I really don't worry much, even though I talk about the issues or problems I am facing. This helps my mind come up with solutions, and it helps me to stay calm in the throws of a crisis—mental or otherwise. It is a complicated process that isn't easily explained, but it works for me. I spent the past week preparing everything I wanted to sell at Brown's Junk in the Trunk Sale that was to take place on the Sunday before Christmas. During the previous month, I had a good experience at the sale and it really helped me financially, but I was still undecided if I wanted to participate in this one for a few reasons. I wondered if I could at least break even with the items I had left to sell considering there was a small charge of $15. I could not afford to lose $15 in cash. The weather was predicted to be very cold, near 40º F in the morning, but rising to the mid 60º F range by mid morning. There was a slight chance of rain. It was just before Christmas, on a Sunday which is not their typical flea market day, and I wasn't sure there would be enough shoppers interested in my items. Thankfully, I didn't have to make a decision until 7:00 AM on the day of the sale. I considered how I was going to pay for the upcoming bills and for food. The items listed on Marketplace would surely help cover those costs, if they sold in time. It was possible someone in the world would see my GoFundMe and donate. Neither was guaranteed, so I really had to focus and do everything I could to be prepared to go. I was able to find more items to sell in the bins that are still waiting to be unpacked. I felt accomplished with each bin I emptied, even if I wasn't going to sell all of the items I had uncovered. I decided to sell most of my jewelry, including my jewelry box. Here is where it got interesting, and a bit confusing. I am thankful I will be talking with my therapist in a couple of weeks. Some of the jewelry I didn't recognize, nor was it my style. I also found a small box of ammunition, but I have never, with good reason, owned a gun. I don't recall buying so much Premier Designs jewelry! I counted at least fifteen pieces! Premier Designs sold high fashion jewelry through independent distributors across America from 1985 until closing at the end of 2020. Buying Premier jewelry was similar to buying Avon, Home Interior or Tupperware back in the day—through direct sale parties! I am sure the jewelry I bought was only to show support. I think I remember the hostess' name, but not how I knew her, where we met, or even where the party was held. I had zero attachment to the pieces, so listed them on Marketplace. I had to figure out how I could display them if I decided to participate in the flea market. Within a short time, I remembered my bulletin board that I had leaned up against the wall. There was a variety of items attached with push pins that I no longer needed for inspiration. I wanted to remove the items for years, but couldn't—they were that special. I was ready now, and I made the jewelry display from the cork board, blind slats, and my business cards. I had it in my mind that I had to make enough money to pay two bills due a few days after Christmas. With this in mind, I loaded my car on Saturday night to go to the sale on Sunday. I was down to four small potatoes and one ramen pack to eat with no way to buy more until 26 December. God was providing a way for me to meet my obligations. This was a pop-up sale date voted on by sellers and buyers, and I wasn't about to miss the only other chance of making the money I needed. I also noted to myself, if it is God's will that I not attend the sale, money will come in prior to my early morning departure. I arrived at the sale, paid my fee, and was happily surprised that not arriving at 6:00 AM and instead arriving closer to 7:30 AM turned out to be an advantage. The land where the sale is held is on a farm. The sellers are typically setup on the lower back forty, and the buyers park in the field closer to the road. The first sellers to arrive are normally parked closest to buyer parking with later arrivals further away. That is how it was setup for the first sale I attended. However, this time sellers and buyers were all together on the upper field which they did announce, I just didn't know what it meant. They filled up the furthest rows first and worked their way back towards the road. This would make sure all sellers had a spot on the upper field before opening the rest of the field closest to the road to buyers for parking. I was set up right next to the buyers parking lot! During set-up time, venders walk around for first dibs on items. I set up my table and had to put my clothes rack and shoe rack together. The wind began to whip, so when the clothes rack was blown over, I had to reposition it. I was so appreciative a passerby offered his help to move it next to the table for support and suggested I put a heavy item on it's base! As I was unloading, I was thinking about prices. I had in mind what I wanted to get for each item, and I was willing to negotiate on some of the items. The jewelry I hadn't yet offered to the public, so I knew I wanted to stick to my prices for the most part. I put up a sign near the jewelry display about my engagement ring being available, but I kept it in the car, and pulled it out if someone asked to see it—there would be many compliments on its beauty starting with my first customer. A guy walked up right when I put my jewelry display out. I was really excited when he bought two pieces, and also gave me some solicited information on some of the other pieces that I had in my possession, but not in my memory. Another man, Mike, came buy and purchased one of the rings I had no recollection of owning. He offered a lower amount, and I told him truthfully that I needed the money to buy food. He offered some advice about a place I could get food, and paid me the price I was asking for the ring. With my seller fee already recouped before the event even opened to the public, I thought, "Today is already a victory—if I sell nothing else, that is okay!" Once the sale opened at 9:00 AM, I had people steadily stopping to browse for the first couple of hours, but then it slowed down quite a bit. I didn't hand out many cards because it didn't seem like the right crowd for the most part. A few times, long after the person moved on, I would remember I had my blog cards to hand out. I was grateful to be able to sell some things that were seasonal, since the season is nearly over! Many people looked at the jewelry, but mistakenly thought I was the dollar store. I had many genuine positive comments on many of the items I had at my spot, but it would take the right buyer to make a sale! A few people had looked at the GorillaLine I was selling, but the line wasn't long enough for their needs. It worked out in the end when one of the market workers stopped by making her rounds, and while thanking me for coming, spotted the GorillaLine! I gave her a deeply discounted price on it—a tip of sorts. A wonderful man named Jose stopped by towards the end of the sale and only five minutes after I remembered I wanted to sell a watch with no band, but left it in the car. I had found it in my jewelry box. It was a man's quartz watch that was not working, I knew nothing about it, and I had never seen it before. The face was black and it appeared to have a small diamond at the top. Jose was 84 years old, and came to America as a young adult in 1965. His Dad was born in 1914 and served in World War II, but lost his Dad about twenty years ago. Jose lived in California for the better part of his life, but he and his daughter now live in Florida. He was married for 50 years until his wife passed away. He also has quite a few family members that served in the military. I appreciate their sacrifice for my freedom. I really enjoyed our chat. Let me tell you about the nice people I had on either side of me! The person to my left made 3D printer items. What he did with a 3D printer looked amazing and really cool, even though I couldn't fully appreciate the items—they were for the younger Pokémon generation. He may have had other pieces, but I didn't look close because I knew I had no money to spend! I went over and talked to him for a moment. He anticipated making back the cost of the purchase of the 3D printer in about a year. I hope he continues to prosper because he is very talented and all the customers raved about his creations! I wish I was more of a raver, but internally I was really in awe. He mentioned that he commissions custom pieces, too. Check out his Instagram — fascinating stuff, Daniel! Click the Link or Scan the QR code To the right was a guy that was full of energy, a bit sarcastic, and even snarky at times. He had a lot of bright yellow and red 'All Prices Negotiable...' signs and many catch phrases like, "There may be a price on there, but you are NOT going to pay full price, I won't let you!" or this exchange, "How are you?" "Not very good, I'm still here!" He was selling a lot of workshop or home improvement tools , ladders, a door, a hand-truck etcetera. He started packing up at 1:00 PM, even though sellers weren't allowed to leave until 2:00 PM. I think he had enough room to pull out at two, but waited until I finished packing up about five minutes later. I was able to load everything up without too much trouble. I was thinking as I was placing each piece in my car as if it was a puzzle to be solved, "Wow, all those moves over the years have really prepared me for this moment right here!" Before I left, I told him I appreciated him being next to me and goodbye. The weather turned out to be quite breezy, but beautiful! I got a bit of sun on my face and opposite arm from last time—it is all evened out now! When I got home, I counted all the money I made, and was thankful I was only about $5.00 short for the bills, but still had no money for food. I went up to Marketplace and immediately discounted many of the prices—especially on the jewelry. I signed into my bank, and the balance was larger than expected. Apparently, I had already accounted for one of the bills due right after Christmas! I am not totally convinced, but I can't think of any thing else outstanding that hasn't come back! Instead, the figure I had in my head before the sale included three bills and two automatic withdrawals due after the first of the month, but a week before I receive my check. This means I had made enough cash for those bills and withdrawals and had money for food for about a week! I thank God for everything working out! This morning, after I went to pick up my groceries, and went to the bank to deposit the cash, I received a message about the jewelry box I had listed. Sara was out of town, and asked if I could hold it for over a week because she wanted to purchase it for a young girl. I first explained I really couldn't because I needed it for bills and food—which I will in two weeks. She said she understood, but then one of those Godly whispers urged me to reconsider. God provided for me this week. I have food and my bills will be paid. I should not worry about tomorrow, and this jewelry box may be just what this woman and young girl need. I was hesitant to even sell it as I have had over half of my life. I messaged her back almost immediately, told her I would hold it, and mark it pending. This flea market turned out to be more than just a means to make money. It is the catalyst that is needed to propel me into 2025 with a new outlook on life. This is a time of letting go—of things and of people. Removing the items from sight on the bulletin board was a good start. Whether it was little notes from colleagues, artwork created for me, small gifts that had significant meaning, or a reminder of awards I had won and the son I had lost, all held great importance at one time. Items, once a source of inspiration and a visual reminder, now hold a place in my heart, stored away in a box. The jewelry box—it was just storage for jewelry I never wore, and had been packed away in a bin for the last four years. The previous ten years, I kept it in my closet. The few pieces of jewelry that are important to me or I wear, I keep in a separate place. The jewelry box has been a part of my life, even when hidden in a bin, or on a shelf, traveling from address to new address. Yes, it was beautiful, and served a purpose, but in the end, despite its beauty—it is only a piece of wood, if it isn't cherished as it should be. Letting go of this jewelry box is symbolic of letting go of people who no longer cherish me or see my worth. It is ironic that the sale will take place on December 31. Goodbye 2024. Isaiah 58:11 "The Lord will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail."

Today, I sold my engagement ring. Even though it brought a tear to my eye and a sadness to my heart, the money will help me on the way to the life I deserve. After over a year of holding on with hope of a reconciliation, I’m finally ready to let go and welcome what is next. Growth comes from within, and I’ve learned through some serious reflection that no amount of hope or effort can force another to look within. Time gave me the strength to grow while accepting that not everyone is capable of the same. Years ago, I felt as though change should be avoided, thinking it signified weakness, failure, or that something was wrong or broken. I often said, "God made this way, talk to Him!" However, I know now that change is an essential part of growth. I will still comment, "I was born this way!" when someone points out an area of perceived weakness, but I am all about defending my stance or changing for improvement. The discomfort that comes with change is simply the process of stretching beyond what is familiar, allowing me to become stronger and more resilient. It is not about losing my identity, but about evolving and becoming the best version of myself. God gave me free will and a mind to lead, not to follow someone else's idea of what my relationship with Him should be. I prayed for certain traits in a man, and trusting in God's will, this relationship seemed to be the answer to those prayers. I still believe it was fate, set in motion by God, but maybe it was God's way of showing me that, even though He gave me everything I asked for, there is more to consider in a person. It took time for me to understand and accept all the red flags that others saw from the start. Leaving me at one of the most difficult times of my life, when I was physically, mentally, and financially at my worst, said more about them than it ever did about me. I didn’t give up on myself or on us. In the end, I didn’t lose anything but time. What was lost by walking away from our relationship and me will be measured by God—and only He knows the weight of it. What was taken from me has already been replaced. Now, with the sale of the ring, I’m stepping into the future without looking back. What was once taken—confidence, self-worth, peace of mind—has been replaced with something greater. Emotional stability and trust in my own judgment are stronger than ever. Joy fills my everyday moments again, and I am not just restored, but empowered. God wanted me to understand that a person may possess all of the qualities I desire, but still not be the right person for me. I should trust Him more deeply—He already knows the man who will be right for me and is preparing us both for each other. If you've experienced personal growth after a breakup and have a story to share, I’d love to hear it. Challenges can lead to some of the most important growth and the greatest transformations. Feel free to Get in Touch or send in a Submission —your experience could inspire someone else who is facing the same struggle. Ecclesiastes 3:6 "A time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away."