I went on Facebook to change my profile picture and cover photo and saw an advertisement for OneBlood . I had never heard of OneBlood before, but I have often donated blood through the American Red Cross . I read the OneBlood ad, and it mentioned receiving a $20 gift card and, at some places, a t-shirt. I put in my zip code, and it only indicated Publix in Ocala on March 30 and a place in Leesburg on April 2. I thought, "Too bad they are not closer and besides those dates are still two weeks away." My cover photo was of Travis, and as I was changing it out to some water-colored flowers, I wondered if they had tapped into his blood deposits as he lay dying. Travis was an avid, card-carrying blood donor, which was really odd considering his fear of needles. I would check next month to see if the OneBlood bus would be in a location closer to my home. I changed out the pictures and did not think any more about it. An hour later, I had just finished my second two-mile walk outside for the day and thought to myself, "I should go to Walmart and get stuff for a banana split, and some food that can be eaten without electricity in case of a power outage." We are expecting the possibility of severe weather in our area this evening—comfort food might be nice! I have been really practicing acting on a thought quickly instead of having to convince myself and going hours later. I looked at my bank balance and decided I would worry about how to replace the money later. I planned on spending $20 buying the ingredients for the dessert and for some type of wraps. I grabbed my keys and headed to the store. As I pulled into the Walmart parking lot, there in front of me was the OneBlood bus! I recalled the ad mentioned walk-ins, so without hesitation, I parked my car, took a deep breath, and opened the door marked "Enter." As soon as I saw the guy, I knew this entire thing was orchestrated by Travis. I felt an immediate calm. I filled out the paperwork, answered a ton of questions on a tablet, made only one slight mistake, and once approved, I was directed to sit on one of the reclined donor seats. There is usually trouble getting my blood taken or an IV inserted. Years ago, I had to have my blood drawn rather often, and time and time again, my arm would be bruised after their failed attempts. I do not know what it is about my veins, but today was not much better. My blood did not flow as expected! They were really nice, though—kindness does ease discomfort! It took some time, and my fingers got pretty sore pumping the stress ball nearly the entire time! They finally got enough blood out of me! He stuck on a band-aid and wrapped my arm in a bandage. At that point, I was really proud of my accomplishment, so I took that courage one step further and, on my way off the bus, I offered both of them one of my blog cards. inside of elbow bruised five days after giving blood For my donation, I was given two $10 gift cards for Walmart! Even though the rain had already started, I decided to still go in the store. I moved my car from the back of the parking lot, got out my umbrella, and headed inside. I knew I had to be quick in case the storm was imminent! I grabbed the food I needed and headed to the checkout. The total order—$20.12. It cost me only twelve cents after redeeming the $20 in gift cards that I had no idea I would even be getting today! This is a prime example of how God works! What is OneBlood? OneBlood is a nonprofit blood center that provides blood donations to hospitals across the southeastern United States. Their recognizable Big Red Buses travel to various locations, making blood donation convenient. Donors receive a wellness check, including blood pressure, pulse, and iron levels, and their blood is tested for multiple infectious diseases. Results are accessible online a few days after donation. OneBlood regularly offers donor incentives, such as gift cards, t-shirts, movie tickets, and other promotional items. These promotions encourage donations and provide a small token of appreciation. While these are a great bonus, the most important reason to donate is the lifesaving impact. A single blood donation can save up to three lives. Why Blood Donation is Important Blood cannot be manufactured; it must come from donors. Hospitals rely on blood donations for trauma victims, cancer patients, and individuals undergoing surgery. The need for blood is constant, yet only a small percentage of eligible people donate regularly. Blood donations are always in demand. Organizations including OneBlood use blood donations for research purposes, along with providing it for medical treatments. Donated blood can be used in a variety of ways. Medical Research : Blood donations can help researchers study different diseases, medical conditions, and treatments. For example, researchers might use donated blood to understand the effects of certain diseases like cancer, diabetes, or infections. Testing and Quality Control : Donated blood is often used to test for new blood storage methods or improve blood transfusion techniques. Development of New Therapies : Blood donations can also be used to develop and test new medical therapies, including those related to blood disorders or immune system diseases. Training Purposes : Blood is used in medical schools or training programs to help educate healthcare providers, including doctors and nurses, on blood transfusion procedures and techniques. However, organizations like OneBlood are transparent about their use of donated blood and prioritize patient care and emergency needs. Blood donations for research are generally handled with strict guidelines and consent processes to ensure donors understand how their blood will be used. If you are ever unsure, you can ask about how your donation will be utilized when giving blood. Eligibility Requirements Donors must be at least 16 or 17 years old, depending on the state. Donors must weigh at least 110 pounds. Donors should be in good health at the time of donation. Donation Process Registration – Donors provide identification and complete a short questionnaire. Health Screening – Basic vitals are checked and medical history is reviewed. Donation – The process typically takes 8-10 minutes for whole blood donations. Recovery – Donors rest for a few minutes and are provided with a snack and drink. Blood Types and Their Importance in Blood Donation My blood type, as well as Travis', is O-negative, which is the universal donor for red blood cells. This means my blood can be given to anyone, regardless of their blood type, making it especially critical in emergency situations when there is no time to determine a patient’s blood type. O-negative blood is in constant demand, particularly for trauma victims, newborns, and those with rare blood conditions. However, when it comes to receiving blood, I can only receive O- blood. This is because O- blood has no A, B, or Rh antigens on the red blood cells, which makes it compatible with all blood types for donation, but can only receive from the same type, O-, to avoid any immune reactions. Only about 6.6% of the U.S. population has O-negative blood, making donations from O-negative individuals incredibly valuable. Blood type plays a crucial role in determining who can donate to whom. There are four main blood types— A, B, AB, and O —each of which can be either Rh-positive (+) or Rh-negative (-), making a total of eight different blood types. Blood Type Compatibility for Transfusions Type O-: Universal donor for red blood cells (can donate to all blood types). Type O+: Can donate to O+, A+, B+, and AB+. Type A-: Can donate to A-, A+, AB-, and AB+. Type A+: Can donate to A+ and AB+. Type B-: Can donate to B-, B+, AB-, and AB+. Type B+: Can donate to B+ and AB+. Type AB-: Can donate to AB- and AB+. Type AB+: Universal recipient for red blood cells (can receive from all blood types). Universal Donors and Recipients O-negative (O-) blood is in the highest demand because it can be given to anyone, regardless of their blood type. It is especially critical in emergency situations when there is no time for blood typing. AB-positive (AB+) blood is the universal recipient, meaning individuals with this blood type can receive blood from any donor. Plasma donations work differently. AB plasma can be given to anyone, making AB plasma donors highly valuable. Blood Type Distribution in the U.S. O+ – 37.4% (Most common; in high demand) O- – 6.6% (Universal donor; critical for emergencies) A+ – 26.3% A- – 6.0% B+ – 8.5% B- – 1.5% AB+ – 3.4% AB- – 0.6% (Rarest blood type) Why Blood Type Matters for Donations Knowing your blood type helps determine how you can contribute. O-negative donors are especially needed, but all blood types are important since hospitals must maintain a diverse supply to match patients accurately. If you do not know your blood type, donating blood is a great way to find out! Organizations like OneBlood and the Red Cross provide donors with their blood type after donation. Every blood type saves lives—consider donating if you are eligible! Religious Views on Blood Donation Blood donation is a personal decision, and for many, religious beliefs play a significant role in shaping their views on the matter. Various religious traditions offer different perspectives on the practice of blood donation, and these views are often based on interpretations of sacred texts. Christianity : Most Christian denominations encourage blood donation, viewing it as an act of compassion and a way to help those in need. While most Christian faiths do not oppose blood donation, some branches, such as Jehovah's Witnesses, have specific teachings regarding blood. Jehovah's Witnesses believe that the Bible commands them to abstain from blood, including in medical treatments like blood transfusions. Therefore, they do not accept whole blood donations or the major components (red cells, white cells, platelets, and plasma). However, they may accept blood fractions, such as clotting factors, if they do not contain the main components of blood. Islam : In Islam, blood donation is generally permitted, as it is viewed as a charitable act that can save lives. The practice is not explicitly prohibited in Islamic law, and many Muslim scholars emphasize that saving lives takes precedence over other considerations. However, some caution is advised regarding the intent and method of blood donation, with a focus on ensuring the act is done for the benefit of others. Judaism : In Jewish law, blood donation is typically allowed and even encouraged as an act of charity, or tzedakah . The value of saving a life is highly regarded in Judaism, and blood donation aligns with the mitzvah (commandment) of preserving life. However, some Orthodox interpretations may have specific requirements regarding the way blood is handled, and it is recommended to consult with a rabbi for guidance in these cases. Hinduism : Hinduism does not have a specific prohibition against blood donation. In fact, the act of donating blood is considered a selfless and compassionate act, aligning with the principle of ahimsa  (non-violence). Donating blood is seen as an offering of one's resources to help others, in line with Hindu values of generosity and kindness. Buddhism : Like Hinduism, Buddhism encourages acts of compassion, and donating blood is often seen as a generous way to help others. The act of saving lives aligns with the Buddhist principle of compassion, or karuna , and can be seen as a way of promoting the well-being of others. There are no specific prohibitions against blood donation in Buddhist teachings, although individual Buddhist practitioners may have their own interpretations based on personal or cultural beliefs. The Impact of Blood Donation Every two seconds, someone in the United States needs blood. Accident victims, premature babies, and individuals with chronic conditions depend on the generosity of donors.  Many people assume there are enough donors, but blood shortages happen frequently. It is a simple act with a profound impact. A single decision to donate can be the reason someone’s parent, child, or friend gets another chance at life. If you are eligible, consider donating. It costs nothing, takes very little time, and could be the answer to someone’s prayer. Thank you, OneBlood! I will be seeing you again! Hopefully my blood will flow better! Proverbs 4:23 "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."

I first heard about chia in the 1970s, but not as a superfood—back then, it was all about the Chia Pet commercials. The catchy jingle— Ch-Ch-Ch-Chia!— made it impossible to forget the sight of little clay figures sprouting green “hair” after being coated with chia seeds. I never had one, but the image and the word chia stuck with me. Fast forward to recently, when I came across an ad about chia seeds, not for decoration, but as a highly nutritious food. My curiosity grew, so I looked into their benefits, how to eat them, and even how to grow them myself. I knew I wanted to try them, so I found some affordable chia seeds on amazon . The package lasted me about three weeks while making a daily smoothie or pudding—recipes included below! Chia seeds are small but highly nutritious seeds that have been consumed for centuries due to their numerous health benefits. They are an excellent source of fiber, protein, omega-3 fatty acids, and various essential minerals. Below is a detailed overview of their health benefits, how to consume them, a smoothie recipe, suggested fruit additions, and a guide on growing your own chia seeds. Health Benefits of Chia Seeds Rich in Omega-3 Fatty Acids – Chia seeds are one of the best plant-based sources of omega-3s, which help reduce inflammation, support brain health, and promote heart health. High in Fiber – Just two tablespoons of chia seeds provide about 10 grams of fiber, which supports digestion, prevents constipation, and promotes a feeling of fullness. Good Source of Plant-Based Protein – Chia seeds contain all nine essential amino acids, making them a complete protein source. Supports Heart Health – Chia seeds help reduce bad cholesterol (LDL) and increase good cholesterol (HDL), improving overall cardiovascular health. Regulates Blood Sugar – The fiber and healthy fats in chia seeds help slow digestion, which can prevent blood sugar spikes. Boosts Bone Health – Chia seeds contain calcium, magnesium, and phosphorus, which contribute to strong bones and teeth. Aids in Hydration – When soaked, chia seeds absorb liquid and form a gel-like consistency, helping to retain hydration and support electrolyte balance. How to Eat Chia Seeds Chia seeds can be consumed raw or soaked. While they can be eaten dry, soaking them enhances their digestibility and nutrient absorption. When exposed to liquid, chia seeds swell and develop a gel-like texture, which makes them easier to digest and reduces the risk of choking. The recommended daily intake of chia seeds is about 1 to 2 tablespoons (10 to 20 grams) for most people. Since chia seeds are high in fiber, it is best to start with a smaller amount if you are not used to eating them regularly. Also, drinking plenty of water is important, as chia seeds absorb liquid and expand in the stomach, which helps with digestion and satiety but can cause discomfort if not taken with enough fluids. Common ways to eat chia seeds include: Sprinkling them over yogurt, oatmeal, or cereal. Adding them to baked goods such as muffins or pancakes. Mixing them into smoothies. Making chia pudding by soaking them in milk or plant-based alternatives. Stirring them into soups or sauces as a thickening agent. Chia Seed Smoothie Recipe This smoothie is a simple yet powerful way to nourish your body and stay full longer. It is nutritious, hydrating, and easy to prepare. I personally use a magic bullet to make my smoothies. The small cup is the perfect size for this recipe unless you add fruit. Adding fruits like banana, mango, or pineapple enhances the flavor while providing extra vitamins, minerals, and natural energy. In this case, you will want to use the tall cup. The chia seeds  provide a rich source of omega-3 fatty acids, fiber, and protein, which support heart health, digestion, and sustained energy. Unsweetened vanilla almond milk adds a creamy texture while keeping the smoothie dairy-free and low in calories. The honey adds a natural sweetness while offering antibacterial properties and a small boost of antioxidants. Blending these ingredients together creates a smooth, refreshing drink that supports hydration, gut health, and balanced blood sugar. Ingredients: 1 cup unsweetened vanilla almond milk (or your favorite milk) 2 tablespoons chia seeds 1 teaspoon honey (Optional) ½ cup fruit of your choice Instructions: Soak the chia seeds – Add the chia seeds to the almond milk and let them soak for 15 minutes. This step is crucial because it allows the seeds to absorb liquid, making them easier to digest and releasing their beneficial nutrients. Add ingredients – After soaking, add honey and any optional fruits. Use a Magic Bullet or blender – Blend until smooth. Serve immediately – Enjoy a nutrient-dense, refreshing smoothie. Basic Chia Pudding Recipe Chia pudding is like a thicker version of a smoothie because it only uses 1/2 cup of milk per two tablespoon of chia seeds, which absorb liquid and form a gel-like consistency. Unlike a smoothie, chia pudding is meant to be eaten with a spoon.. Letting it sit for a few hours (or overnight) gives it a pudding-like texture, making it a great option for a healthy breakfast or snack. You can make a bigger batch and refrigerate up to 5 days. When you are ready to eat it, top with your favorite fruit for added flavor and variety! I use these 8 oz jars  which is the perfect size for a quick snack with room to add fruit. Ingredients: 1/2 cup unsweetened vanilla almond milk (or your favorite milk) 2 tablespoons chia seeds 1 teaspoon honey (Optional) ½ cup fruit of your choice Instructions: Mix ingredients – In a jar or bowl, combine the milk, chia seeds, sweetener, and vanilla extract. Stir well. Let it sit – Cover and refrigerate for at least 2 hours (or overnight). Stir again after 30 minutes to prevent clumping. Check consistency – The pudding should be thick and creamy. If too thin, add more chia seeds and let it sit longer. If too thick, stir in a little more milk. Serve and enjoy – Add toppings like fresh fruit, nuts, coconut flakes, or cinnamon. Suggested Fruit Additions for Smoothie and Pudding Adding fruit to your chia smoothie can enhance flavor and nutritional value. Here are some excellent options: Banana – Provides natural sweetness, potassium, and a creamy texture. Mango – Adds tropical flavor and is rich in vitamin C and fiber. Pineapple – Sweet and tangy taste, with digestive enzymes that support gut health. Strawberries – Packed with antioxidants and vitamin C. Blueberries – High in antioxidants and fiber. Raspberries – Add a tart flavor and additional fiber. How to Grow Your Own Chia Seeds Chia plants (Salvia hispanica) are easy to grow and require minimal maintenance. By growing your own chia seeds, you can have a fresh, organic supply for your smoothies and meals. Here is a step-by-step guide: Choose the Right Location Chia plants thrive in warm climates and require full sunlight. They prefer well-drained soil and can tolerate dry conditions. Planting the Seeds Scatter chia seeds directly in the soil or in a pot. Lightly cover with a thin layer of soil (about ¼ inch). Water lightly to keep the soil moist but not soggy. Germination and Growth Chia seeds usually sprout within 7 to 14 days. Thin out the plants to allow proper spacing (about 12 inches apart). They will grow into tall plants (up to 3-4 feet) Eventually producing small purple or white flowers. Watering and Care Water the plants regularly but allow the soil to dry between watering. Chia plants do not require much fertilization, but will benefit from compost. Harvesting Chia Seeds Chia plants bloom after about 3-4 months. Once the flowers dry out, the seeds will be ready for harvest. Cut the flower heads, place them in a paper bag, shake to release the seeds. Store the seeds in an airtight container. The full life cycle of a chia plant typically lasts 4 to 6 months, from germination to flowering and seed production. Chia plants are annuals, meaning they complete their life cycle in one growing season and will not return the following year. However, if the seeds naturally fall to the ground, they may self-seed and grow again the next season under the right conditions. Conclusion Once considered nothing more than a novelty item, chia seeds have proven to be a true nutritional powerhouse. Their impressive health benefits, versatility in recipes, and ease of cultivation make them a valuable addition to any diet. Whether you are blending them into a smoothie, sprinkling them over your meals, or even growing your own supply at home, these tiny seeds pack a big punch when it comes to wellness. By incorporating chia seeds into your daily routine, you can enjoy better digestion, sustained energy, and improved heart health—all from a simple, natural source. From their humble beginnings as a decorative plant in the 70s to their well-earned status as a superfood today, chia seeds have certainly come a long way. Now, armed with knowledge and a delicious smoothie recipe, you can take full advantage of their benefits and make them a staple in your diet. 3 John 1:2 "Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well."

In a world where new things constantly replace the old, we often overlook the stories hidden within the objects we use every day. A simple chair, a wristwatch, or even a kitchen spoon might seem ordinary, but each carries a history—some filled with sentiment, others marked by chance encounters. Let us take a closer look at the forgotten stories behind common items and uncover their unexpected significance. Buttons: More Than Just Fasteners You see buttons on almost every piece of clothing, but they were once symbols of wealth and status. In medieval Europe, buttons were decorative rather than functional. The wealthy used them to show off their riches, while the lower classes had to rely on simple ties and laces. It was not until later that buttons became common fasteners for clothing. Even today, some collectors seek out rare buttons made from materials like gold, ivory, or mother-of-pearl. The Worn-Out Chair At first glance, a wooden chair may seem unremarkable. But imagine the hands that crafted it decades ago, the families that have gathered around it, and the conversations it has witnessed. Many chairs in old homes bear the weight of generations. The scratches tell of childhood mischief, where tiny hands once grasped its legs for support. The faded seat may have been where an elderly grandmother sat every evening, sharing wisdom with her grandchildren. A simple piece of furniture, yet woven with stories of love, laughter, and loss. The Timekeeper on Your Wrist A wristwatch is more than a device to tell time; it is a silent witness to life’s moments. Some are heirlooms, passed down through generations, carrying the touch of those who have long since gone. Others are gifts, marking significant milestones—a graduation, a wedding, a career achievement. Some watches have been through wars, their ticking hands a testament to resilience. Each scratch on the glass, every worn leather strap, tells a story of where the watch has been and the lives it has touched. The Teddy Bear: A Political Symbol Turned Childhood Companion You may have had a teddy bear as a child, but do you know its origin? In 1902, President Theodore Roosevelt refused to shoot a bear that had been tied up for him during a hunting trip. The story spread, and a toy maker created a stuffed bear in his honor. The "Teddy Bear" was born and quickly became one of the most popular toys in history. The Teddy Bear with Worn Fur A child’s teddy bear, with one missing eye and patches of fur rubbed away, is more than just a toy—it is a companion that has comforted during sleepless nights, shared secrets, and provided security in times of fear. Some stuffed animals have been passed down, each new child adding another chapter to its story. Others have been abandoned in thrift stores, waiting for new hands to cherish them once again. To the child who loved it, that teddy bear was not just fabric and stuffing—it was a friend. The Book with Dog-Eared Pages A book with yellowed pages and a cracked spine holds more than just words—it contains the essence of its readers. A well-loved novel may have been passed from one set of hands to another, carrying notes in the margins, a pressed flower between its pages, or a forgotten receipt marking a place. A used book from a thrift store might have been someone’s escape, a source of comfort in tough times, or a gift from a loved one. The fingerprints left behind on the pages are silent whispers of the readers who once got lost in its story. The Unassuming Key Keys are small, often overlooked, yet they hold the power to unlock doors to memories. A keychain filled with old, unmarked keys may once have opened the doors to childhood homes, a first apartment, or a now-closed shop. Some keys belonged to safes that protected family heirlooms, while others led to cars that carried people on life-changing journeys. Holding an old key can make one wonder—what did it once open, and what stories did it keep locked away? The QWERTY Keyboard: Designed for Slower Typing You likely type on a QWERTY keyboard every day, but its design was never meant for efficiency. The layout was created in the 1870s to prevent typewriter keys from jamming. While more efficient layouts exist today, QWERTY remains the standard simply because people are used to it. The Coin Passed from Hand to Hand Coins are among the most traveled objects in the world. A simple penny could have been in the pocket of a soldier during a war, flipped into a fountain with a wish, or used by a child to buy their first piece of candy. Some coins are lucky charms, carried in wallets for years, while others bear marks from decades of circulation. The next time you hold an old coin, consider the countless hands it has passed through and the places it has seen. Tea Bags: A Mistake That Changed the Way You Drink Tea You may assume tea bags were intentionally invented, but they were actually a mistake. In 1908, a tea merchant named Thomas Sullivan sent out samples of tea in small silk bags. Customers mistakenly dipped the entire bag in hot water instead of opening it. The idea caught on, and tea bags became a staple of convenience. The Kitchen Spoon Stirring Memories A wooden spoon in a kitchen drawer might seem insignificant, but it could have been the tool used to stir family meals for generations. Some spoons carry the essence of countless recipes, their wood darkened by the ingredients of dishes that brought people together. Perhaps it was a wedding gift, or maybe it was used to bake cookies with grandchildren. Each tiny groove in its surface is a reminder of the meals that nourished bodies and souls alike. The Shopping Cart: An Innovation People Refused to Use You probably grab a shopping cart without thinking twice, but when they were first introduced in 1937, shoppers rejected them. People thought they looked silly or unnecessary. It took store employees demonstrating their usefulness to get people to accept them. Today, they are an essential part of grocery shopping. Post-it Notes: A Failed Glue That Became a Success You might use Post-it Notes to jot down reminders, but they exist because of a failed experiment. In the 1960s, a scientist at 3M was trying to create a strong adhesive but ended up with one that was weak and removable. Instead of discarding it, another scientist found a use—temporary bookmarks that led to the creation of Post-it Notes. Manhole Covers: Designed to Never Fall In You have probably walked over a manhole cover without thinking about its design. They are round for a specific reason—so they cannot fall into the hole they cover. A square or rectangular cover could accidentally be dropped in diagonally, creating a dangerous situation. The round shape prevents this from happening. The Handwritten Letter in a Forgotten Drawer In the digital age, a handwritten letter is a relic of the past, yet it carries more emotion than a thousand emails ever could. Love letters from decades ago, notes of encouragement, or even simple postcards speak of connections once treasured. Some letters were never sent, their words frozen in time, while others traveled across the world to reach a loved one. A single piece of paper, inked with human emotion, holds a story waiting to be rediscovered. Blue Jeans: Workwear Turned Fashion Statement You wear jeans without thinking about their origins. In the 1870s, Levi Strauss and Jacob Davis designed them as durable workwear for miners. The reinforced rivets and strong denim fabric made them ideal for hard labor. Over time, jeans became a fashion statement, now worn by people from all walks of life. The Shoes That Walked a Thousand Miles A pair of worn-out shoes might seem like something to discard, but they tell a story of where they have been. Running shoes that once pounded the pavement in marathons, work boots that stood on construction sites, or elegant heels that danced at weddings—all hold memories of experiences and achievements. Each scuff, each crease, is a mark of a journey taken, a step made toward something meaningful. Barcodes: Created to Speed Up Grocery Lines You see barcodes on nearly every product, but they were invented to solve a simple problem—long checkout lines. In 1948, a grocery store owner asked two inventors to find a way to speed up transactions. Their solution, a barcode system, was initially dismissed as impractical. It took over two decades for it to become widely adopted, but now it is essential for tracking inventory and purchases. The Photograph Fading with Time A black-and-white photograph tucked away in a forgotten album holds a universe of memories. Some pictures capture joyous occasions, while others freeze moments of sorrow. A photograph found in an antique shop may show strangers whose stories will never be fully known. Yet, in that frozen moment, there is life—a story that was once vivid, now left for someone else to imagine. Conclusion Everyday objects often have stories that go unnoticed. The items you take for granted were once groundbreaking innovations, accidental discoveries, or symbols of something greater. Every object around us has a past, a story hidden within its scratches, stains, and wear. We often overlook these silent storytellers, replacing them with newer, shinier versions, without considering the history behind them. But if we take a moment to listen—to trace the history of a watch, a book, a key, or even a spoon—we may uncover the beauty in the forgotten stories behind everyday objects. Perhaps, by valuing the past, we gain a deeper appreciation for the present, and for the objects that will one day carry our own untold stories. Next time you are ready to discard an old object consider the story within—you might be surprised by what you find.

You rely on the internet for quick answers, but not everything you read is accurate. Misinformation spreads fast, and viral myths can influence decisions, beliefs, and even public policy. I wanted to write this post because misinformation is everywhere, and it affects people in ways they might not even realize. Sometimes, false information is shared innocently, while other times, it is intentional. Either way, when the internet gets it wrong, the consequences can either be harmless, useless, or serious. Even on my own social media, I changed my status to "In a relationship" because I was getting unwanted messages and friend requests from men. The status does not explicitly say it is a romantic relationship, but people can interpret it however they want. The important thing is that it served its intended purpose—reducing the unwanted attention. It should not even matter since I only use Facebook for Marketplace, but it proves how people often take online information at face value without questioning it. Health Myths That Refuse to Die You have likely seen health advice online that sounds believable but is completely false. A common example is the idea that drinking eight glasses of water a day is necessary for everyone. This claim is not based on scientific evidence. In reality, water needs vary based on factors such as body size, activity level, and climate. Some people may require more, while others may need less. The body also gets hydration from food and other beverages, so strictly following the "eight glasses" rule is unnecessary. Another dangerous myth is that vaccines cause autism. This false claim originated from a now-debunked study published in 1998. The study was retracted, and the doctor responsible lost his medical license. However, the misinformation spread quickly and has had lasting consequences. Some parents, afraid of potential risks, have refused vaccinations for their children, leading to outbreaks of preventable diseases such as measles and whooping coug h. Protect your children by getting them vaccinated. Another persistent myth is that cracking your knuckles causes arthritis. Studies have shown that knuckle cracking is harmless and does not contribute to joint damage or arthritis. In fact, some studies have even suggested that knuckle cracking may be beneficial for joint health, as it helps to stretch and lubricate the joints.  Despite this, the belief continues to spread, often passed down through generations as fact. Misleading Home Remedies You might have come across home remedies that promise quick fixes for common problems. Some are harmless, but others can be dangerous. One viral myth suggested using toothpaste to treat burns. The logic behind this claim is that toothpaste feels cool, so it should soothe burns. In reality, toothpaste can trap heat, irritate the skin, and increase the risk of infection. The best immediate treatment for a burn is to run cool water over it for several minutes and then apply a sterile dressing. Another common myth is that cutting an onion and leaving it in a room will absorb bacteria and prevent illness. While onions do have some antibacterial properties when consumed, simply placing a cut onion in a room does nothing to purify the air or prevent disease. The danger in believing this myth is that people may ignore proven hygiene practices, such as washing hands or cleaning surfaces, in favor of an ineffective trick. Garlic is often promoted as a natural antibiotic, with claims that it can cure infections on its own. While garlic does have antimicrobial properties, it is not a substitute for antibiotics. Relying on garlic instead of seeking proper medical treatment can allow infections to worsen. Viral Hoaxes That Fooled Millions You have probably seen viral posts claiming that Facebook is about to start charging users. These hoaxes often include legal-sounding jargon, urging users to copy and paste a statement on their profile to "opt out" of new terms. Despite being debunked repeatedly, these posts resurface every few years, fooling new users each time. Another infamous example is the claim that NASA announced a specific day where eggs could stand on their own due to planetary alignment. This myth suggests that gravitational shifts make eggs balance more easily on the spring equinox. In reality, eggs can balance on any day if positioned carefully. The myth persists because people who believe it are more likely to try balancing an egg on that day, reinforcing the false idea that it only works under special conditions. Other hoaxes have had more serious consequences. In 2019, a viral claim suggested that inhaling hot steam could cure COVID-19. People attempted this in large numbers, some even suffering burns from steam exposure. The belief was based on the fact that heat can kill viruses outside the body, but this does not mean it is safe inside the body. False Historical Facts You may have heard that medieval people thought the Earth was flat. This myth is so widespread that it is even taught in some schools. However, educated people in ancient Greece, Rome, and the Middle Ages understood that the Earth was round. Sailors, astronomers, and scholars all had evidence of the Earth’s shape long before Christopher Columbus. The idea that Columbus "proved" the Earth was round is a modern invention. Another persistent myth is that Napoleon Bonaparte was extremely short. In reality, he was about 5’6” to 5’7”, which was an average height for his time. The misconception likely comes from a mix of British propaganda and a confusion between French and English measurements. Napoleon’s supposed short stature has been used as a cultural reference for over a century, despite being false. A famous misquote often attributed to Marie Antoinette is "Let them eat cake." There is no historical evidence that she ever said this. The phrase appeared in a book written before she was even queen and was likely misattributed to her as a way to paint her as out of touch with the struggles of the poor. Misinterpretations of Scientific Studies You may have seen news articles claiming that chocolate helps you lose weight or that coffee extends your lifespan. These claims often come from misrepresented studies. Sometimes, small or poorly conducted studies produce misleading results, and media outlets exaggerate the findings for attention. For example, a widely reported study once suggested that eating dark chocolate every day could aid in weight loss. In reality, the study had a small sample size, and the results were not strong enough to support such a conclusion. However, since the idea was appealing, it spread rapidly online, leading people to believe that chocolate was a miracle diet food. Dark chocolate does have some health benefits, but it is important to consume it in moderation, as it can be high in calories and sugar. Scientific findings often change over time as new research emerges. However, when early results are exaggerated in headlines, the public can develop false beliefs that persist even after they are corrected. Fake Product Reviews and Misinformation in Online Shopping You probably check reviews before making a purchase, but not all reviews are honest. Some companies pay for fake positive reviews to make their products look better than they actually are. At the same time, competitors may post false negative reviews to damage a product’s reputation. Amazon and other online retailers have struggled to control fake reviews. Some businesses even send free products to customers in exchange for positive feedback. Because of this, five-star ratings do not always mean a product is good. To spot fake reviews, you should look for repeated phrases, overly vague descriptions, or a suspiciously high number of reviews in a short time. Another misleading practice is when sellers edit negative reviews by offering refunds or replacements in exchange for changing ratings. This manipulates the overall rating, making it difficult for new buyers to trust what they see. This happened to me with an item I purchased. The sellers were persistent in asking me to change my review of their product. They offered a refund in addition to free products if I would remove the review. I did not see my problem as an isolated incident, so I refused their offer. Misleading "Life Hacks" That Do Not Work You have likely seen life hacks that promise to save time or money, but some are completely useless. One example is the claim that charging your phone in the microwave will make it charge faster. This is not only false but also dangerous, as microwaving electronics can cause them to explode. Another widely shared myth is that rubbing a walnut on scratched wood will repair it. While the oils in walnuts may slightly darken minor scratches, they do not fix deep damage. People who try this and see a temporary improvement may believe it works, but over time, the scratch remains unchanged. Some DIY home remedies also claim to remove stains or fix broken items, but they often fail or make the problem worse. One common suggestion is using toothpaste to fix scratches on a phone screen. However, the abrasive nature of toothpaste can often do more harm than good, leaving behind residue or even causing further damage. Conclusion The internet is full of useful information, but it also spreads myths, misinformation, and misleading advice. You cannot trust everything you read, even if it comes from a source that seems credible. Before believing or sharing information, take the time to verify it. A little skepticism can save you from falling for false claims and making bad decisions based on misinformation.

It has been some time since I have been angry. That is not to say everything is always perfect, but I have honestly not been angry like I have in the past. Thinking back a couple of years at the last times I was angry, frustration and hurt definitely played their part. Everyone wants to be heard, and when it seems your words are falling on deaf ears, it can become really frustrating. I can say with a fair amount of certainty that given similar circumstances as the past, I would be able to handle my emotions better. Anger is often misunderstood. Many people see it as an emotion that stands alone, but in reality, it is usually an outward reaction driven by hurt, fear, or frustration .  When anger arises, it is often because something deeper is happening beneath the surface. Recognizing this connection can make a huge difference in how you respond to anger—both in yourself and in others. Understanding the underlying causes, recognizing the signs of anger, and learning ways to manage it, you can take control of your emotions. The Root Causes of Anger Hurt – When you feel wronged, rejected, or betrayed, anger may arise as a defense. For example, if someone you trust suddenly ignores you, the hurt may transform into anger because it feels easier to react with frustration than to acknowledge the emotional pain. Fear – Anger may develop when you feel threatened. This does not always mean physical danger; it could be the fear of failure, embarrassment, or losing control over a situation. If someone gets too close to you in public and makes you uncomfortable, your fear response might manifest as anger instead of anxiety. Frustration – When things do not go as expected, anger can build. This often happens when you feel powerless, such as when someone cuts in line after you have been waiting patiently. The frustration of being treated unfairly or as if you are invisible can turn into anger. It Is Okay to Feel Angry Anger itself is not a bad thing. It is a natural emotion, and in some cases, it can even be useful. Anger can signal that something is wrong, push you to stand up for yourself, or motivate change. The problem is not anger itself, but how it is expressed. When anger leads to aggression, impulsive decisions, or lingering resentment, it becomes destructive. Learning to manage anger in a healthy way allows you to acknowledge your feelings without letting them control you. Recognizing Anger Before It Escalates Before anger takes over, your body and mind give signals. Some signs include: Increased heart rate or tense muscles Clenched fists or jaw Feeling hot or restless A sudden urge to yell or lash out Negative or racing thoughts about the situation Difficulty focusing on anything else If you recognize these signs, you have a chance to prevent an outburst. Steps to Control Anger Pause Before Reacting – Give yourself a few seconds to assess what is really causing your anger. Is it hurt, fear, or frustration? Identifying the source can help shift your focus. Change Your Breathing – Slow, deep breaths can calm your nervous system. Inhale for four seconds, hold for four seconds, and exhale for four seconds. Physically Release Tension – If you feel your body tensing, move. Walk, stretch, or shake out your hands to reduce the physical effects of anger. Adjust Your Thoughts – Challenge extreme thinking. Instead of, “This is unfair, and I cannot handle it,” reframe it as, “This is frustrating, but I can choose how to respond.” Step Away if Necessary – If you are in a situation where your anger is growing, remove yourself temporarily. A few minutes of distance can help regain control. Express Yourself Calmly – Once you feel more in control, address the issue without aggression. Use clear and direct language rather than yelling or making accusations. Find a Long-Term Strategy – If anger is a recurring issue, consider healthy outlets such as exercise, journaling, or talking to someone who can provide guidance. Long-Term Solutions for Managing Anger If anger is affecting your daily life, relationships, or well-being, seeking long-term solutions can help you gain better control. Therapy, anger management classes, or self-help resources may provide long-term solutions. Therapy — There are different types of therapy that may be beneficial. Therapy provides a structured environment to explore the root causes of anger and develop coping strategies. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): This helps identify negative thought patterns that contribute to anger and replaces them with healthier ways of thinking. For example, instead of automatically assuming someone is disrespecting you, CBT teaches you to consider alternative explanations and respond more calmly. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT): Originally designed for individuals with intense emotions, DBT includes skills like mindfulness, distress tolerance, and emotional regulation to help manage anger in a balanced way. Psychodynamic Therapy: This focuses on past experiences that may be influencing your current anger responses. If unresolved childhood experiences or past trauma contribute to your anger, psychodynamic therapy helps uncover and address these deep-rooted issues. Therapy can be done individually or in group settings, depending on personal preference and needs. Therapy is available in person as well as online. Anger Management Classes - These classes provide structured lessons on understanding and controlling anger. These classes can be helpful for people who want practical strategies to use in daily life. Recognizing Triggers: Learning what situations, words, or actions set off anger responses. Developing Coping Skills: Practicing techniques such as deep breathing, positive self-talk, and de-escalation methods. Learning Conflict Resolution: Understanding how to express frustration without aggression and resolve disagreements peacefully. Role-Playing and Group Discussions: Practicing anger management techniques in a controlled setting with feedback from instructors and peers. Anger management classes are often available in person or online, making them accessible for different schedules. Self-Help Resources — For those who prefer independent learning, self-help resources provide guidance at your own pace. Some free with Kindle Unlimited. Books on Anger Management: Offer insights and strategies for handling anger. The Dance of Anger  by Harriet Lerner The Dance of Connection by Harriet Lerner Never Get Angry Again by Dr. David J. Lieberman Ph.D. Workbooks: Structured exercises can help track anger triggers and practice healthier responses. The Dance of Anger Workbook Anger Management Workbook for Men Anger Management - Never Explode Again! Online Courses and Videos: Websites like Udemy, Coursera, or YouTube offer courses from mental health professionals on anger management techniques. Journaling: Writing about emotions, triggers, and responses can increase self-awareness and help recognize patterns. Meditation and Mindfulness Apps: Apps like Headspace or Calm offer guided exercises to improve emotional regulation and reduce impulsive reactions. Each of these approaches provides valuable tools for managing anger. Some people find that a combination of therapy, structured classes, and self-help resources works best for them. The key is to find a method that fits your needs and allows you to take control of your emotions in a healthy way. Dealing with Someone Else’s Anger When you encounter someone who is angry, it helps to remember that their anger is likely fueled by hurt, fear, or frustration. Instead of reacting with defensiveness or anger yourself, try to see the situation from their perspective. Understanding their emotions does not mean excusing bad behavior, but it allows you to respond in a way that prevents escalation. Steps to Take When Someone Is Angry Stay Calm – Do not match their energy. If you remain calm, it can help defuse the situation rather than fuel it further. Take slow breaths and avoid raising your voice. Listen Without Interrupting – Many angry people want to feel heard. Let them express their frustration before responding. If you cut them off or dismiss their feelings, their anger may intensify. Acknowledge Their Feelings – You do not have to agree with them, but you can validate their emotions. Saying, “I can see why that would be frustrating,” shows empathy without escalating the conflict. Do Not Take It Personally – Their anger is usually about something else, not about you. Recognizing this can help you avoid reacting emotionally. Offer a Solution if Possible – If the situation allows, calmly ask, “What would help resolve this?” or “How can I assist?” This can shift their focus toward problem-solving instead of anger. Know When to Walk Away – If the person is unwilling to calm down or becomes threatening, remove yourself from the situation. You cannot always reason with someone who is out of control. Examples of Handling an Angry Person A Friend — Your friend suddenly snaps at you and says, “You never support me!” Instead of responding with, “That’s not true!” you can say, "I did not realize you felt that way. Can you tell me why you feel unsupported?" This opens the door for them to explain their frustration rather than turning the situation into an argument. A Cashier at a Store — You notice a cashier being short-tempered with customers, including you. Instead of snapping back, consider why they may be acting this way. Maybe they are exhausted, dealing with rude customers, or stressed about personal issues. A simple, “It seems like today has been rough. I hope it gets better for you,” may change their attitude or at least prevent further negativity. Another Driver — A driver cuts you off and then angrily gestures at you. Your initial instinct may be to honk or yell, but instead, consider that they may be stressed, running late, or simply having a bad day. Instead of escalating the situation, you can let it go. Retaliating will not make the situation better and could make it worse. By choosing to see life from the other person’s perspective, you might gain insight into why they are reacting the way they are. Their anger is not an excuse for bad behavior, but understanding it can help you respond in a way that reduces tension instead of adding to it. Remember, often anger is misdirected, and possibly not even about you. Understanding that anger often stems from hurt, fear, or frustration can make it easier to control or be on the other end of an angry outburst. The more awareness you have, the better you can manage your reactions. Ephesians 4:26 “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,"

In this post, I want to explore a thought experiment—a fictional dialogue between my former fiancé and God. Maybe it is my attempt to understand by imagining this conversation that touches on the complexities of love, fear, and choices. It is a way to reflect on the questions and feelings that have lingered long after we parted ways. This conversation from my perspective only, although hypothetical, might offer a glimpse into the deeper truths of what happened between us.  I cannot say for certain what would be said in such a moment, but I imagine it could go something like this. God:  "You are standing before Me now, and I have a question. Why did you break up with the woman I handpicked for you?" Him:  "I thought it was the best decision at the time." God:  "Best for whom? For her? For you? For My plan?" Him:  "I was scared. I was not sure if I could handle the responsibility." God:  "Did she ever ask you for more than you could give?" Him : "It felt like she wanted all of my time, even when I was tired." God : "Did you ever stop to consider love is about showing up, even when you're tired." Him:  "No… but I felt like I was stretched thin and would eventually let her down." God : "Did you tell her how you felt, or did you shut down when the pressure built?" Him : "I didn't always tell her. I didn't want to burden her with my own struggles." God : "But did you consider that she might have been walking through her own battles?" Him : "I know. But it was hard to see past my own frustrations sometimes." God:  "So instead of trying, you left? You feared failure more than you valued what I gave you? Everything that happened in your life led up to being with her" Him:  "I did not want to hurt her." God:  "And yet, you did." Him:  "I thought she would be better off without me." God:  "Did I tell you that? Or did you decide that on your own?" Him:  "I just… I was overwhelmed. Love is complicated." God:  "Love is patient. Love is kind. Love does not walk away out of fear." Him:  "But what if we were not meant to be?" God:  "And yet, I brought her into your life, connected your hearts, and showed you her love. Do you think I make mistakes?" Him:  "No… but people do." God:  "Yes. And one of you made a mistake." Him:  "I thought if it was truly meant to be, it would have worked out no matter what." God:  "No. Love requires action, not just fate. I gave you free will. You chose to leave." Him:  "What if I was not ready?" God:  "Then why did I bring her to you? Why did you love her? Why did you feel comfortable in her presence, until you let doubt take over?" Him:  "We bickered all the time. We fought over things that should not have mattered." God:  "And yet, you stayed. You loved her through it, until you chose not to." Him:  "It wore me down. I did not know how to handle it anymore." God:  "Did you ever ask Me for strength? Did you ever ask Me to help you understand her? Did you ever ask Me for guidance on how to help her, to be there for her?" Him:  "I thought I could figure it out on my own. Sometimes it felt like I was confronting something unexpected, like I had to be extra careful with everything I said or did. It felt like I was always walking on eggshells. She has anxiety and other mental problems." God: "I know what she has—I made her! I gave her strength, intelligence, and a heart that loves deeply. I also gave her challenges, but none of them were a mistake." Him:  "She was always questioning everything—why I did things, what I meant, what I was thinking. It felt like she was doubting me all the time." God:  "She was not doubting you. She was trying to understand. That is how I made her—to seek, to learn, to know." Him : "I... I thought I could handle it. I thought I could be there for her. But sometimes, it felt like I just couldn’t keep up with all her questions, her need for reassurance. I tried, but there were times when it felt like I was constantly on edge." God:  "And yet, she was always honest with you. She never hid who she was. She told you from the beginning that she had challenges. Do you know what that means?" Him:  "That she trusted me to accept her as she is." God:  "And instead of honoring that trust, you walked away from it." Him : "I needed to walk away to find peace." God:  "I gave you a woman who loved you completely. She was patient, loyal, and devoted to you. She prayed for you. She never gave up on you. She loved you despite everything. And now, here you stand, with all the reasons you left—but not one that justifies walking away from what I gave you." (Silence.) God: "The road you traveled was not without difficulty, but it is not too late to seek understanding. I gave you strength to endure, and love to sustain you. But love requires you to lean on each other, and ask for help when you need it." There you go—just a hypothetical conversation with God. Who knows what will really happen, but it is interesting to think about and mind blowing to imagine. The moral of this whole conversation is life, love, and all the complications in between do not come with easy answers. I hope I painted him in a good light—a man that tried his best to love a complex woman. If he ever reads this, I would like to think he would have the same sentiment reading this as I found in writing it. Love is not perfect—Lord knows I am not. Here are Bible verses about telling God everything and being judged by Him: Ecclesiastes 12:14 – "For God will bring every deed into judgment, including every hidden thing, whether it is good or evil." Romans 14:12 – "So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God." 2 Corinthians 5:10 – "For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad." Matthew 12:36 – "But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken." Hebrews 4:13 – "Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account." 1 Peter 4:5 – "But they will have to give account to him who is ready to judge the living and the dead." Revelation 20:12 – "And I saw the dead, great and small, standing before the throne, and books were opened. Another book was opened, which is the book of life. The dead were judged according to what they had done as recorded in the books." Luke 12:2-3 – "There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed, or hidden that will not be made known. What you have said in the dark will be heard in the daylight, and what you have whispered in the ear in the inner rooms will be proclaimed from the roofs."

It is 3:00 AM, and I cannot sleep. So, naturally, my mind is coming up with ideas—some genius, some questionable, and some that fall somewhere in between. I bought and prepared some chicken and spice today to make chicken fajitas. As I was spooning the chicken mixture into the tortilla, I thought of an invention—Phojitas. Yes, you read that right. Pho + Fajitas = Phojitas. A Vietnamese-Tex-Mex fusion that, for all I know, might already exist somewhere, but in my sleep-deprived state, I am claiming it as my own. I had to look up exactly what Pho was because I recalled it being a soup! Indeed, it is a soup, but with all food fusions you use what works best from each dish! Phojita The Two Foods Pho is pronounced "fuh" (rhymes with "duh"). My Vietnamese lessons are really proving to be useful! It is a Vietnamese noodle soup consisting of broth, rice noodles, herbs, and meat—typically beef (pho bò) or chicken (pho gà). The broth is slow-cooked with spices like star anise, cinnamon, and cloves, giving it a rich and aromatic flavor. It is usually served with fresh garnishes like bean sprouts, basil, lime, and chili on the side. A fajita (pronounced "fuh-HEE-tuh") is a Tex-Mex dish that typically consists of grilled meat (such as chicken, beef, or shrimp) served with sautéed onions and bell peppers. It is usually served on a sizzling hot plate alongside warm tortillas, allowing you to assemble your own wrap with toppings like sour cream, guacamole, salsa, and cheese. The Concept Take everything great about pho, but instead of slurping it up as a soup, ditch the broth and repurpose the ingredients into something handheld, flavorful, and tortilla-wrapped. Think about it—pho already has tender, slow-cooked meats, fresh herbs, and flavorful toppings. Add the savory elements of fajitas, and you will have a fusion that is both fresh and comforting—something truly unforgettable. How Phojitas Would Work Start with Pho Ingredients Beef (brisket, rare steak, or shredded chicken—whatever your pho preference) Rice noodles—they are essential to the pho! Bean sprouts, Thai basil, cilantro, red chili pepper Hoisin and sriracha for that sweet-heat balance Make the Pho First Prepare your pho broth by simmering beef (or chicken) with star anise, cinnamon, cloves, fish sauce, garlic, and any other traditional pho seasonings. Cook the meat in the broth until it is tender, then remove the meat to slice it thin for your phojitas. Strain the Broth The rich, aromatic pho broth is amazing, but for Phojitas, it just would not work! Strain it out and save it for sipping later, if you do not want to waste it. Introduce Fajita Elements Sauté onions and bell peppers in a hot skillet until they are tender and slightly caramelized, adding a savory base to the dish. Warm up some flour or corn tortillas to wrap everything up. Assemble Load up the tortilla with the pho meat, fajita veggies, and fresh pho toppings (bean sprouts, herb s, red chilies ). Drizzle with hoisin or sriracha for extra flavor. Add a squeeze of lime. The Result I have theoretically created a handheld, flavor-packed fusion that marries the best of pho and fajitas—bringing together th e rich w armth of Vietnamese comfort food and the savory taste of Tex-Mex fajitas. I would definitely try a phojita if I had the ingredients! Play On Words And let us not forget the beauty of the name itself – Phojitas rolls off the tongue effortlessly, blending "pho" and "fajita" in a way that is both new and familiar. "Phojita" would be considered a portmanteau. A portmanteau is a word formed by combining parts of two (or more) words to create a new one, which is exactly what happens using "pho" (from pho, the Vietnamese dish) and "fajita" (the Tex-Mex dish). It does not yet exist in the dictionary as a separate word with an established definition, so it does not fit the traditional homophone category even though phojita and fajita sound similar. Conclusion Food fusion is not anything new – it has been around for years, and we have seen it in everything from pastries to savory dishes. Until recent years, I never even liked my food to touch each other except in one example I started as a very young child in the 1960's— mashed potatoes and corn! Look at me now making a new food combination! Some other examples of food combinations include: Cronut – A hybrid of a croissant and doughnut. Ramen Burger – A burger with ramen noodle "buns." Sushirrito – A sushi burrito, where sushi fillings are wrapped like a burrito. Pizza Fries – French fries topped with pizza ingredients. Taco Salad – Taco ingredients served as a salad in a tortilla bowl. Buffalo Cauliflower – A vegetarian twist on buffalo wings using cauliflower. Spaghetti Tacos – Spaghetti served in a taco shell. Just as these combinations are made from popular foods with a fresh twist, Phojitas blend the rich flavors of pho with the bold, satisfying elements of fajitas.  It is not just a dish; it is an idea brought to life in every bite! Prepare it and enjoy your meal! I could have googled this to see if Phojitas are already a thing. However, sometimes it is better to live in the excitement of the idea rather than checking if it has already been done. If it hasn't, someone needs to try this and report back if Phojitas should be a thing! It is currently after 6:00 AM and even after writing this post for over three hours, I am still not sleepy, but I am hungry again! Proverbs 9:5 "Come, eat my food and drink the wine I have mixed."

I have tried everything to move on, but the heart wants what the heart wants. No matter how much I try to tell myself that it is time to let go, the love I feel still holds on. Over the last eighteen months, I have personally grown and realize I sometimes misunderstood what others meant and reacted harshly. I am less reactive than I used to be. I grew up in an environment filled with abuse. Without love and support, I never fully develop the interpersonal skills necessary for a healthy relationships. I am more aware of the tone of my voice now, too! Being neurodivergent brings its own set of challenges in relationships, too. But, it really makes me who I am—weird, lovable. and very curious. Through therapy and practice, I have learned so much about myself. I see nothing in our former relationship that is beyond repair. We were two people who loved each other deeply, and honestly, I do not think that has changed. I know that I am stronger now, and that I can handle what I could not before. I believe that if we took a gamble on love, we could work through the things that pulled us apart. Start fresh and do not look back! The song I created below using Suno reflects the love I still carry for him—and the trouble I have letting go. It is a song of love, hope, and the impact he made on my life. Each room of my house holds a memento from him, a reminder of the moments we shared. I know we are capable of overcoming anything we may face in the future. If there is to be a chance for us to reconnect, it would have to come from him. I reached out twice in the past, hoping for another opportunity, but both times I was met with rejection. I could not bear to face that again. A part of me continues to hold onto the hope that there may still be a possibility for us to find our way back to each other. Song: Still Holding On 1 Corinthians 13:7 "It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."

When a relationship ends, you are left with a mix of emotions that can be overwhelming. It can feel like your world has been turned upside down. Whether the breakup was mutual or sudden and unexpected, the adjustment can be difficult and the emotional impact is significant. Moving on is not about forgetting the past, but about learning to live without the relationship defining your daily life. This guide will walk you through the process of healing, from handling emotions to knowing when you are ready to date again. It will also cover practical ways to change what is associated with the relationship so you can regain control over your life. Moving on is not a simple process, but with time and effort, you can heal. How Long Does It Take to Move On Healing from a breakup does not follow a strict timeline. It depends on factors such as the length of the relationship, the emotional depth of the connection, and how it ended. If you were deeply invested, you might need several months or longer to move on fully. Some feel better in a few weeks, while others take months or even years. If the breakup was mutual and respectful, you may recover faster than if it was unexpected or painful. Accepting the reason for the breakup can help you heal. If the relationship was unhealthy or toxic, healing may require working through emotional wounds that existed before the breakup. Some experts suggest that it takes about half the length of the relationship to fully move on, but this is not a rule. It is important to allow yourself time to process your emotions without rushing. The key is to heal without comparing your progress to others. No Contact or Stay in Touch One of the biggest questions after a breakup is whether to remain in contact with your ex. In most cases, cutting off contact is the healthiest option because it allows for proper healing.  It prevents emotional setbacks and allows you to focus on yourself. Reasons to Choose No Contact You need emotional space to process the breakup. Seeing or talking to your ex will likely cause setbacks. You are tempted to hold onto hope that they will return. You need to break old habits and establish independence. When Contact May Be Necessary You have shared responsibilities, such as children, pets, or financial obligations. You work together or have mutual commitments that require interaction. You both have agreed on clear, healthy boundaries. If you must stay in touch, keep conversations focused on necessary topics and avoid emotional discussions. Do not use casual contact as an excuse to check in on them or seek closure, as this can prolong your healing. Handling Emotional Pain Breakups bring a mix of emotions, including sadness, relief, and confusion. Emotional pain is unavoidable, but how you manage it will determine how quickly you heal. Common Emotional Reactions Sadness and Grief:  It is natural to mourn the loss of the relationship. Allow yourself to feel this without judgment. Anger and Resentment:  You may feel betrayed or frustrated, especially if the breakup was one-sided. Relief and Guilt:  If the relationship was unhealthy, you may feel relief but also guilt for moving on. Confusion and Self-Doubt:  You might question your decisions, wondering what went wrong or if you could have done something differently. Ways to Cope Acknowledge Your Feelings:  Do not suppress your emotions. Cry if you need to, talk to someone you trust, or write down your thoughts to help process your emotions. Allow yourself to grieve, but do not let it consume you. Engage in Self-Care:  Prioritize activities that make you feel good, such as exercise, hobbies, or relaxation techniques. Physical movement helps improve your mood and distracts you from overthinking. Avoid Self-Destructive Behavior:  Turning to unhealthy coping mechanisms like excessive drinking, overeating, or isolating yourself can delay your healing. Limit Overthinking:  Replaying past events repeatedly will not change what happened. Remind yourself that healing comes from moving forward. Limit Social Media : Seeing your ex move on or reliving memories through old posts can delay healing. Consider taking a break from social media. Changing What Is Associated with the Relationship One of the hardest parts of moving on is dealing with reminders of the relationship. Certain dates, songs, places, or routines may bring back emotions tied to your ex. Below are some ideas to help handle them, so you can lessen their impact. Special Days (Anniversaries, Holidays, Birthdays) Make plans to do something new and different to create new associations. Spend time with friends, family, or focus on a personal goal. If a holiday feels empty, find a new tradition to replace old ones. Songs and Music If certain songs bring back painful memories, replace them with a new playlist. Explore different genres or artists to shift your emotional connection to music. If a favorite song is unavoidable, listen to it in a different setting Places and Routines If you frequently went to certain restaurants, cafes, or parks together, try visiting new places. Rearrange your home or change your daily habits to create a fresh environment to avoid frequent reminders.. If you shared a hobby, find a different way to engage in it without the same emotional ties. Social Media and Digital Clutter Unfollow, mute, or delete your ex on social media if seeing their updates is painful. Do your best to reduce unexpected emotional triggers. Avoid reading old messages, looking at photos, or reliving your digital memories that make it harder to move on. Even if you are not ready to delete everything, store them in a folder that you do not access regularly. Knowing When You Are Ready to Date Again It is tempting to jump into a new relationship to fill the void, but dating too soon can lead to unresolved emotions interfering with your new connections. Here are some signs that you may be ready: You No Longer Feel Emotional Pain You can think about your ex without strong emotions. You do not feel the urge to compare new people to them. You no longer check their social media or wonder what they are doing. You Feel Content Being Single You feel comfortable with yourself and do not need a relationship to fill a void. You have developed new interests, friendships, and goals. You enjoy your own company and don't need someone to fix your emotions. You Have Learned from the Experience You recognize what worked and what did not in your past relationship. You understand your emotional needs and what you want in a future partner. You are willing to take your time and not rush into something just for the sake of being in a relationship. You are looking forward to meeting new people. Additional Tips for Moving Forward Set Personal Goals:  Redirect your focus onto things that make you feel accomplished, whether it is fitness, education, career, or personal development. Surround Yourself with Support:  Lean on friends, family, or support groups when you need encouragement. Consider professional therapy. Practice Gratitude:  Reflect on what you have learned from the relationship and appreciate the positive aspects of your life. Accept That Some Questions Will Remain Unanswered:  Not every breakup comes with clear closure. Learning to accept the unknown is part of the healing process. A Personal Story Today marks three years since I first met him. Prior to our first message, this day already held special meaning for me—it is my friend’s birthday, but her life was cut short. So meeting him on this particular day just made me feel even more like it was divine intervention. Now it seems there are two reasons to be sad on this date. We have now been broken up for eighteen months. I have come leaps and bounds emotionally from where I was even a year ago! Even just a few months ago, I was holding out hope that we would reconcile. What changed for me over the last few months was that I started concentrating on how he treated me during certain times. I realized those were the times I needed him most, and he was not able to be there for me emotionally. He was unable to show the compassion I needed in a partner. The hardest part for me was letting go of the notion that this relationship was brought together by God for the purpose of a lifelong commitment. I still believe God brought us together, but perhaps it was to show me that a man can have every quality or trait I asked for over the years, but still not be a good fit. From the beginning, I overlooked red flag after red flag and only saw the good in this relationship. I continued to ignore the advice from others. I thought if I worked to improve myself, he would do the same. It is his loss. I do not want to come across as ungrateful for the wonderful things he did do for me, but I now see my worth more clearly, knowing I deserve a love that nurtures and supports me, not just someone who showers me with gifts. Over the last three years, I have spent countless hours working on understanding myself, my behavior, and my emotions. I cannot control or change someone else's behavior—that is on them. Now, I am ready to move forward. Whether it is someone I know from the past or someone I have never met, my heart and mind would be open to a new relationship. For now, I will just continue focusing on self-improvement. I was not looking for a man or a relationship when I met him, so love will find me again when it is time. Although today holds sadness, it is now also a day of personal growth and triumph. Final Thoughts Moving on from a relationship is a journey that requires time, patience, and self-care. By setting boundaries, shifting your focus to personal growth, and allowing yourself to heal, you will find clarity and emotional stability again. One day, you will realize that the pain no longer controls you, and you will be open to new possibilities. Every ending is also a new beginning and you will be ready to embrace it—when the time is right. Song of Solomon 2:7  "Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires."

Personal growth is not a one-size-fits-all journey. Each of us faces different struggles, strengths, and goals. While some may need to focus on resilience, others may find self-compassion or emotional intelligence to be the missing piece in their development. The beauty of growth is that there are countless ways to improve, heal, and thrive. Below are powerful personal growth topics—pick the one that speaks to you or explore them all. Self-Compassion and Acceptance How often do you treat yourself with the same kindness you extend to others? Many of us are our own worst critics, holding ourselves to impossible standards and replaying our mistakes like a broken record. Self-compassion is the practice of embracing our flaws, recognizing our humanity, and understanding that imperfection is part of life. Instead of beating yourself up over failures, imagine how you would comfort a friend in the same situation. Learning to be gentle with yourself can lead to increased confidence, better emotional health, and a more balanced life. Mindfulness and Presence Are you truly present in your life, or are you constantly stuck in the past or worried about the future? Mindfulness is the practice of focusing on the present moment without judgment. It helps us slow down, appreciate the little things, and reduce stress. Whether through meditation, deep breathing, or simply pausing to observe your surroundings, mindfulness can rewire your brain to be more aware, calm, and intentional. Small moments of presence—like savoring a meal or truly listening to a loved one—can lead to greater peace and fulfillment. The Power of Gratitude Gratitude is more than just saying "thank you"—it’s a mindset shift that can reframe your entire outlook on life. When you regularly acknowledge the good things in your life, no matter how small, you cultivate a sense of abundance rather than lack. Studies show that people who practice gratitude experience greater happiness, stronger relationships, and improved resilience during difficult times. Consider keeping a gratitude journal or taking a moment each day to reflect on what you appreciate. Over time, you’ll notice that gratitude transforms the way you see the world. Overcoming Fear and Doubt Fear often disguises itself as logic, convincing us that we’re not good enough, not ready, or that failure is inevitable. But the truth is, most of our fears are just mental roadblocks. Growth happens when we step outside of our comfort zones, even if we feel unprepared. Fear of failure, rejection, or uncertainty can be paralyzing, but pushing through those fears is what leads to success. Every time you face a fear head-on, you build courage and resilience. Ask yourself: What would I do if I wasn’t afraid? Growth Through Adversity Adversity is often seen as something to avoid, but in reality, it can be one of the greatest catalysts for personal growth. Difficult experiences force us to reevaluate, adapt, and develop new strengths we never knew we had. Rather than asking, "Why is this happening to me?" try reframing it as, "What can I learn from this?" Some of the most inspiring people in history have used hardship as fuel to achieve greatness. Challenges are inevitable, but how you respond to them is what defines your growth. The Importance of Setting Boundaries Do you struggle to say no? Do you feel drained by the demands of others? Setting healthy boundaries is essential for self-respect and emotional well-being. Boundaries are not about pushing people away; they’re about protecting your time, energy, and mental health. Whether it's in relationships, work, or social commitments, knowing your limits and communicating them clearly can prevent burnout and resentment. Start by identifying where you feel overextended, and practice small ways to assert yourself. Developing Emotional Intelligence Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to understand, manage, and express emotions in a way that benefits both yourself and those around you. High EQ individuals are better at handling conflict, making decisions, and forming strong relationships. This skill isn’t just about recognizing emotions but also learning to regulate them. The next time you’re faced with frustration or stress, pause and ask yourself: What am I feeling, and why? By becoming more aware of your emotions and how they affect your actions, you’ll develop deeper self-awareness and stronger connections with others. The Journey to Authenticity Are you living life for yourself, or for the expectations of others? Authenticity is about shedding societal pressures, embracing your true self, and living in alignment with your values. Many people spend years trying to fit into molds that don’t suit them, only to feel lost and unfulfilled. Being authentic means owning who you are—your quirks, passions, and beliefs—without fear of judgment. It might require difficult choices, but staying true to yourself leads to a more meaningful and fulfilling life. The Power of Forgiveness Holding onto anger and resentment doesn’t hurt the person who wronged you—it hurts you. Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing bad behavior or forgetting what happened; it means releasing the emotional burden so that it no longer controls you. This applies not only to forgiving others but also to forgiving yourself. We all make mistakes, but dwelling on them only hinders growth. Letting go allows you to move forward with a lighter heart and a clearer mind. Building Mental Toughness Mental toughness is about perseverance, focus, and resilience in the face of challenges. It’s what keeps athletes pushing through exhaustion, entrepreneurs pushing through failure, and individuals pushing through personal struggles. Developing mental toughness means training your mind to stay determined, no matter how difficult the road gets. This can be achieved through discipline, positive self-talk, and reframing setbacks as learning experiences. When life gets tough, remind yourself: You’ve overcome challenges before, and you’ll do it again. Final Thoughts: Your Growth, Your Choice Personal growth isn’t about fixing yourself—it’s about evolving, adapting, and becoming the best version of yourself. No two paths look the same, and that’s okay. Whether you choose to focus on self-compassion, fear, authenticity, or resilience, what matters is that you’re taking steps toward growth. Which of these topics speaks to you the most? Maybe today, you need to work on mindfulness, and tomorrow, you’ll need to practice setting boundaries. Growth is ongoing, and every step—no matter how small—is progress. So, take your pick and start your journey today!

September 2024 As many of you may have noticed, I have a timer on my homepage that tracks my days spent outside. You might wonder why this is such a significant part of my blog. For years, leaving my house has been an issue for me due to anxiety, and I have committed to confronting this challenge head-on. This post is meant to explain the importance of going outside, not just for my mental health, but as a vital step towards reclaiming my freedom and well-being. Each tick of the timer represents not just the time spent outdoors, but my ongoing commitment to overcoming barriers that hold me back. For years, stepping outside has been one of my biggest struggles, next to calling people on the phone. Many people don’t understand just how debilitating both experiences can be. Anxiety has kept me confined within my walls, and the thought of facing the world outside has often felt insurmountable. But lately, I have been challenging that part of my anxiety. I have committed to going outside every single day, 30 minutes or more, and today I thought about the tremendous pressure I feel when I am outside and what is going to keep me going. I realized I focus on intrinsic rewards to motivate myself. Focusing on intrinsic rewards, those that arise from within rather than from external sources, has significantly enhanced my motivation and led to greater fulfillment in my life. When I find joy and satisfaction in the activity itself, I cultivate a sustainable form of engagement that encourages me to continue pursuing my goals even without external validation. This internal motivation contributes to my overall well-being, as engaging in activities that align with my values reduces stress and fosters a sense of peace Additionally, prioritizing intrinsic rewards promotes my resilience and creativity. When I have a strong connection to my motivations, I can better cope with challenges while also encouraging exploration and experimentation. This approach enhances my learning and retention, as I engage deeply with the material or activities that resonate with me. Intrinsic rewards enable me to foster authentic relationships, connecting with others who share my interests and values, ultimately leading to a more meaningful and enriched life. Despite bittersweet memories, I am determined to keep pushing through—even if I have to do it alone. I know that God has a plan for me, and it will come to be in His time. Each day, I wrestle with the overwhelming urge to stay indoors. For me, defying the temptation to stay inside feels like it would be the same mental pressure an alcoholic feels avoiding a drink or a smoker resisting the urge to light up. Even after two months, each day, the mental pull to stay inside feels as intense as ever. Facing that pressure when I go outdoors is a constant struggle, and even though I keep pushing myself, it does not get easier. Counting my days and holding myself accountable in this way keeps me grounded enough to go out again the next day. This journey can feel isolating because I am concerned well-meaning people will try to ease my struggle by saying things like, "Don’t worry, you don’t have to go out today" or "It's raining, just stay inside today" This makes it difficult for me to share my thoughts with others, as some days I feel overwhelmed and just want to voice my frustrations, not avoid the task. While their intentions may be encouraging, it feels discouraging, as if they doubt my ability to succeed. I need encouragement to go outside and support in pushing through, especially when it feels daunting. I want to continue to go outside each day until the time comes when I don't give going outside a second thought. I understand spending time outdoors offers numerous benefits for both mental and physical health. Exposure to sunlight can enhance mood by boosting serotonin levels, which helps combat feelings of depression. Being in nature has also been shown to stimulate creativity and improve problem-solving skills. Additionally, outdoor activities promote physical fitness, increase vitamin D levels, and contribute to overall well-being. The calming effect of nature can significantly reduce stress and encourage relaxation. Regular exposure to natural light helps regulate sleep patterns, leading to better quality rest. Moreover, outdoor experiences can enhance concentration and attention span, while providing opportunities for social interaction and connection with others. Ultimately, engaging with the natural world fosters a sense of belonging and appreciation for the environment, making it a vital part of a healthy lifestyle. Whether I am pulling weeds, taking in the beauty of nature, or just sitting quietly outdoors, I battle with a constant wave of intrusive thoughts: "You should be inside. This is pointless. No one cares. " Currently, I am doing well enough to care for myself, even if it matters to no one else. I cannot tell you how much it means to have even that small measure of freedom. I am not necessarily reaping many of the supposed benefits, but I hope my going outside leads to me exploring not only this community, but the world. I welcome your prayers and encouragement. Each day is a new chance to step beyond my fears, and someday, I hope going outside will be as natural as breathing. 2 Timothy 1:7 "For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline."

You are reading this, and something about it feels familiar. A word, a phrase, a tone—it catches your attention in a way that makes you pause. Is this about you? It feels personal. The words seem to point in your direction, even though your name is nowhere in sight. Maybe. Maybe not. But the fact that you are questioning it means something. Ambiguity is unsettling. Your mind craves clarity, definition, and certainty. You want to know where you stand, what something means, and whether you are the subject of a thought, a statement, or an accusation. But not everything in life is so clearly defined. Ambiguity exists, whether you like it or not, and it can make you uncomfortable. Why Does Ambiguity Bother You? Your brain is constantly looking for patterns. It is designed to detect meaning, even when meaning is uncertain. If something is unclear, you fill in the gaps with your own interpretations. You do it without thinking. It is a survival mechanism, a way to make sense of the world. Sometimes, it leads you in circles, making you see meaning where there may be none. That is why when you read something vague, your mind immediately asks: Is this about me? That question does not come from nowhere. It comes from an internal need to position yourself in relation to information. People do not like the unknown. If something is left open-ended, the human brain rushes to complete the picture. The issue is what you fill in is not always accurate. It is based on your own thoughts, experiences, and insecurities. You see connections that may not be there because your brain cannot stand unresolved questions. You might assume something is about you because you relate to it. You might assume it is about you because deep down, you recognize some your own sketchy behaviors or actions. Either way, you assign meaning to the words, whether that meaning was intended or not. The Many Reasons People Write About Things Before assuming that something is about you, consider why people write in the first place. Not everything is driven by personal experience. Sometimes, a single word or a fleeting thought sparks an idea. Other times, an event triggers reflection. Writing is a way to share knowledge. It is an outlet to express creativity, frustration, curiosity, or reflection. As a reader, you are forced to confront your own thoughts and emotions. There are moments when there is no real reason—just a thought, appearing out of nowhere, demanding to be written down. You assume there is a reason behind every word, but that is not always the case. Sometimes, a person writes because a topic interests them or because they are processing something completely unrelated to you. Then again, sometimes it is about you. But if that is the case, ask yourself: Why does that matter?  What is it that makes you uneasy? If the words strike a nerve, why do they? The answers say more about you than it does about the writer. The truth is, if you see yourself in these words, there is a reason. It might not be because the author was thinking about you, but because something in you recognizes what is being said.   Why Do People Assume Something Is About Them? There are several psychological reasons why you might feel like a vague message is directed at you. Some of them include: Personalization Bias You naturally interpret things through the lens of your own experiences. If something seems relevant to you, you assume it must be about you. Insecurity and Guilt If you feel guilty about something, you are more likely to believe that a vague statement is referencing you. It is not the words themselves—it is your own internal response to them. Pattern Recognition Humans seek patterns, even where there are none. When you see something that aligns with your thoughts, your mind jumps to conclusions. The Spotlight Effect You think people are thinking about you more than they actually are. You believe others are noticing your actions, choices, or flaws, when in reality, most people are focused on themselves. The Power of Ambiguous Communication Ambiguity is often intentional. People use it to provoke thought, to spark discussion, or to allow for multiple interpretations. A statement left open-ended forces you to engage with it. Words can be interpreted in multiple ways. In addition, the same sentence can mean different things to different people. What you take as a direct statement about you may be nothing more than a general observation. It also serves as a form of protection. Not everything needs to be spelled out. Sometimes, writing in a vague way allows people to express emotions without directly calling someone out. It creates space for thought without turning a message into a confrontation. And then there is the simple fact that not everything needs to be about one person. A single idea can apply to many situations and many different people. Just because you relate to it does not mean it was meant for you. How You React Says More About You Think about how you respond when you read something ambiguous. Do you always immediately assume it is about you? If so, why? The way you interpret things is shaped by your mindset, your emotional state, and your past experiences. If you read something and feel attacked, that reaction is coming from within you. The words are neutral. The meaning you assign to them is yours. This is not to say that vague messages are never directed at specific people. Sometimes they are. But whether they are or not, your reaction is still your own responsibility. You control how you respond, what you assume, and whether you let ambiguity bother you. What If It Is About You? Let us assume, for a moment, that a post really is  about you. What now? You have two choices. You can become defensive, assume the worst, and let it consume your thoughts. Or you can take a step back and ask yourself: Why do I see myself in these words? If you feel called out, there is a reason for that. If something resonates with you, there is a reason for that too. Instead of focusing on whether the writer had you in mind, ask yourself why it matters to you. What is it about this that makes you uncomfortable? And what, if anything, do you want to do about it? The choice is yours to make. Ambiguity Is Unavoidable You will encounter vague statements for the rest of your life. Not everything will be spelled out for you. Some things will remain unclear, and you will not always get a direct answer. Ambiguity forces you to think and leaves room for interpretation, which means the message is shaped by the reader as much as the writer. You can either spend your time wondering, worrying, and overanalyzing, or you can accept that some things are not meant to be fully understood. You do not always need to know. You do not always need confirmation. And sometimes, the best thing you can do is let go of the need for certainty. Sometimes, the entire point of a message is not to provide clarity, but to make you think. The take away is up to you, the reader. Final Thoughts If you think this post is about you, it possibly is. But if it is, it is only because something in you recognizes the truth of these words. That does not mean you were the intended subject. That does not mean the writer had you in mind. It simply means you saw yourself here. Perhaps that is not a bad thing. Maybe it means this was something you needed to read. You have engaged with these words. You have drawn connections. And that, in itself, means something. Maybe, just maybe, the ambiguity served its purpose. Galatians 6:3 "If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves."