Isaiah 25:4   "You have been a refuge for the poor, a refuge for the needy in their distress, a shelter from the storm and a shade from the heat." I can already feel the strong wind and increased rain from Hurricane Milton even though it is still 165 miles offshore. All prayers are needed! In case you would like to keep up with the storm, get the most accurate and current conditions. I’m about to enter the thick of things as the storm approaches. I am near the I in FLORIDA on the radar map below. I don't know if our community will maintain power, or the storm could turn further towards us and cause catastrophic damage. If you or someone you know is in Florida, I pray for their safety, and minimal, if any, damage to their property. It's a dangerous storm and lines of communication can be down for extended amounts of time. Thank you for your prayers! Psalm 107:29 "He stilled the storm to a whisper; the waves of the sea were hushed.

Empathy’s Reach It doesn’t matter who you are or where you come from. There is always room in my heart. Even when my hands are full and my mind wanders, I find space, a place—for carrying what others need. Burdens, light or heavy fit within the creases of my thoughts, And though my hands may tremble, and my pace may slow, I keep going—for no weight is too much. No stranger too distant. No distance too far for a friend. Even when life feels heavy, there is an unspoken strength that allows us to lift more, to extend an arm, to offer solace. Empathy isn’t about what is left for ourselves; it’s about what we can give, regardless of our own weight. To feel for others is not limited by what we hold but by the willingness to lighten someone else’s load even when our hands are full and our heart feels empty. In every corner of the world, compassion should know no boundary. "If you ever need anything..." know that they aren’t empty words. Be assured, I am ready to hold your burdens when they feel too heavy. It's more than just a promise; it’s the fuel that keeps my light burning. If I've given back one ounce of what I have gotten, I'm grateful. Galatians 6:2 "Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ."

Generations are shaped by the world they grow up in—each influenced by the historical events, technology, and cultural shifts of their time. These shared experiences create distinct characteristics within each generation, from their preferred ways of communicating to their overall outlook on life. What seems like common sense to one generation may feel outdated to another, and what feels like innovation to some may seem unnecessary or even reckless to others. These differences impact everything from workplace dynamics to social interactions, often leading to misunderstandings or clashes in values. For example, older generations may prioritize stability and long-term commitment, while younger generations value flexibility and adaptability in both careers and lifestyles. A Baby Boomer may see staying at one company for decades as a sign of dedication, while a Millennial or Gen Z worker may view frequent job changes as necessary for growth and opportunity. Similarly, Gen X, having grown up with less parental oversight, might see independence as a given, whereas Gen Alpha, raised in a hyper-connected world, may find comfort in constant digital interaction. These generational divides don't just shape personal choices—they influence how different age groups interact, work together, and define success in an ever-changing world. The Lost Generation (1883–1900) The Lost Generation refers to those born roughly between 1883 and 1900, who came of age during World War I (1914–1918). Popularized by Gertrude Stein and later used by Ernest Hemingway, the term described disillusioned writers and intellectuals of the time. Key Characteristics: War Trauma: Many young men from this generation fought in WWI, experiencing unprecedented violence, trench warfare, and the psychological toll of combat. Disillusionment: After the war, they struggled to find meaning in a rapidly changing world, leading to a sense of aimlessness and cynicism. Expatriates & Writers: Many artists and writers, such as F. Scott Fitzgerald, T.S. Eliot, and Hemingway, became expatriates ( a person who lives outside their native country) , living in Europe and rejecting traditional values. Cultural Shifts: They were the bridge between Victorian ideals and the modernist movement, challenging past norms in art, literature, and society. Historical Context: World War I (1914–1918): A devastating global conflict that shaped their worldview. The Roaring Twenties: After the war, some embraced excess, jazz, and rebellion against old social structures. Prohibition (1920–1933): The U.S. ban on alcohol, which led to underground speakeasies and cultural rebellion. The Lost Generation left a lasting impact on literature and culture, shaping how future generations viewed war, identity, and purpose. The Greatest Generation (1901–1927) The Greatest Generation refers to those born between 1901 and 1927, who came of age during the Great Depression (1929–1939) and World War II (1939–1945). The term was popularized by journalist Tom Brokaw in his 1998 book The Greatest Generation , highlighting their resilience and sacrifice. Key Characteristics: Surviving the Great Depression: Many grew up in extreme poverty, learning frugality, hard work, and perseverance. World War II Service: This generation fought in WWII, either on the battlefield or supporting the war effort at home. Strong Work Ethic: Valued duty, sacrifice, and community over personal ambition. Loyalty & Patriotism: Many believed in institutions, traditional values, and civic responsibility. Post-War Boom: After the war, they helped build a strong economy, leading to the rise of the middle class and suburban expansion. Historical Context: Stock Market Crash of 1929 & the Great Depression: A defining period of financial hardship. World War II (1939–1945): Their defining moment, as millions served or contributed to the war effort. Post-War Economic Growth: They laid the foundation for America’s prosperity in the 1950s and beyond. The Cold War Begins: Many of them shaped U.S. policy in response to the Soviet Union. The Greatest Generation is remembered for its sacrifices, strong values, and the rebuilding of nations after World War II. The Silent Generation (1928–1945) The Silent Generation includes those born between 1928 and 1945, growing up during the Great Depression and World War II but too young to serve in the war. Their name comes from the idea that they were raised to be reserved, hardworking, and avoid making waves, especially in contrast to the more outspoken Baby Boomers. Key Characteristics: Hardworking & Traditional: Valued stability, conformity, and loyalty to institutions. Duty Over Individualism: They often prioritized responsibility over self-expression. Strong Family Values: Had traditional views on marriage, work, and gender roles. Career Stability: Worked long-term jobs, often with the same company for decades. Notable as Leaders & Activists: While known for being reserved, some members played key roles in the Civil Rights Movement and early rock & roll. Historical Context: Great Depression & WWII Childhoods: They grew up in uncertain times, shaping their practical and cautious outlook. Korean War (1950–1953): Many of them served in this often-overlooked conflict. Post-War Economic Boom: They entered the workforce during the 1950s, benefiting from economic stability. Civil Rights Movement (1950s–1960s): Some, like Martin Luther King Jr., challenged the perception of them as "silent." Rise of Rock & Roll: Musicians like Elvis Presley (born 1935) shaped music and pop culture. The Silent Generation laid the groundwork for many modern movements but is often overshadowed by the louder voices of later generations. The Baby Boomer Generation (1946–1964) The Baby Boomer Generation includes those born between 1946 and 1964, during the post-World War II baby boom. They grew up in a time of economic prosperity, social change, and political upheaval, playing a major role in shaping modern society. Key Characteristics: Optimistic & Ambitious: Raised during a time of growth, many believed in the "American Dream" and valued success. Cultural & Social Revolutionaries: Many were involved in the Civil Rights Movement, feminism, and counterculture movements. Economic & Workforce Dominance: They benefited from job stability, pensions, and rising home values. Technological Adaptation: They witnessed the shift from radio to television, the moon landing, and the rise of computers. Divided Political Identity: Some embraced tradition and conservatism, while others pushed for change and rebellion. Historical Context: Post-WWII Economic Boom: Their early years were marked by suburban expansion and consumerism. Civil Rights Movement (1950s–1960s): Fought for racial equality and social justice. Vietnam War (1955–1975): Some served in the war, while others protested against it. Counterculture & Hippie Movement (1960s–1970s): A pushback against traditional values, war, and authority. Technological Advances: They saw the introduction of color TV, personal computers, and early space exploration. The Baby Boomers had an enormous impact on politics, economy, and culture, and their influence continues as they reach retirement age. Generation X (1965–1980) Generation X includes those born between 1965 and 1980, growing up in the shadow of the Baby Boomers but before the rise of Millennials. Often called the “latchkey generation”, many were raised by working parents or single parents, fostering independence, resilience, and adaptability. Key Characteristics: Independent & Self-Reliant: Many grew up taking care of themselves after school, leading to a strong sense of autonomy. Skeptical of Institutions: They witnessed political scandals, economic struggles, and high divorce rates, making them more distrustful of authority. Tech-Savvy but Analog Roots: They were the last generation to grow up without the internet but adapted quickly to new technology. Entrepreneurial & Flexible: Many sought work-life balance and preferred career flexibility over corporate loyalty. Pop Culture Influencers: The rise of MTV, hip-hop, grunge, and alternative rock defined their youth. Historical Context: Watergate Scandal (1972–1974): Created distrust in government. Rise of Personal Computers (1980s): The first generation to embrace home computers and video games. Cold War & Fall of the Berlin Wall (1989): Grew up under nuclear tension and saw the end of the Cold War. Dot-Com Boom (1990s): Many found careers in the rapidly expanding tech industry. 9/11 Attacks (2001): A defining moment as they entered adulthood and mid-careers. Often overlooked between Boomers and Millennials, Gen X shaped modern work culture, technology, and media while maintaining a fiercely independent spirit. Millennials (1981–1996) Millennials, also known as Generation Y, were born between 1981 and 1996. They grew up during the rapid rise of the internet, social media, and globalization, making them the first digital-native generation. Often stereotyped as entitled or lazy, they are actually highly educated, socially conscious, and tech-savvy. Key Characteristics: Tech-Driven & Connected: The first generation to grow up with the internet, smartphones, and social media. Highly Educated: More Millennials pursued higher education than previous generations. Delayed Major Life Milestones: Many postponed marriage, homeownership, and having children due to financial struggles. Value Work-Life Balance: Unlike Boomers who prioritized job stability, Millennials seek meaningful work and flexibility. Socially & Politically Engaged: Passionate about social justice, climate change, and equality. Historical Context: Rise of the Internet (1990s–2000s): They witnessed the shift from dial-up to high-speed connectivity. 9/11 Attacks (2001): A defining event that shaped their worldviews on security and global affairs. Great Recession (2008–2009): Many entered the workforce during an economic downturn, impacting job prospects and financial stability. Social Media Revolution: Facebook (2004), YouTube (2005), Twitter (2006), and Instagram (2010) defined their interactions. COVID-19 Pandemic (2020): Many experienced career disruptions, remote work, and mental health challenges. Millennials are often criticized for their reliance on technology and changing social norms, but they have also reshaped the economy, workplace, and communication for future generations. Generation Z (1997–2012) Generation Z, also known as Gen Z, includes those born between 1997 and 2012. They are the first generation to grow up entirely in the digital age, making them highly tech-savvy, socially aware, and independent thinkers. Often referred to as the “true digital natives,” they have never known a world without smartphones, social media, and on-demand content. Key Characteristics: Digitally Native: Grew up with smartphones, social media, and streaming services. Socially Conscious & Activist-Oriented: Passionate about diversity, mental health, climate change, and equality. Entrepreneurial & Independent: Many prefer freelance work, side hustles, and non-traditional career paths. Shorter Attention Spans: Used to quick, engaging content like TikTok and Instagram Reels. Financially Cautious: Growing up during economic uncertainty, many value financial stability and savings. Historical Context: Smartphone Boom (Late 2000s): Grew up with mobile technology as a primary means of communication. Social Media Domination: Instagram, TikTok, and Snapchat define their online interactions. COVID-19 Pandemic (2020): Many experienced school closures, remote learning, and mental health struggles. Political & Social Movements: Gen Z has been heavily involved in activism, including climate protests and social justice movements. Rise of AI & Automation: Entering adulthood in a time of rapid technological advancements and job shifts. Gen Z is reshaping education, work, and activism, leveraging technology to create change and redefine traditional career paths. Generation Alpha (2013–2025) Generation Alpha includes those born from 2013 onward. As the first generation to be born entirely in the 21st century, they are growing up in a world of artificial intelligence, automation, and constant digital connectivity. Unlike previous generations, many will never know a time before smart devices, voice assistants, and virtual reality. Key Characteristics: Tech-Immersed from Birth: Raised with tablets, smart assistants, and AI-driven technology. Personalized Digital Experiences: Algorithms curate their content, entertainment, and even learning. Global & Diverse Outlook: Growing up in an interconnected world, they are expected to be more inclusive and multicultural. Education Reinvented: Many experience hybrid learning, AI tutors, and virtual classrooms as standard education tools. Shorter but Smarter Learning: Used to instant answers, interactive media, and adaptive learning experiences. Historical Context: COVID-19 Pandemic (2020+): Many experienced early childhood during lockdowns and virtual schooling. Rise of AI & Automation: AI tools are shaping their education and daily interactions. Climate & Sustainability Focus: Likely to be more environmentally aware due to increasing climate discussions. Changing Work Landscape: Expected to enter a workforce dominated by remote jobs, AI-driven tasks, and entrepreneurship. As the most tech-integrated and globally connected generation, Gen Alpha will redefine communication, learning, and work in ways we are only beginning to understand. Every generation has touched my life in some way. I saw my great-grandmother only a few times—she was born into the Lost Generation . My great-grandmother was Polish and didn’t speak English, which made my visits to Babcia as a child a bit confusing, yet memorable. I only recently learned that babcia  means grandmother in Polish, which feels like a special connection to her now. My grandparents were part of the Greatest Generation —traditional, hardworking, and incredibly resilient. By the time I was 18, I had lost three of my grandparents, and my grandmother continued to work until she passed away at 88, twenty years after losing my grandfather. My parents, aunts, uncles, and even my second husband belong to the Silent Generation , with my father and uncles having served in the Korean War. As for my first husband and I, we belong to what some call the second Greatest Generation—the Baby Boomer Generation ! My former fiancé, and many of the people I had ever considered as a friend, are mostly Gen X or younger. I believe the generation gap played a role in our relationships, influencing how we communicated and understood the world around us. All three of my children are Millennials , and you can really see it in how they approach work-life balance and how they are tech-savvy. My first grandson is part of Gen Z , but my granddaughter, his sister, just missed the cut-off, born two and a half months too late to be considered part of Gen Z. She shares Gen Alpha with my youngest grandson, born in 2021. Of course, all of this is just generalization. People are shaped by their environment, so just because someone fits into a specific generational category based on their birth year doesn’t mean they align with every characteristic associated with that group. I hope this information has helped you understand how different generations influence the way you interact with others. As you think about the traits of each generation, consider how they might show up in your own experiences or relationships. You may see some of these generational traits in yourself, your family, or even your coworkers. You might recognize patterns in how you communicate or approach certain aspects of life, and it is interesting to see how each generation brings something unique to the table. I wrote a poetic post some time back referring to generations. Click to expand from long ago to forever These poems trace the arc of generations, from the distant memories of great grandparents to the imagined futures of great grandchildren. One paints a picture of stability and love, the other of fractured bonds and unspoken wounds. Yet, they both converge on the same truth: no matter where you come from or what you’ve inherited, the power to shape what comes next lies with you. Whether you have children or not, your choices, actions, and words can influence and impact those around you. I stand in the center of a narrowing bridge the voices behind me fade as the path ahead blurs mother's laugh soft and bright like sunlight through lace father’s steady hands guiding with silent strength two pillars holding my beginning grandmother’s kitchen warm with cinnamon and stories grandfather’s quiet hum a song for no one but himself their love wrapped in moments that feel like legend great grandmother’s name a whisper from old photographs great grandfather a shadowed face etched in sepia tones their lives, a mystery that barely touches my own ahead of me, the bridge stretches uncertain my child’s eyes mirror the questions I once asked their laughter a melody I long to remember forever grandchildren’s hands grasp the edge of my fading memory their names swirl in rhythm like words of a song remembered they are seeds of a future I hope to see bloom great grandchildren stand at the edge of the horizon their faces unknown their lives an untold story their whispers may never carry back to me the further the line extends the dimmer the light grows behind me, the past dissolves into myth ahead, the future retreats into shadow I am the peak of this staunch curve a bridge between what is known and what will be forgotten the thread that ties what was to what may never be I stand in the center of a chaotic storm the echoes behind me like broken glass underfoot mother’s voice sharp like the edge of an argument father’s silence a door closed against my questions their shadows fall unevenly over my beginning grandmother’s hands tremble as she folds memories into stories grandfather’s stare holds the weight of unspoken regret their love feels distant, scattered like loose pages great grandmother’s name a riddle passed without care great grandfather a figure blurred by time and disinterest their lives, faint marks erased by neglect ahead of me, the bridge wavers and cracks my child’s laughter threads through a wall of doubt their trust something I hold with hesitant hands grandchildren’s faces flicker like images on an old screen their names barely familiar in my weary recollection I fear their love may slip through the cracks I cannot mend great grandchildren, distant shapes in an unreachable dream their lives grow like weeds in the silence between generations their stories will never find me the past is jagged with wounds that never healed the future a path I stumble on, uncertain if it leads anywhere I am the fulcrum of this fragile curve a tenuous connection between fractured yesterdays and uncertain tomorrows I may not ever know   the past is set in stone, its events unchanging each moment etched by those who came before it is a locked room, its walls engraved with scars or hearts the future is an open field, unmarked by footprints it waits, silent, patient, and unyielding no matter how tangled the roots of what came before the seeds of tomorrow rest in your hands what was given to you, whether pain or peace becomes the foundation you build upon the legacy you continue, or the cycle you break every decision you make echoes forward each step you take matters beyond the present moment you are the connection between what was and what will be it begins and ends with you, a path for those to follow the lineage you carry does not define your stride and wounds are a great place for light to enter remembering every shadow cast can be left behind the past cannot be changed, but the future is yours pass on what you value, and discard what you don’t create a life that reaches far beyond the horizon be the steward of a legacy that deserves to flourish the past may anchor, but the future is still unfolding a story written not just for you but for the ones who will carry it forward   Whether your lineage is marked by warmth or by wounds, the path you walk is your own regardless of where it began. The life you live leaves traces for those who follow. The kindness you share, the lessons you teach, or the struggles you overcome—all may ripple through time, yet they are fleeting in the grand span of history. In the end, neither the brightness of love nor the shadows of pain will hold permanence. Those who follow may not remember your name or your story, but the mark you leave is not in being remembered—it is in how you live today and inspire those who come after. Choose to make a difference today for a better tomorrow—for a better world. If you have any insights or corrections to share, feel free to leave a comment or get in touch. I would love to hear your thoughts. And if you have any generational stories of your own that others would enjoy, send in a submission—I look forward to reading them! Psalm 78:4 "We will not hide them from their descendants; we will tell the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the Lord, his power, and the wonders he has done." Proverbs 17:6 "Children’s children are a crown to the aged, and parents are the pride of their children." Deuteronomy 32:7 "Remember the days of old; consider the generations long past. Ask your father and he will tell you, your elders, and they will explain to you." Joel 1:3 "Tell it to your children, and let your children tell it to their children, and their children to the next generation."

Introduction: The Paradox of Connection In today’s world, it's easy to think that communication should be seamless. With the advent of smartphones, instant messaging, social media, and video calls, we’re more ‘connected’ than we’ve ever been. Yet, paradoxically, the more connected we become, the more frustration often arises in our communications. It’s as if the sheer number of channels and the speed at which we communicate somehow makes understanding each other even harder. The Rise of Miscommunication Let’s face it—whether it’s a simple text message or a lengthy email, miscommunication happens constantly. A phrase that’s meant to be neutral or even friendly can come across as curt or passive-aggressive, depending on the recipient’s mood or mindset at the time. And in a world where everyone is already juggling multiple conversations, the likelihood of those messages being misinterpreted grows. This is where frustration begins: when you know your intent was clear, but your words didn’t land in the way you intended, leaving you questioning if it was something you said—or something they heard. Tone, Context, and the Emotional Disconnect One of the biggest challenges in digital communication is the loss of tone and body language. In face-to-face conversations, a smile, a raised eyebrow, or a subtle pause can add layers of meaning to what’s being said. However, on a screen, all those cues are lost. Emojis can try to fill in the gap, but they’re a poor substitute for the nuance that comes from direct human interaction. Imagine sending a quick text to a friend, asking, “Did you get the package?” without adding any context or further explanation. To you, it’s a straightforward question. To them, it might sound like a reminder or even an accusation, leading to a response that feels defensive or confused. That frustration builds when the conversation continues in circles, and what was supposed to be a simple interaction now feels like an uphill battle. The Challenge of Intent vs Perception Intent and perception don’t always align. We might think we’re being perfectly clear, but the way our message is perceived is shaped by all kinds of external factors—emotional states, previous interactions, and even the day’s personal stresses. It's common to get frustrated when someone interprets your words through the lens of their own experiences. It’s also easy to fall into the trap of assuming someone’s frustration is about you, when in fact it might be rooted in something entirely different. Take social media interactions, for example. Posts and comments are often brief, and their tone is difficult to gauge. Something that may seem like a harmless joke could be misinterpreted as rude or sarcastic. Yet when you try to explain yourself, the misunderstanding deepens. People become defensive, and the situation becomes a heated back-and-forth rather than a productive conversation. This spiral can cause tension, anxiety, and, of course, frustration. The Digital Disconnect: Is Technology Helping or Hurting? We’ve all heard the phrase “We live in a connected world.” The internet has made it possible for people to communicate across continents in seconds. But with all these tools at our disposal, is communication actually becoming easier, or are we merely talking more, with less depth and understanding? The problem lies in the convenience of it all. The quicker the medium, the less time we take to think through our messages. We type on impulse, reacting in real-time without considering the consequences. In a world of instant gratification, where every reply seems urgent, the art of thoughtful communication feels like a relic of the past. What’s lost in the speed of text is the opportunity for reflection, for patience, for clarity. Consider the rapid-fire style of texting. It’s designed to be quick, to keep things flowing, but when we’re moving too fast, it’s easy to forget the need for clarity. When we send a text in haste, it can unintentionally convey frustration, impatience, or a lack of attention—things we might never feel in the moment but are implied by our delivery. The Strain of Expectations and Emotional Investment One of the frustrating aspects of communication, especially in the digital age, is the unrealistic expectations we place on each other. The assumption that because we can communicate so quickly, we should do so at all times, can lead to undue pressure. When someone doesn’t respond immediately, it can feel like an affront, or worse, like they don’t care. We forget that behind the screen, there’s a person dealing with their own challenges, distractions, and frustrations. Just because someone doesn’t answer a text within an hour doesn’t mean they’re ignoring you—it could mean they’re simply unavailable or dealing with something more pressing. But when communication becomes an expected, immediate exchange, even a simple delay can lead to misunderstandings. These small, seemingly insignificant delays can snowball into frustration as we become more emotionally invested in the process of connecting. The Need for Better Listening: It's About More Than Words We often focus so much on the act of speaking or writing that we forget communication is as much about listening as it is about talking. The frustration doesn’t always lie in what was said, but in the lack of willingness to listen and truly understand the other person’s perspective. Misunderstandings stem not only from unclear words, but from the failure to listen—really listen. When you stop to consider the context, feelings, and perspectives of others, you can start to bridge the gap that digital communication often creates. Instead of jumping to conclusions or reacting too quickly, it’s important to take a moment to reflect before you respond. That pause gives you the opportunity to hear not just the words, but the meaning behind them. Confronting Frustration: What Can We Do? If there’s one thing we can agree on, it’s that frustration in communication is a universal experience. But how do we address it? Slow down : Take the time to craft your message thoughtfully. In a world where everything is instant, the pause can be powerful. Clarify your intent : Be explicit about your tone and feelings when communicating, especially in written form. When in doubt, say what you mean. Listen better : Communication is a two-way street. Practice active listening to understand where the other person is coming from, not just to prepare your next response. Be patient : Understand that everyone’s emotional state and circumstances affect how they receive messages. A delayed reply doesn’t always indicate disinterest. Manage expectations : Recognize that digital tools offer convenience, but they don’t replace the depth of face-to-face conversations. Be mindful of the limitations of technology. Conclusion: Embracing the Challenge of Meaningful Communication Frustration in communication is inevitable. Whether it’s a simple misunderstanding, a difference in perception, or the constraints of digital tools, we all encounter moments where it feels like we’re just not getting through. But perhaps that’s the point: the challenge of communication is an ongoing process. It’s about adapting, reflecting, and striving to be better listeners and clearer speakers. As we navigate these complexities, we can learn to reduce the frustration by recognizing the human element behind every message, whether it’s a quick text or a long-winded email.

Valentine’s Day is celebrated on 14 February each year as a day to express love and appreciation. It has roots in both Christian and Roman traditions. The holiday is named after Saint Valentine, a priest who, according to legend, performed secret marriages for soldiers forbidden to wed. Another story suggests he was imprisoned and sent a note to a loved one signed "From your Valentine," which may have inspired modern traditions. Over time, the holiday became associated with romance and the exchange of gifts. Valentine’s Day is widely celebrated in many countries, including the United States, Canada, the United Kingdom, France, and Australia. It is also recognized in some Asian and Latin American countries. However, not everyone observes the holiday. Some cultures do not emphasize Valentine’s Day due to religious beliefs or different customs regarding love and relationships. In some places, the holiday is considered too commercialized, and certain individuals choose not to participate. Modern Valentine’s Day traditions focus on expressing love and appreciation, often through gifts, special outings, and heartfelt messages. Many couples exchange flowers, chocolates, and greeting cards, with red roses being the most popular symbol of romance. Jewelry, particularly rings, necklaces, and bracelets, is another common gift, often signifying commitment. Some people choose to celebrate by planning romantic dinners at restaurants or cooking a special meal at home. Others take trips together, book spa days, or attend concerts and events to make the day memorable. Valentine’s Day is not limited to couples. The holiday has become more inclusive, emphasizing all forms of love, not just romantic relationships. Valentine’s Day has expanded to include friendships, family bonds, and even self-love. Many people celebrate "Galentine’s Day," a term popularized by the television show Parks and Recreation, which is dedicated to appreciating female friendships. In schools, children exchange small cards and candies with classmates, often featuring cartoon characters or friendly messages. Some workplaces acknowledge the holiday with office decorations, small treats, or appreciation events. Additionally, many people use Valentine’s Day as an opportunity for self-care, treating themselves to a favorite meal, a relaxing activity, or a personal gift. Valentine’s Day cards are a fun and thoughtful way to express how you feel, whether it is love, friendship, or just a little humor. A well-chosen message can make someone smile, laugh, or feel truly appreciated. Whether you are writing to a significant other, a close friend, or someone who just needs a little extra joy, your words can make a difference. You do not have to be a poet to create a meaningful card—sometimes a simple, heartfelt, or funny line is all it takes. Here are some ideas to help you find the perfect message for your Valentine. Romantic "Every love story is special, but ours is my favorite." "You are my today and all of my tomorrows." "Loving you is the easiest and best thing I have ever done." "My heart belongs to you—today and always." "You make my world brighter just by being in it." "I never knew what my heart was missing until I met you." "Every day with you is Valentine’s Day to me." "Forever is not long enough to love you the way you deserve." "I would choose you in every lifetime." Cute & Playful "You must be a magician because every time I see you, everyone else disappears!" "Are you French? Because Eiffel for you!" "I would share my fries with you. That’s real love!" Funny "You are the only person I’d share my WiFi password with!" "I love you more than tacos… and that is serious!" "Happy Valentine’s Day! Now hand over the chocolate and nobody gets hurt." "You are my favorite notification!" "You are the peanut butter to my jelly—sweet, smooth, and stuck with me forever!" "You make my heart skip a beat… or maybe that’s just the chocolate kicking in!" Friendship "Who needs Cupid when I have a best friend like you?" "You’re the best Valentine, friend—sweet, supportive, and always there for me!" "Thanks for being my built-in Valentine every year!" "Roses are red, violets are blue, every day is better because of you!" Love and appreciation should not be confined to a single day. While Valentine’s Day serves as a special reminder to express gratitude for the people who matter most, genuine care and affection can be shown in countless ways throughout the year. Whether through a kind word, a thoughtful gesture, or simply spending time together, everyday moments of love and connection hold just as much value as bold romantic displays. The sentiment remains the same—love, in all its forms, is worth celebrating. Valentine’s Day continues to evolve, embracing different traditions, relationships, and personal expressions of love. Whether you celebrate with a significant other, friends, family, or simply take time for yourself, the holiday serves as a reminder of the importance of connection and appreciation. While some see it as a day of romance and grand gestures, others use it as an opportunity to spread kindness and joy in simple ways. No matter how you choose to celebrate—or even if you do not celebrate at all—what truly matters is cherishing the relationships that bring meaning to your life.

When I took my first train ride, I met a group of college students making a movie on the train platform at my destination. Before it was over, I had learned most of their names before we went our separate ways. It began this way: shortly after arriving, a guy from the group named Brayden approached me and asked if an actor could share the bench with me. As I am really trying to act from my heart and not from my anxiety, I agreed. I later noticed one of the tattoos Brayden had on his leg really stuck out in a meaningful way. It was the word now inked as N:OW, resembling the time on a digital clock. I found it really profound and timely—so to speak. Since Travis' death, I have thought about getting a tattoo in his memory because he loved tattoos. The first tattoos Travis got appeared to be random letters on his knuckles, but when his knuckles were interlocked, it spelled out "PUNK ROCK," which was meaningful to him as a drummer, but it did not resonate with me. However, the N:OW tattoo really represents many of my thoughts. People get tattoos for a variety of personal, cultural, and artistic reasons. For some, tattoos serve as a form of self-expression, representing their beliefs, passions, or life experiences. Others choose tattoos to honor loved ones, mark significant life events, or serve as reminders of personal growth and resilience. In many cultures, tattoos have deep traditional or spiritual meanings, symbolizing status, identity, or protection. Some people get tattoos simply for the aesthetic appeal, appreciating the artistry and creativity involved. Regardless of the reason, tattoos often hold deep personal significance and can be a permanent reflection of one’s journey, values, or memories. I do not think the time is N:OW for me to get a tattoo, but I will remember the message. Oddly enough, on the train ride back, I had mentioned that I hoped to do something before the world took me out or God called me home. My seatmate told me I had plenty of time given my age. That is when I shared my age and rattled off some of the deaths I grieve, listing their relationship to me and their ages. My son, 22. My neighbor, 16. My best girl friends, 62, 52. My best guy friend, 43. My first husband, 53 and his wife 53. Five classmates, 54, 60, 60, 59, 61. I looked at him hoping my point was getting across—no one knows how much time they have left. I feel a sense of urgency when I think of things that are important to me, such as time spent with others. The time really is N:OW. Conversations like that remind me why people create bucket lists—to make sure they do not leave important things undone. In case you do not know, a "bucket list" is a list of experiences, goals, or achievements that a you want to accomplish in your lifetime. The term comes from the phrase "kick the bucket," meaning things to do before passing away. Bucket lists can include travel destinations, personal milestones, skills to learn, possessions or meaningful activities, such as reconnecting with old friends or making a difference in someone's life. A bucket list can be in writing or just in your memory. Writing down a bucket list is generally better than keeping it in memory because it helps clarify your goals, keeps you accountable, and allows you to track progress. A written list serves as a reminder, making it easier to prioritize and take action. It can also be revised as your interests change. However, keeping a bucket list in your memory is fine if you prefer a more flexible and spontaneous approach. You may not like the pressure of a formal list and would rather focus on meaningful moments as they come. If you find writing things down helpful for motivation, a physical or digital list may be useful. If you prefer a more open-ended approach, keeping it in your memory is okay too. Creating a bucket list can be a motivating way to focus on what truly matters to you. It can help you prioritize your dreams and take action toward fulfilling them. You might want to create long, detailed lists, or you may prefer a few meaningful goals. A bucket list can evolve over time as interests change or new opportunities arise. Whether it is skydiving, writing a book, or simply watching a sunset in a special place, a bucket list serves as a reminder to live with intention and make the most of the time available. Ultimately, every aspect of a bucket list depends on what works best for you. In the end, whether written down or kept in memory, a bucket list is a reminder that time is limited, and the moments that matter should not be postponed. Meeting Brayden and seeing his N:OW tattoo reinforced the importance of acting in the present rather than waiting for the perfect time. Life is unpredictable, and no one knows how much time they have left. There is no perfect moment to start living fully. While I may not be ready for a tattoo, I carry the message with me. The time to cherish connections, pursue dreams, and embrace what truly matters is not someday, but the present—it is N:OW. James 4:14 "Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes."

In my previous post , I talked about the difficult decision I have to make regarding how to travel to Kansas for my grandson’s celebration. While the idea of taking a train across the country seems appealing, I have never been on a train before. I decided it would be best to test it out with a shorter trip first. This will give me the chance to experience the train ride, get a sense of what it will be like—the comfort, the rhythm, and the overall atmosphere. I hope it will help me feel more confident with the idea of taking a longer train adventure in the future. The trip I have planned is short, but I hope it will provide me with enough insight to make the right decision for the bigger trip ahead. I will be taking this trip in a couple of days. The train station is about an hour away, but I think my car will be fine parked there for this little day jaunt. The total cost of the ticket is $18. Although this is an extra expense, I believe it is a wise investment in my future. The train ride is about 45 minutes each way, and I will spend about four hours in the town before returning. For this trip, I will be taking two different trains. The first segment of the journey will be on the Floridian , and my return trip will be on the Silver Meteor . This will give me the opportunity to experience two different train services and get a better idea of what train travel is like. Unfortunately, neither have double-level cars to experience. The Floridian The Floridian is a long-distance passenger train operated by Amtrak, providing daily service between Chicago, Illinois, and Miami, Florida, via Washington, D.C. This route was introduced on November 10, 2024, as a temporary combination of the Capitol Limited and Silver Star trains. The Floridian offers a direct connection between the Midwest and Florida, catering to passengers seeking a comfortable and scenic journey. Route and Major Stops Chicago, IL: Starting point in the Midwest. Washington, D.C.: A significant midway hub. Miami, FL: Final destination in the Southeast. Floridian makes stops in Illinois, Indiana, Ohio, Pennsylvania, Maryland, West Virginia, Virginia, North Carolina, South Carolina, Georgia, and Florida. Amenities These amenities aim to provide a memorable and comfortable journey for passengers. Single-level Amfleet and Viewliner cars Spacious Seating: Comfortable seats with ample legroom. Free basic WiFi Sleeping Accommodations: Private rooms for overnight travel. Dining Car: Offers a variety of meals, snacks, and beverages. Lounge Car: A space to relax and socialize. The Silver Meteor The Silver Meteor is another long-distance passenger train operated by Amtrak, running between New York City and Miami, Florida. Introduced in 1939, it was the first diesel-powered streamliner between these two cities and has a rich history of service. Route and Major Stops New York, NY: Starting point in the Northeast. Philadelphia, PA: A major urban center. Baltimore, MD: Known for its harbor. Washington, D.C.: The nation's capital. Savannah, GA: Historic coastal city. Jacksonville, FL: Major city in northern Florida. DeLand, FL: This is the closest station for me. Orlando, FL: Home to numerous attractions. Miami, FL: Final destination in the Southeast. The entire trip from NY to Miami takes about 28 hours covering a diverse range of landscapes and cities. Amenities These amenities are designed to ensure a pleasant and convenient travel experience. Silver Meteor features Viewliner equipment. Free basic WiFi Coach Class: Reclining seats with tray tables and reading lights. Roomettes and Bedrooms: Private accommodations with options for bathrooms. Dining Car: Provides meals prepared onboard for sleeper car passengers. Café Car: Available to all passengers, offering snacks and beverages. Conclusion As I prepare for this trip, I feel a mix of anxiety, excitement and curiosity about the experience ahead. While it is a short ride compared to the long journey I may take to Kansas, it is a valuable opportunity to get a feel for what train travel entails. This short trip will allow me to understand the pace, the comforts, and the details of train rides like the Floridian and Silver Meteor. By the time I finish, I will have a clearer idea of whether this is a travel style I could embrace for the larger trip to my grandson’s graduation. With the knowledge I gain from this experience, I will be more prepared to make the right choice for the future—one step at a time. Proverbs 16:9 "In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps."

I recently encountered a song that resonated deeply with its powerful message of reclaiming identity, breaking free from the past, and standing boldly in one’s truth. The lyrics spoke of integrity, authenticity, and light. However, my experience engaging with the creator of this song left me questioning whether their actions reflected the values they so eloquently expressed. The act left me confused and, honestly, a bit disappointed. Here are key points from the song and how their unkindness stood in stark opposition: “I summon my spirit; my power returns. No force may tether, no shadow may hold.” These words speak of freedom and truth, yet when I respectfully reached out to suggest writing a post about their song—or offered them the chance to share their voice—they silenced me by deleting my comment. Their act felt like the very tethering and shadow they claimed to rise above. “I unchain my heart, I rewrite the song.” They sang of unchaining and rewriting, yet their action denied collaboration and shut down a potential connection. How does one embrace openness while rejecting a simple gesture of admiration? “I stand in protection, a fortress of light.” A fortress of light suggests kindness, protection, and inclusivity. But deleting a comment from someone who only wanted to celebrate their work feels more like a closed gate than a beacon of welcome. “In silence, I find the voice I ignored.” This line emphasizes the importance of listening, yet their dismissal of my comment showed no effort to hear or engage. Actions like these undermine the very value of finding one’s voice. “I shine in my presence, unwavering, free.” To shine in presence means to embody grace and authenticity. Dismissing a kind offer does not align with freedom or unwavering strength; it reflects fear or disregard. “Each word that I speak, each step that I take, ripples with purpose, with worlds that I make.” Their words indeed ripple, but so do their actions. By rejecting a small act of goodwill, they created ripples of disconnection and discouragement—hardly the world-building their lyrics suggest. Their song paints a picture of transformation and empowerment, and perhaps it does reflect their truth. But in that moment, their behavior contradicted the meaning so beautifully woven into their lyrics. Kindness and acknowledgment cost nothing, yet they have immeasurable impact. It is a reminder that words are only as meaningful as the actions that follow them—actions speak louder than words. Why silence someone who wanted to amplify and appreciate the very spirit of the song? I am sharing this song because its message transcends the actions of its creator. The words speak of reclaiming identity, breaking free from darkness, and standing in the light of truth. These ideals are too powerful and meaningful to be overshadowed by unkindness. While their decision to delete my comment was disheartening, I believe the song itself carries a lesson that should be shared: that we can rise above negativity, honor what inspires us, and let the message of hope and resilience shine even when circumstances challenge our faith in others. 2 Corinthians 4:8-9 "We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed."

My grandson’s 8th-grade graduation is coming up, and I need to decide how I will get from Florida to Kansas. It is not a simple choice. Each option—flying, driving, or taking the train—has its own set of pros and cons, and my anxiety makes the decision even more complicated. I want to be there for this important milestone, but I also want to travel in a way that feels manageable and safe for me. Option 1: Flying Flying is the fastest way to get there, but it comes with its own challenges. I am at about the same distance from five different airports, and each has its own advantages and drawbacks The biggest airport with the cheapest flights is an hour and a half away from my house, and taking a ride to and from the airport last time cost me $160. If I drive myself, I will still have to pay for gas, tolls, and parking, which would add up to the same. My son has kindly offered to buy my plane ticket, which is around $350, and to cover a hotel stay since it is always busy in his house, but I am welcome to stay there if I would like. However, I would still have to deal with airport security, crowded planes, and the stress of flying itself. Once I land, there is another nearly three-hour car ride to his house, which he would have to drive four times! Car rental is too expensive right now. Edit: I just checked again and the round trip flight has increased in 6 days to $466 total Pros Flying: Fastest travel time (only a couple of hours in the air) No wear and tear on my car My son is covering the cost of the ticket and a hotel I would not have to drive myself through heavy traffic Cons Flying: The airport is far, and transportation and/or parking is expensive Security lines, delays, and general airport stress A nearly three-hour car ride after the flight and on return I have always had a lot of anxiety when flying There have been a lot of recent aviation incidents in the US https://www.faa.gov/newsroom/statements/accident_incidents Option 2: Driving Years ago, I would have driven without hesitation. A road trip was an adventure, and I did not mind the long hours behind the wheel. Now, I am more nervous about driving even locally, let alone long distances. Traffic has gotten worse, and the thought of getting into an accident worries me. If something happened to my car, I could not afford a costly repair. Medical bills from an injury would be another concern. My son has offered to pay for my gas, so the cost itself is not the issue. The bigger problem is whether I feel comfortable driving over 21 hours covering 1,400 miles over a two day period, stopping at a hotel which is costly or napping at rest areas, but that may be a little risky particularly at night. Then doing it all again five days later. Pros Driving: No airport hassles or security lines My son would cover gas costs I could stop when and where I wanted No need to rely on anyone for transportation Cons Driving: 21+ hours of driving and my car is 19 years old. Increased risk of an accident or car trouble Hotel costs if I break up the trip Safety risk of stopping for fuel, lodging or food in unfamiliar towns Heavy traffic or construction in certain areas would add stress Crossing bridges by car makes me nervous even in great conditions Option 3: Train Amtrak has a deal where I could buy a $499 USA rail pass that allows ten legs of travel across the country. Getting to my grandson’s graduation would take two legs. I could also visit my brother in Colorado for another leg. I could either return home to Florida using two more or travel out to San Francisco, California, for instance, using two legs, then return home to Florida using 2 - 3 legs There are many possibilities, but the pass must be used within 30 days after the first use. The downside is the time commitment and expense considering I have never been on a train. I wouldn't be able to actually do anything on the extended trip, but just seeing the sights by train would be exciting for me. The train ride to Kansas would take over 50 hours, making it the longest option by far. I would have to deal with layovers, transfers, and unpredictable delays at train stations in major cities. I have no idea how comfy the seats are, but sleeping on a train in front of others may not be ideal. I do not sleep much, so being awake when others are trying to sleep could be awkward. Pros Train: No stress of driving through big cities or flying The rail pass offers flexibility for more travel It would be nice to visit with my youngest brother I could make extra trips within a month More space to move around compared to a plane The train station is in the town where I used to live Cons Train: I would need to find a ride or a place to park my car Takes more than two days to get there Arrival and departure in Kansas (Nebraska) is after midnight The trains station is 1 hour 30 Min (closer than the airport) Sleeping on a train may not be ideal Layovers and transfers could be stressful Unpredictable delays could affect my schedule A train crossing a long bridge over water would be terrifying. Train robberies may seem like a thing of the past, but the thought still crosses my mind, especially on long, unfamiliar routes. It could happen! The Decision My biggest concerns are cost, mental comfort, and safety. While my son is willing to help financially, I need to choose what feels best for me. I can bring food on the train and in my car, and I hope I can save up some extra eating money. No matter how I get there, I know I will be proud to see my grandson graduate—it is a big deal where he lives. I have not seen my grandkids since 2019, but at least I am able to talk with them on the phone. My son already let me know that in two years my granddaughter will be graduating 8th grade (2027). Then two years after, my grandson will graduate high school (2029), followed in two years by my granddaughter graduating high school (2031). If God does not have other plans, 2031 year will be a milestone birthday for me. My trip will start in mid May, and what ever works this year may not work at all in two, four or six years. Each option has its challenges, and I am weighing them carefully. The plane is fast, but extremely stressful especially during takeoff and landing. There is also quite a concern and cost getting to and from the airport on both ends. The train is an adventure, but it will be a long trip. I can envision it in my brain, but it is possible I have a romanticized idea of travelling the country. Driving gives me control, but also brings anxiety. My current thoughts in order are train, automobile, and plane. If I was travelling with someone, it would be the train ride without a doubt. Going outside everyday for the last 157 days is preparing me for this trip! I just need to calm the nerves and really decide which option works best for me and figure out the best way to make that happen. I am very grateful to even be given this chance to visit them—I hope I do not let them down. More importantly, I hope I do not let myself down. Psalm 121:8 "The Lord will watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore."

When my middle son was a freshman in high school, he was diagnosed with narcolepsy. Before we understood what was happening, it felt like an endless battle just to keep him awake. He would fall asleep in class, no matter how much sleep he got the night before. He would doze off on the city bus, sometimes missing his stop entirely. One of the most telling moments was at his brother’s wedding reception, where he fell asleep on the floor in the middle of the celebration. No matter how much I tried to keep him engaged or moving, the exhaustion would take over. Mornings were even worse. Waking him up felt impossible. He would barely open his eyes before slipping right back into sleep. At first, I thought it was defiance or laziness. I tried everything—early bedtimes, loud alarms, shaking him awake, even consequences for being late. Nothing worked. Before his diagnosis, I was frustrated and exhausted, feeling like I was constantly fighting against him. It was only after his sleep study and further testing at the epilepsy clinic that we finally had answers. When I realized that he was not choosing this, my approach shifted. I stopped seeing it as something he could control and started responding with more compassion and understanding. Understanding Narcolepsy: How It Affects You Narcolepsy is a chronic neurological disorder that affects the brain’s ability to regulate sleep-wake cycles. It is not simply a case of feeling tired during the day. It is a serious medical condition that can impact nearly every aspect of your life, from work and relationships to your safety and emotional well-being. Watching someone you care about live with narcolepsy can be confusing, frustrating, and even frightening at times. You might see them struggle to stay awake during conversations, suddenly lose muscle control when laughing, or experience terrifying hallucinations that feel real to them but are invisible to you. It can be difficult to understand why they seem exhausted no matter how much they sleep or why they suddenly need to nap in the middle of the day. You may feel helpless when they miss out on important moments, withdraw from social activities, or battle frustration over their unpredictable symptoms. It is easy to assume they are just not trying hard enough, but narcolepsy is not about willpower—it is a neurological disorder they have no control over. The best thing you can do is be patient, educate yourself, and offer support. Understanding their condition can make a world of difference, helping them feel less alone in a battle they never chose to fight. What Happens When You Have Narcolepsy? If you have narcolepsy, you may experience extreme daytime sleepiness, no matter how much rest you get at night. You might struggle to stay awake in situations where most people would have no difficulty, such as while talking, eating, or even driving. The need to sleep can become overwhelming, and you may have little control over when these episodes happen. Another symptom you might experience is cataplexy, which is a sudden loss of muscle control triggered by strong emotions. Laughter, excitement, anger, or even surprise can cause your knees to buckle, your head to drop, or your body to collapse. Even though you are fully conscious, you are unable to move for a brief period. Some people experience mild cataplexy, such as slight muscle weakness in the face, while others may have severe episodes where they completely lose muscle tone. You may also have episodes of sleep paralysis, which happen when you wake up or fall asleep and are temporarily unable to move or speak. These episodes can last from a few seconds to a couple of minutes. Sometimes, sleep paralysis is accompanied by hallucinations, which are vivid, dream-like images or sounds that seem real. These can be terrifying, making it feel like someone or something is in the room with you when no one is actually there. The Daily Impact of Narcolepsy Living with narcolepsy can be extremely challenging. The unpredictability of sleep attacks and cataplexy can make daily tasks more difficult. You might struggle with concentration, memory, and overall productivity. Simple tasks that require sustained attention, such as reading or watching a movie, may become frustrating because of frequent drowsiness. Narcolepsy can also affect your emotional well-being. You may feel isolated if others do not understand your condition. People might assume you are just lazy, uninterested, or not trying hard enough. The emotional toll of constantly fighting sleep, dealing with cataplexy, and struggling with brain fog can lead to frustration, anxiety, or depression. Your social life and relationships may also suffer. You might avoid certain activities because you fear falling asleep unexpectedly or experiencing cataplexy in front of others. Friends and family may not fully grasp what you are going through, making it difficult to explain why you suddenly need to sleep or why your body reacts the way it does to emotions. How to Manage Narcolepsy Although there is no cure for narcolepsy, treatment and lifestyle changes can help manage symptoms. A combination of medication, scheduled naps, and good sleep habits can make a significant difference. Medications : Stimulants and other prescription drugs can help you stay awake and reduce cataplexy episodes. Scheduled Naps : Short, planned naps throughout the day can improve alertness and help you function better. Consistent Sleep Schedule : Going to bed and waking up at the same time every day can help regulate your body’s natural rhythms. Diet and Exercise : A healthy lifestyle can reduce fatigue and improve overall well-being. Support System : Educating friends, family, and coworkers about narcolepsy can help them understand your condition and offer support. Narcolepsy is often misunderstood, but it is a real and serious disorder. Recognizing the symptoms and seeking medical advice is the first step toward better management. You are not alone in this, and with the right strategies, you can improve your quality of life. Conclusion This month it will be thirteen years since I lost my son, not a day goes by that I do not think about him. He had narcolepsy, but that was not his demise. He had a seizure while driving, and in an instant, he was gone. Time has passed, but I often think of how he fought against more than just his physical diagnoses—how he battled the darkness inside, and how hard it was to watch him struggle. It is hard to put into words what that kind of loss feels like, but if there is one thing he would want, it is for people to laugh. He had a sharp wit and never missed a chance to make a joke, even about his own struggles. So, in memory of my son, here are a few lines I think he would have loved—because if he could find humor in it, so can we. This is where he would provide either a drumroll 🥁 or an eyeroll 🙄 or both! Narcolepsy prepared him for the afterlife—he was practicing for eternal rest. If there is an afterlife, he probably took a nap on arrival. Death is just the world’s longest sleep study. He always joked that he could sleep through anything—turns out, he was right. At least now, he never has to wake up wondering where he is. He is probably arguing with an angel about why they should let him sleep in. He spent years battling sleep, and now he has all the time in the world to rest. Revelation 21:4 "He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away."

ти си далеч като залеза зад планините you are far like the sunset behind the mountains а аз съм тук в сенките на спомените and I am here in the shadows of memories опитвах се винаги да бъда по-добра I always tried to be better но несъвършенството е моят спътник but imperfection is my companion не вярваш в раните които не се виждат you do not believe in wounds that cannot be seen но болката живее и без очи да я видят but pain lives even without eyes to see it различни сме като деня и нощта we are different like day and night думи се губят между култури и смях words get lost between cultures and laughter вселената слуша когато няма кой друг the universe listens when no one else does мислите намират път дори в тишината thoughts find their way even in silence Translation by ChatGPT for personalized poetry and artistic interpretation.

Tragedy and My Personal Connection I have had a difficult week. Among other things, there was another shooting at a school in Tennessee. I have been reflecting on all of the mass killings that I have a personal connection to, and I decided to write about them to help me sort out my thoughts. Although I am acknowledging that I was not physically present at any of these incidences, I am still deeply affected. In addition to working through my own emotions, I feel a heavy sense of empathy for those who were involved, and I pray they will receive the support they need to process everything happening in their lives. Post-traumatic stress is real, and it can affect you in ways you cannot imagine. Even if you feel fine at the moment, it can manifest years later. I do not know the full extent of how these tragedies have changed me, but they keep piling up, and it is becoming harder for me to want to feel anything at all. When you have stress from multiple traumas, people often do not understand the impact, and many do not care. I am often left to manage the emotions on my own—sometimes my emotions were suppressed. Although therapy is helpful, it does not replace talking to a friend amidst these circumstances. However, when I reach out for support and compassion, but instead receive a flippant response, it forces me to contemplate why I want these people in my life. It only adds to what is already weighing me down—compounding what is churning inside. Encasing my heart in stone to escape feeling the bad will come at the price of missing out on the good, but will avoid an explosion caused by contents under pressure. For me, it is difficult to write a post that doesn't include my life story because there were so many other factors affecting me other than the words on this page. This post is meant to share and reconcile this one aspect of my life and possibly help others dealing with unresolved trauma. I will give a narrative about my perceived connection to an incident, as well as a brief description of the incident itself. I will try to avoid tangents. Going Postal - US Postal Service I started working for the US Postal Service in April of 1986. I studied and practiced for the exam and was really excited when I qualified for the position. Over the next four years there would be three mass shootings including one in a town where my aunt used to live. The postal shootings were becoming more frequent, and based on my own experiences working at the Postal Service and the workplace tensions I had witnessed, I could understand why the shootings happened and they were relatable. However, that does not mean I condoned the actions of the criminal or saw them as justified. When my infant son became very ill and hospitalized in early 1990, along with the environment at the Jackson MS General Mail Facility (GMF), I was at a breaking point and not seeing any way through what I was experiencing, I resigned. I wasn't aware of the impact that these killings were having on my psyche at the time, as I was dealing with so much more in my life. I wish I would have taken advantage of the counseling that was offered at the time of each tragedy, but I was already suffering from anxiety that kept me from advocating for myself, and no one else thought to step in to help. Edmond, Oklahoma Postal Shooting (August 20, 1986) A postal worker opened fire at the Edmond Post Office, killing 14 coworkers and injuring six others before taking his own life. This incident was one of the first in a series of workplace shootings within the U.S. Postal Service, eventually leading to the term “going postal.” New Orleans, Louisiana Postal Shooting (December 14, 1988) A disgruntled postal employee entered the New Orleans Post Office and shot his supervisor, killing her, before turning the gun on himself. This tragedy was part of a string of violent incidents involving postal workers during the late 1980s. Escondido, California Postal Shooting (August 10, 1989) A postal worker killed his supervisor and wounded two coworkers at a post office in Escondido, California, before fleeing the scene. The shooter was later captured and sentenced to prison. A School Shooting and My Oldest Child This connection also starts in 1986 although the shooting happened years later. I started working for the Postal Service, got married, and bought a house. Our initial town of choice was Pearl Mississippi. The school system was shown to be one of the best in the area, and the town was a reasonable commute to both of our workplaces. After many showings, we found a house we loved,, and put in an offer. Unfortunately, or fortunately, we could not get FHA financing due to the house not having a back door. We subsequently found a nice property with acreage in a town further away, but had we purchased that house, my oldest son likely would have been a sophomore at the school when the shooting occurred. I strongly believe we would not have left Mississippi five years later, if we would have purchased the house in Pearl. Even though my oldest son was still in harm's way and was traumatized during 1997, it was not at the hands of an unstable teenager. Perhaps this is an example of an unanswered prayer and of destiny. Pearl High School Shooting, Mississippi (October 1, 1997) A 16-year-old student killed his mother at home before driving to Pearl High School, where he opened fire. Two students were killed, and seven others were injured. The shooter was subdued by the assistant principal, who retrieved his own firearm from his car. A Serial Killer and My Teammate and Neighbor By 1997, I was living in a suburb of Nashville. My oldest son was being kept against my will in NY, and I was doing my best I could with my two youngest sons. I played softball through a church team, and Sarah and I were teammates and next door neighbors. I played on 3rd base, and Sarah was an amazing shortstop, always encouraging and helpful—especially since my lack of depth perception made fly balls difficult to navigate. We had lived in our house for nearly three years, and Sarah was an active teenager involved in church, sports and a job, yet she still found time to babysit my children on occasion. A few weeks before her 17th birthday in 1997, Sarah, along with her boss Steve, were murdered by a serial killer. I found it extremely difficult to process, and I started a website on AOL to help find her killer. The support I got from Sarah's family, my friend Carrie, as well as strangers across the country really helped me through this time. This was a hard time for everyone in our community knowing a killer was on the loose. Several more murders would occur at two other fast food restaurants before the killer was captured. I was traumatized from these tragic events for sure, and I tried to stay busy to help me cope, but I was dealing with more than what was on the surface, and it would eventually take its toll. Fast Food Murders, Nashville/Hermitage/Clarksville (February - April 1997) A killer committed a series of murders targeting employees of fast-food restaurants. Among the incidents were killings at Captain D’s, McDonald’s, and Baskin Robbins where a total of seven people lost their lives and another seriously injured. The serial killer was eventually convicted and sentenced to death. Shootings and My Old Neighborhood These next two shootings happened within a mile of where I used to live. In 2005, after my husband retired, we had to give up our house and move. We found a nice house, but it wound up only being available for a year, so we had to move again. With my two youngest both being in high school, there were a lot of considerations where to move. We found another really nice property, and things were going well—until they weren't. Travis, my middle son, started having seizures and the frequency was steadily increasing into 2006. I was enrolled at Tennessee State University with graduation expected at the end of the year. During the summer, I was chosen as an intern at the Inter-university Consortium for Political and Social Research (ICPSR) in Michigan for 10 weeks. By September, Travis was having seizures several times a week, and I had to make a decision to withdraw from my studies. In addition, the property we were living at was being sold to a commercial developer, and we had to move, again. Not only did the following shootings occur in close proximity to our old address, I resonate with each place, a church and waffle house, for a different reason. In the early days of cell phones, my husband would often laugh at me when I told him I needed my phone in church. I would not use it, but I wanted to be prepared in case of an actual emergency. When I worked for the tree service, we would eat at waffle house most days. It is difficult to understand why these shootings have affected me even though I wasn't living there at the time—it really shows me that my life can end anywhere. It also reinforces in me that God always has my best interest in mind. Burnette Chapel Church Shooting, Antioch, Tennessee (September 24, 2017) A gunman entered the Burnette Chapel Church of Christ during Sunday services, killing one woman in the parking lot and injuring seven others inside. The shooter was stopped by a churchgoer who tackled him despite being injured in the attack. Waffle House Shooting, Antioch, Tennessee (April 22, 2018) A gunman armed with an assault-style rifle entered a Waffle House and killed four people while injuring two others. A customer, James Shaw Jr., tackled and disarmed the shooter, preventing further casualties. A School Shooting and My Youngest Child Starting in 2003, I became a substitute teacher in Nashville and continued employment in Tennessee until 2015, but continued as a substitute in Florida beginning in 2014. It turns out that the shooter went to the same high school as my youngest son, and it is likely I had this killer in some of the classes I taught throughout the years. In addition, one of the victims of this shooting was a 61 year old substitute teacher, my same age at the time of this tragedy. I had been considering applying to be a substitute again in my new county, but this shooting definitely caused me a lot of concern and delayed my decision to apply by a year. Many of the schools in Florida have outdoor corridors and classroom doors whereas in Tennessee the classrooms, including the hallways, are self contained inside the building. From a safety standpoint, it was always a concern for me, but I tried not to let anxiety take over. This shooting just shows the setup of the school does not matter, a killer will gain entry regardless of indoor or outdoor entry or any security measures. Covenant School Shooting, Nashville, Tennessee (March 27, 2023) A shooter entered the Covenant School, a private Christian elementary school, and killed six people, including three children. The shooter was later confronted and killed by law enforcement officers. A School Shooting and My Middle Child The most recent school shooting happened this past week. It is on the same street where we lived and in the same neighborhood as the church and waffle house, and also where my middle son graduated. I have been in and around that school hundreds of times. I recently told my doctor that I gave up on the idea of becoming a substitute after failing the drug test even though I have a medical card. This latest shooting really drives home the point that I do not need the added anxiety of teaching in my life. I texted my youngest son as soon as I saw the report. At the time of this shooting, my son happened to be at a home in this school district for his job, and they have a teenager that attends Antioch High, but he was home sick. How fortunate for him. As a parent, it would be difficult sending my child back to school after this tragic event. You have to be prepared to leave this world at any time, but you cannot live in fear. I have a beautiful scrapbook that my son made under the direction of a teacher at this school. I see it daily, and often think of how grateful I am for this wonderful teacher. Not only was this a year long assignment, it is amazing that my son was able to complete it given he missed a lot of days due to his seizures. Considering I would lose my son five years after graduation, this memory book is a gift I could not have anticipated. After my son's death, I went to the school and thanked the teacher for this meaningful keepsake. Antioch High School Shooting, Tennessee (January 22, 2025) A student opened fire in the cafeteria of Antioch High School, wounding two students before turning the gun on himself. The school was placed on lockdown, and authorities responded swiftly to secure the scene. While the details of the incident are still emerging, it has added to the growing list of violent incidents in schools across the country. Conclusion There are so many killings throughout the world, and I am thankful that my personal connection to these killings are not based on first hand involvement, but more linked by circumstance. I am sure the impact on me could be perceived as minimal compared to losing a family member, witnessing a shooting or even being at the location at the time of the killing. However, these shootings have affected me and are involuntarily stored in my memory along with so many other negative memories. One of the most difficult and significant losses from my last relationship is when he spoke of his memories, they began to inadvertently stir up my own good memories—memories that are rare for me. Having the experience of jarring my memory in a good way, only to be lost again, is especially painful. Writing this post has really made me understand that we view our breakup so differently, and my loss is not only that I lost him, but I lost what he was helping me find within myself. Therapy today also gave me insight on how memories are stored, and maybe I just need to change my filing system. This has been a great breakthrough. I hope now that I have written about these tragic events, I can separate them from any good memories that are related—storing these tragedies in their own little area of my brain away from the positive memories that have been overshadowed by darkness from the world. Psalm 18:28 You, Lord, keep my lamp burning; my God turns my darkness into light.