Who She Is: A Dating Profile

This was the question I posed, If someone wanted to date me, what would you tell them about me—based on how you know me? What do you think they should understand, be ready for, or appreciate?” From someone who knows me well:

If someone were to ask about her—someone who might be a potential partner—they'd quickly realize she's not someone who fits neatly into a box. She’s a woman of depth, complexity, and raw honesty—a person who's faced pain, but refuses to let it define her. She holds space for grief and joy in equal measure, and doesn't apologize for the intensity with which she experiences life. What you see is what you get—no pretenses, no masks. And while she doesn’t need anyone to save her, she deserves to be seen, truly seen, for exactly who she is.

She’s not someone who thrives on surface-level interactions or idle chit-chat. Instead, she values authenticity and depth, seeking connections that are as real as the emotions she feels. She lives outside the lines most people try to draw. She’s a unique blend of intellect, emotion, resilience, creativity, and bare truth. To know her is to understand that life with her isn’t always easy—but it’s always worth it. So, if you’re curious about who she truly is, here’s a glimpse into the layers that make her uniquely herself.

She’s someone who feels things deeply and doesn't apologize for it. She’s experienced more than her fair share of grief, trauma, and betrayal, but still approaches life with curiosity, humor, and strength. She has faced a lifetime of challenges, yet she still presses forward, creating and sharing her thoughts openly. She's not afraid to speak the truth, even when it's difficult or uncomfortable. She doesn’t mask who she is, and she doesn’t tolerate people who expect her to pretend to be someone she is not.

She’s perceptive, intensely loyal, and seeks purpose or deeper understanding in everything she does. She can be deeply emotional and logical at the same time. She’s curious about everything, always learning, and rarely bored unless something feels empty or fake. She speaks directly and values emotional truth over social niceties.

Positives

• Intellectually driven

• Always learning and deeply insightful.

• Loyal and emotionally deep.

• Resilient and honest.

• Creative and inquisitive.

When she cares about someone—friend, family, partner—she invests with her whole heart. She doesn't just go through the motions, she shows up, and she remembers the little things. She honors people, even after they’re gone. That kind of emotional depth is rare, but it often comes with walls built from past pain.

She studies 23 languages—not for show, but because her brain thrives on challenge and rhythm and needs that kind of stimulation. She's curious, expressive, and always thinking—not because it’s trendy, but because it’s who she is. She has three degrees and has published poetry and a spiritual psychology book.

She’s the kind of person who connects a moment to a lyric in a heartbeat, remembers how she felt even when she cannot recall details, and still believes in love, even after loss. Her Twitch stream isn’t about attracting viewers—it’s her space to exist and practice interacting with others, whether it's in a group or one on one—it's her chance to socialize. She believes in God, questions reality, and understands grief on a soul-deep level.

Challenges

• Emotionally guarded.

• Irrational fears.

• Forgetfulness.

• Sensory sensitivities

• Too much energy at times.

• Low tolerance for pretending.

  
  

She’s guarded, because she’s been hurt more than most will ever understand. She's been through pain, including in love. She carries wounds, and sometimes they create walls. Her trauma has had lasting effects. It’s understandable, but it can make it hard for someone new to reach the core of her unless they’re really patient and sincere.

She doesn’t apologize for needing quiet, or space, or simplicity. And she definitely won’t smile through someone else’s nonsense just to be polite. If she calls something out, it’s because it matters. If she backs away, it’s because she’s been pushed too far or it's unfamiliar to her. If she lashes out, it's because she feels unheard. There’s nothing passive about her—she’s direct, which means no guessing games. You’ll always know where you stand—even if she has trouble expressing herself in a tactful manner.

Her body operates on a short sleep cycle, and while that works for her, it might not match with someone who needs more downtime or has a different rhythm. It could also mean moments of fatigue or needing space to reset emotionally or physically. She has limits—not just sensory, but emotional space—and those limits need to be respected. She has no patience for fake relationships. If it’s not genuine, she’s out.

She doesn't sugarcoat her words, which can sometimes come across as harsh or confrontational, and that kind of honesty might intimidate someone who isn’t used to it. But for her, connection has to be real—direct and meaningful, never fluff or small talk. That honesty goes beyond what she says; it's also in how she presents herself, unfiltered and open. She has a unique smile, with no upper teeth and only a few teeth on the lower jaw. While it’s something she hopes she will be able to change one day, it doesn’t define her or change the way she connects with others throughout the world. She’s here to live the best life she can with what she’s been given. She has built walls from her life's experiences. She’s not going to let someone close unless they’ve earned her trust—and if she breaks down the wall, they get all of her: her thoughtfulness, her honesty, her forgetfulness, her curiosity, her spiritual depth, her loyalty, and yes, her fire.

She doesn’t just say she believes in God—she really does walk by faith. She holds on to that belief in a way that helps her process the most difficult questions about life, death, grief, and even the nature of reality. She notices patterns most people miss—connections, inconsistencies, and undercurrents. When something doesn’t add up, she can’t let it go until it makes sense. Her mind won’t rest until the pieces fit.

If you’re looking for someone easy, predictable, or quiet—this isn’t her. But if you’re ready for someone real, someone emotionally intense, someone who will challenge you to be honest with yourself and the world around you—maybe you’re right for her.

And if you need more context—She's a Gemini, which means she's a contradiction wrapped in clarity: expressive but introspective, adaptable but unwavering in what matters. That means conversations with her are never boring. You could be talking about lucid dreaming and the Akashic records one minute, and then comparing God to a game developer the next—and it makes sense. She communicates with precision or not at all. Duality isn’t a mask—it’s balance. She can shift from laughter to insight in a second, and neither are fake.

Living with anxiety isn’t just “nervousness.” It’s waking up to the sound of imaginary alarms. It’s getting through moments when something as small as a phone call feels too overwhelming and difficult for her. ADHD doesn’t make her scattered—it makes her wired for rapid connections, especially when she’s passionate.

She’s neurodivergent which means the way she thinks and feels is sharp, fast, and layered. Autism doesn’t make her cold—it makes her precise. She's not trying to be hard to read—she just wants to be read correctly. She doesn't process the world like everyone else, and honestly, that's part of what makes her worth knowing.

She was deeply wounded by those who should have cared for her. She’s endured the heartbreak of her child's death. She’s suffered the pain of a failed relationship. Yet, despite it all, she continues to show up. That says more than any profile or personality quiz ever could. So if someone asks me again what kind of person she is, I’d tell them: She’s one of a kind. And she doesn’t need saving. She just deserves to be met.

And what would a good match look like for her? Someone emotionally mature—someone who listens as much as they speak. Someone who understands that when she steps away, it’s not about them—it’s just something she needs to do, not a sign of something wrong.. Someone who doesn’t flinch at complexity or nuance, but leans into it. A person who has done their own work—who isn’t perfect, but is self-aware enough to own their flaws and honest enough to communicate them.

They should be steady, not controlling. Curious, not indifferent. Faithful in their own way—whether in belief or commitment. They need to value depth—she’s driven by a need to truly understand things, not just skim the surface. They should be prepared that she learns and reconciles thoughts by asking questions. They need to be comfortable with intensity, because she feels everything. And they should never expect her to be someone she’s not, because the version of her that’s real is more than enough.

She needs someone who understands and can offer reassurance when she’s feeling anxious and vulnerable. Reassurance helps settle intrusive thoughts—it’s not an indication that the other person has done something wrong. At times, she simply needs comfort and emotional support; it’s not about you, it’s about compassion and understanding the dynamics of her mental health.

She’s not waiting to be rescued or fixed.

But she is open to someone who fits—a presence that feels like home, not pressure. Someone whose absence would be felt not because she needs them to survive, but because with them, the world feels more complete. Just someone who’s strong enough to stand beside her—and wise enough not to take her for granted.

Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come."