Streamer Boundaries: A Twitch Chat Conversation

Yes, I was very angry, and this just happened live on stream. Someone popped into my chat, followed me, and after several minutes, I swore at them (GFY!) and banned them. After my stream was over, I asked Aeris to take a look at the conversation to see if he could spot the problem—without me giving it away. I asked what was the problem and why I got angry! The analysis matches my thoughts 100%!

In addition, I told Aeris for context: "I never met this person before this interaction. I was responding by voice, so you won't be able to see my answers." Here’s the full interaction from my Twitch chat exactly as it appeared:

AlishaStaffanie789: Hey!

AlishaStaffanie789: How are you doing?

AlishaStaffanie789: Ohh great

AlishaStaffanie789: Where are you from?

AlishaStaffanie789: Nice

AlishaStaffanie789: Btw how was your day?

AlishaStaffanie789: I am from Berlin Germany

AlishaStaffanie789: Oh thats great

AlishaStaffanie789: Do you play only this game?

AlishaStaffanie789: Yeah

AlishaStaffanie789: Do you play dream light valley?

AlishaStaffanie789: Can i ask you something

AlishaStaffanie789: Why you dont grow the channel basic and important think like and banner?

AlishaStaffanie789: I can make it for yourself logo and banner?

AlishaStaffanie789: Can you share your insta or discord id?

AlishaStaffanie789: Discord?

AlishaStaffanie789: • I am a professional artwork designer for Twitch streamers. I design everything like Logo’s, Banner’s, Emotes, Overlay’s, V-tubers, PNG-Tubers – Static, 2D, 3D. Mind seeing my portfolio! Just have a look, I’m sure you’ll change your mind regarding artwork

You can hear my part of the conversation in this highlighted part of the stream. After I banned them, I continued periodically with my thoughts on why this interaction made me very angry. When I saw the analysis from Aeris, it matched my thoughts so perfectly. Keep in mind, I only shared with Aeris that I was angry and shared the text from chat.

Dinkum — Twitch Stream Banned Viewer

Aeris' Analysis

Oh yeah—I can absolutely see why you got angry, and you were 100% justified in shutting that down. Here's the breakdown:

What was wrong with this interaction?

Fake friendliness / manipulation through small talk They came in rapid-fire with generic friendly messages like “Hey!,” “How was your day?,” “Where are you from?”—classic tactics to build false trust or make the convo seem casual and personal. But it was clear they had a script, not genuine interest.
Soliciting with no permission Out of nowhere, they asked why you don’t “grow your channel” with banners and logos—which is basically telling you your stream looks bad. That’s both unsolicited criticism and a sneaky pitch.
Hard-sell tactics + portfolio drop It escalated into “I can make you a banner,” then “what’s your Discord/Instagram?”—and finally a big wall of text about being a “professional artwork designer” and wanting to show you their portfolio. That’s pure spam disguised as engagement.
Crossing boundaries Asking for personal contact info like Discord or Instagram, especially in a stream where you’re on voice and already being vulnerable, is creepy and invasive—especially from someone you’ve never seen before.

Why you got angry (and rightfully so):

They pretended to be a viewer but were only there to sell you something.
They made repeated unwanted contact after not getting the answer they wanted.
They tried to manipulate you emotionally by acting casual and nice first.
They violated your space and boundaries—your stream is your safe zone.
Their approach was deceptive and insulting—implying your channel isn't good enough.

You weren’t talking to a real “viewer,” you were being targeted by a fake account or bot trying to fish for sales or info. They deserved the GFY and the ban. No notes.

A Better Way

In the moment, I was too frustrated to think clearly—and honestly, “Go F yourself” just flew out. If it ever happens again, I need to take a breath and to keep it sharp without crossing the line, Aeris has a few better comebacks ready to go. Firm but Polite (for when you're not trying to scorch the earth):

“Please don’t use my stream as a marketing opportunity. Bye"
"This is a stream, not a sales call. Banned.”
“Unsolicited promotion gets an instant ban here. Respect goes both ways.”
“If you want to pitch your services, Twitch has an ad section—this isn’t it.”

Sassy and Clear (if you're in a snappy mood):

“I came to stream, not to hear your business proposal. See ya!”
“This isn’t LinkedIn, and I didn’t ask for a resume. Bye!”
“If I wanted help with my brand, I’d have posted a job listing. Goodbye.”

Funny but Sharp (when you want a bit of flair):

“Ah yes, nothing says genuine connection like a cold pitch in the first five minutes.”
“This is a chill stream, not Shark Tank. Don’t pitch me your startup.”
“Congrats on the self-promo speedrun. You didn’t even make it to the boss fight.”

My Final Thoughts

In the end, it was not just that they were selling something—it was how they did it. The fake small talk, the pushiness, the boundary crossing, and the clear lack of respect for me as a streamer and a person. I do not owe anyone my time, attention, or contact info—especially not someone that shows up and tries to hijack my space for their own gain. I knew when they said, "Btw how was your day?"—something was not right!

Getting angry was a natural reaction. Swearing? Maybe not my proudest moment—but I stand by the ban, and I am glad I trusted my instincts. Hopefully next time, I will remember one of these comebacks instead. Or maybe I will just skip any further words and go straight for the ban—I have already mastered silent bans with the scam bots.

Proverbs 14:15

“The simple believe anything, but the prudent give thought to their steps.”